Anyone put any unusual requests in your invites?

Fancy dress? Wear something red? 60s?

You've basically recounted 3 of the last 4 housewarming parties I've been invited to ?

I would be mortified if a guest had to decline an invite because they caouldn't afford to dress as per the bride's dress code. Surely people are more important than the clothes on their back.

I know some posters are having a bit of fun with this thread and I don't blame them. But the scary thing is, I think a handful are totally serious about dictating to their friends and family. I'm pretty old (48) and been to lots of weddings and not once has a invite told me what to wear or even hinted. I can only assume that this is the norm and hope it stays that way.

We have a now elderly family friend who has been invited to most family weddings for 50 years. Quite honestly she dresses like a bag lady and always has. Does it stop her getting an invite? NO! Does anyone say anything and make her feel bad? NO!

I've just read the whole thread. Funyjameso I want some of what you've had. Song lyrics?! Also I have decided the sticky out tongue smiley makes me ?. Permission to slap me if I ever use it. Its worse than lol.

OP, good job you haven't got goth friends like mine. ?

OP, good job you haven't got goth friends like mine. ?

You obviously don't get invited to posh City weddings!

Seriously?

If I received an Invite that told me not to wear black I'd ignore it. I'd wear whatever I felt most comfortable in and if it happened to be black then so be it. If on the day the bride cared so badly that she'd approach me about it I'd tell her she had her priorities in the wrong place.

These people are your GUESTS, not your employees.

Oh I've missed these threads, it's been a while.

I have nothing useful to add other than Mummy Pink wore black and she looked fab! I would comply to the request but would be pretty pissed off, especially if I had already bought my outfit..

I wore a black wedding dress.

I was mourning the loss of my single life.

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Did any guest that wore cream/white get mistaken for the bride?

With friends/family like this who needs enemy's? If asking guests to avoid wearing a certain colour is such a big ask, lets hope nobody gets sick and asks for a kidney or something coz that really would be taking the p!ss.

Guests? Oh no no no. Couldn't risk being up-staged on my big day.

I had no guests.?

See, I'd give my kidney willingly, but would I want to change the outfit I'd planned because you didn't like the colour? Er, no thanks.

A friend of mine has a big bird costume, Ive asked her to wear it to the wedding but she has refused.

Do you think I should now shun her as she isn't following my requested dess code...

The outfit...

Lol, Funkyjameseo , fair play the kIdney comment made laugh out loud. Too true.

You lot honestly think that if a friend or relative rang me to say, ask, explain or whatever that they honestly couldnt afford it because they are skint that I would mind or that it would be a problem ... Are you serious? I wouldnt mind that at all. Its the people who have said that they would do the opposite on purpose and out of plain spite who would annoy me. If they call themselves friends, can you imagine them being an enemy ... Uuhrrggg, makes me sudder at how nasty some people could consider being for no reason. Also I havent put it in the invite as a dress code, but as a request. Doesn't mean that they "have" to follow it, although I would prefer it if they did.

Nothing wrong with black wedding dresses or BM dresses. One of my mates got married in a Scarlett red dress and had black BMs, nothing wrong with it. A matter of personal choice. They all looked stunning. I considered a red, blue or purple dress myself )

I can't afford the expense of what it is going to cost me to go to a friend's wedding in April as they haven't booked locally, so it's going to cost me travel, hotel, present, outfit and drinks. You don't see me getting my knickers in a twist and saying how inconsiderate or rude they didn't think of their guests. If that's where they want their big day, then so be it. I'll make it work because they matter to me. It's costing them a fortune so it is the least I can do and if the bride wants me to wear pink with yellow spots, then I will go out of my way to help her have the day she wants with no added stress or antagonism, because I am a good friend like that )

Blimey what would you all say if I told you that my venue has no rooms for anyone to stay in either ... And that it was never an important thing to consider for me when I chose my venue ..... I'm awful aren't I )

Wow, long thread! That's ten minutes I'll never get back!

IMO I would wear the suggested attire on the day, but grumble about it constantly beforehand. I don't agree with telling people what to wear, I believe people need to feel comfortable and confident in order to enjoy themselves. Which is why my bridesmaids will also be choosing their own dresses.

I can understand why you might advise a guest on what to wear IF they asked, in a manner of "well, I know the girls from uni are all wearing maxi dresses, and such and such is wearing a cardigan..." etc etc, so that they could make an informed decision if they wanted to. But I certainly wouldn't specify it in my invitations.

What an interesting thread!

I remember years ago Mel B stipulating that everyone had to wear black and white to her wedding, but she's a celebrity so she can get away with it!!

Actually, let's get this into perspective:

Asking people to wear fancy dress for a birthday or party, for no other reason than that's what you want (which costs money, is extremely time consuming and a total pain in the arse, plus it makes you feel totally stupid and self conscious) = totally acceptable

Asking people to refrain from wearing one colour for a wedding = bang out of order

Also, many brides expect their friends to go abroad for their hen do and have bridal showers (I went abroad for a friends before and it cost me the best part of £600-£700 quid), I haven't done any of that!

Really, still don't see a request to avoid wearing black as an issue in any shape or form.

Everyone on Hitched is very honest, that's what makes this place so useful.

You asked a question and you'll get their honest answer. It may not be what you wanted/expected but it is the opinion you asked for.

I'm having a black and cream theme. We did consider a black tie dress code but felt it was rude and expensive to ask people. People can wear want they want. As long as I'm a mrs at the end of the day I don't care!

True, fair comment ladies, I did ask )

A few months before my brother's wedding (before the invitations were sent out we were talking to my brother and sister-in-law and she mentioned something about not wanting anyone else to wear purple at her wedding other than the bridesmaids. Pretty much everything in my wardrobe is some kind of purple. I had decided to make a dress to wear for the wedding and was half way through making it, it was lilac and silver (Her bridesmaid dresses were cadburys purple). I told her this and she didn't seem impressed. When the invitations came out there was no mention of outfit colours, it took me a long time to make that dress and I wouldn't have changed it if there ahd been.

I have worn black to a wedding before but I was only invited to the evening reception and I knew the bride loved all things sparkly and this was the sparkliest dress I could find.

Several people at my wedding had some part of their outfit as black, i didn't care. One of my friends even wore an ivory coloured dress, but it was short and nothing like a wedding dress. I didn't even notice until my sister pointed it out and then I didn't care.

This. Or a fascinator, which obviously as I work in the city and I'm in my 30s I can afford. I just choose not to as I don't like them.