Anyone put any unusual requests in your invites?

Option1- Put 'no black' on your invites-id think that a good amount of people will comment (probably behind ur back) and be miffed about being told what they can and cant wear...

Option2- Dont put this on your invites - every1 wears what they like and feel comfortable in = happy guests.....?

The response on this thread shows that your in a minority of thinking its a good idea so is it really worth pi$$ing off even 1 of your guests on ur wedding day?

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I'm a registrar and once had a couple in giving notice and the bride asked me to colour co-ordinate with the wedding colours.

Needless to say I refused.

If a bride asked me as a guest to not wear a Particular colour which meant I had to buy a new outfit which I couldn't afford I would have to decline the invite. I would then be very upset for quite some time that the bride thought less about me that she did about a colour.

Anyone who doesn't wear a hat or fascinator to my wedding will be escorted off the premises by security.

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Goodness me, that's unreal.

The registrar at my best friend's wedding wore sage green. I was a BM...also in sage green. Pure coincidence though!

Classy, lol.

Exactly this.

Oh and my BM's are also in black and Kharv your dress is gorgeous.

* only after they have given me their wedding present.

That's the way it should be funkyjames.

I think everyone has completely missed my point here. I couldn't care less if people came to my wedding wearing their bikinis (although in March they might be a bit cold...) I certainly wont be asking people to wear or not wear something as I'm only having the actual wedding for OH, having been married in the past, and really don't care what my guests wear. Left to me it would be me, him and a beach because at the end of the day that's all that matters to me. What I was saying is that I have a lot of respect for my friends and would try my level best to comply with what they wanted on their one and only (hopefully) wedding day. I definitely wouldn't go against what they had asked on purpose to prove a point!! Nowhere in this thread have I called people childlike or told anyone they were wrong for having an opinion, unlike a lot of people. And considering we don't actually know each other I find it very presumptuous that you assumed that because I defended the OP I had my 'priorities wrong'. I simply want my friends and family to share our day, and if that means they wear their pj's then so be it!!

I'm really hoping some of the hitchers on here are joking!

The thing with the "no black" rule is what exactly does that mean? I have worn a black and white dress to a wedding, and also a green and black one. I wouldn't wear either of them to funerals, but reading "no black" would make me uncomfortable about wearing either of my two favourite dresses.

Plus, why can't ladies wear pretty/elegant black dresses but men can wear black suits? No actual logic there - as CB says, dresses can be more expensive than suits. The last wedding I went to, my outfit cost about double what H's suit cost!

Some people don't suit hats/fascinators. Fact. Saying "Hats welcome" would probably encourage me to wear one though. But they're not cheap either. My last fascinator cost £30 and was the only one that matching my peach dress; and my Mum's hat cost just under £90 (and that was a cheap one in the shop!)

It's all about how you word things IMO. Demanding things will only get some guests commenting negatively, even if they decide to comply. But some people don't seem to be grasping that!

Surely people can tell that James is being sarcastic..?!

Haha! This truly is amazing.

Since that post what makes you think that people haven't 'got' the sarcasm. Although I would say it was more tongue-in-cheek than sarcastic.

Good thinking batman!

If it bothered someone THAT much to not have black in their wedding then thru gritted teeth id buy a new outfit BUT for someone that takes a 9-10 in shoes then trying to be '' bright and colourful'' cos ud need everything to match it goes thru the window.. i had several people in black for my wedding and didn't bother me at all.. i've been to several wedding wearing or accessorising in black

Hello Hypnopoison, maybe you could phase it differently?

Dress code: Bright and Happy colours as it would give our wedding a wonderful festive summer theme

Dress code: Summer spring colours?

Dress code: We invite you to join in the wedding's colour patel by wearing cheerful colours although not compulsory

Dress code: Wedding of colours

Although on the day you will look so beautiful everyone will be looking at you and your groom it won't matter what your guests are wearing, you will be so happy everything will look perfect you will just see everyone happy faces and won't even remember what your family and friends were wearing, the day will go so fast. x x x

Hi!

I think this thread has been a bloody good read to destress after my long day, but alot of people are on there high horses, and really throwing this out of perspective (right word?)

If i was invited to a wedding that had a request to not wear black then I wouldnt wear black. End of. I would not find it rude or cheeky or whatever and can understand how some people may find it funeral esq. I'm getting married soon and am asking people to travel a bit further than they have before (30 mins) and I know that everyone important to me will do it. I also think though that on the day you may not notice what any of your guests are wearing but you will on the photos after.

Just throwing a spanner in the works and proving that not all us hitchers are over opionated.

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Well that passed half an hour and entertained me when I couldn't sleep.

I wouldnt tell guests what they can and cant wear, personally I dont really care and in the grand scheme of things it wont really matter. You will still be married, still be husband and wife. The whole point of the day.

I dont agree with people asking for money, gifts or honeymoon vouchers either. Hate getting an invite with the cheesy poems. Mkaes me cringe.

Like everything though, everyone has their own opinion, no one is right or wrong.

Just enjoy your wedding!!

* only after they have given me their wedding present.

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Ok, to put a constructive slant on it, last time I was a bridesmaid I wore stunning black satin tailored Coast dress and me and the other BM looked fab. I have since worn that dress to another 4 weddings and teamed it coloured accessories and have always received many compliments about my outfit. As an upcoming bride, I will only be pi$$ed off if someone turns up in a white/ivory maxi dress as I think they look wedding dresses and I think that is just plain rude. But then listening to the OM's on here, I probably won't even notice what my guests are wearing until i get the photographs!

If you have asked people not to wear black then ok, that's up to you, but to repeat what a few other hitchers have already said, you will probably pi$$ some of your guests off doing this - and is it really that much of a faux pas? In this day and age I would say no.

Hahahaha!!!!!

Opinionated.... who.... us??? How very dare you! ?

? that is exactly what you have been - whether the opinion is the same as the OP or not it is still an opinion. For what it is worth, I would not ask my guests to wear or not wear anything special or different. I want them to be comfortable whether it be in formal or casual clothes.

How can you be "over"-opinionated? Isn't it a binary thing?

Everyone is allowed an opinion, until it upsets someone.

See, that is what I was going to ask, as in my understanding of the word, you're either opinionated or you ain't. However, gemgem said she was saying it to throw a spanner in the works, so I decided just to laugh instead.

? This is amazing, by giving your opinion, you have proved that 'us hitchers' are in fact opinionated. (I thought that was the point of hitched to be honest. But hey that's just my opinion) As for over opinionated... I guess the definition of that must be, disagreeing with the original opinion

The word "opinion" is making my eyes go funny. Anyone else?

It doesn't look like it's spelled correctly any more.

It wasn't originally. It hurts my head every time it's quoted!

I think we should replace it with another word, like cabbage. Just to mix things up a bit.