10 things we dont know about you....

WJS, you are sooper dooper mrs, I love you lots and just wish I could see you more. ?

1. H and I are both rubbish with money. We earn a decent amount of it but never have any, mainly because we spent so much of it before we started earning it and are still paying it all off - and will be for some time.

2. I am a little unstable - I have the tendency to 'flip' over really silly things, like rampaging around collecting all of H's ironed, un-ironed, almost dry and dirty shirts (in other words every single shirt he owns) and putting them in the bath and turning the shower on, all because he wouldn't take me to the station one morning meaning I was going to be late for a meeting.

3. I have a deep desire to be, and for everything to be, perfect but in reality it's rarely the case.

4. I'm a rubbish friend, I never call anyone and always forget to email, even though I love my friends a lot.

5. I hate butterflies, they are creatures of the devil. Dirty, nasty little things.

6. I stalked a cheesy pop star for several years in my early teens, and in an attempt to recapture my youth did it all again a few years ago, even appearing on his TV show as his “Number 1 fan“ despite the producers promising not to call me that ? Yes it was very sad but my friend ended up with a job with him so at least some good came from it and we had a lot of fun.

7. I passed my driving test in 2002, I managed to do 3 x 5 minute drives within the first 9 months, crying throughout the last one, and I haven't driven since and don't think I ever will. Even thinking about driving makes me want to cry and my hands go cold. I thought I was a freak but reading this thread has made me see it's not so uncommon.

8. I often stay up until silly hours doing things like cleaning the washing machine and the oven. Again, I think this also relates to no.3. In my head I want to be the perfect wife / domestic goddess but in reality I'm not really made that way hence why we've spent 5 weeks sleeping on a mattress with our old and new bed in the loft as we can't be bothered to finish decorating the bedroom.

9. I read the online Daily Mail everyday, it’s utter trash but has the best celeb gossip.

10. I almost always write my posts in Word first to make sure I don't make any spelling mistakes.

Im glad im not the only one who thinks this! ?

Me too! ?

Yaaay! Feel much better knowing I'm not alone in this (and the butterfly thing Liz!)

Lili, you have to think of another one. We already knew number 2 ?

Fab thread

1. i regret not working at my alevels, i could do so much more than i do if id concentrated

2. i keep forgetting things, words etc all the time it drives me nuts

. 3. i dont know my dad, i know who he is but dont know him, i have never met him or spoken to him.

4. i danced until i was 17 and wish i could have done something with it.

5. i auditioned for deal or no deal but didnt get past the 1st round sniff.

6. i enjoy squeezing my h's spots, it drives him nuts but he has the best ingrown hairs

7. my h is the only man ive had sex with

8. i regret 7. although i love h i sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with another man.

9. i want another baby but h doesnt so am trying to reconcile myself to this. its not easy

10. i held the record for hurdling at my high school unbroken for 3 years, i was fast! (but drove my coach nuts cos i cant run in rythmn- it makes me slower) i mss running and wish id taken it further, i can barely run to the end of the road now lol.

Lili! ? Even knowing about the screwdriver incident your number 2 shocks me. If my H did that to me I'd leave him. What did your H do?

1. I worry constantly about upsetting / offending people, making a mistake, what people think of me, I worry about everything. In fact although people joke that they worry if they have nothing to worry about I really do. i worry that I have missed something or that something serious is about to happen that I will soon be worried about. I have had CBT for this.

2. I am terrified of flying.

3. I have a phobia of the dentist.

4. I hate my wedding photos so much I have never ordered them.

5. I love reading and will stay up all night to finish a book.

6. I love my children so much it hurts but worry I am a crap mother and they would be better off without me because I might damage them in some way (by not preparing them for life properly).

7. My job is something being something I always wanted to be and I love it.

8. I drink far too much coffee.

9. I am fiercely loyal torwards my colleagues and friends.

10. I can't lie convincingly.

These are really, really interesting ?

Mine are:

1. I met my H at an Iron Maiden Fan Club convention
2. I pick my nose surruptiously whilst driving (eugh ?)
3. I used to run an online spanking parlour
4. I really enjoy sewing, knitting, cooking, baking, crafting and anything creative
5. I used to work on The Cook Report
6. Because of a birth trauma, I now have three flaps ?
7. For the first time in my life, I actually like myself. It's taken a couple of years of work, mainly through self help books and positive affirmations. I now actually need to lose a lot of weight, but I don't want to now, because I don't want to change myself and risk not liking myself again ?? Does that sound arrogant? ?
8. I love driving and will happily drive anywhere.
9. I get very excited by buttons, ribbons and fabric.
10. I love my kids, but often hanker after the life I might have had had I remained childless. Then I feel guilty.

Lili, I am shocked!

Slimzoe, I thought I remembered you posting about a previous affair? I will delete this so please don't quote.

These are so interesting. I'm amazed at some of the things people feel.

1. I really wish we could move back home. I miss my parents and my friends and get very jealous and upset when I hear they have met up.

2. I have just qualified as a barrister but am currently thinking that this was a mistake as I can't see me ever succeeding. It cost us a lot of money and debt to get me here and I have panic attacks and an almost constant sick feeling that it will never pay off. I also worry that have got here by fluke and it will all be discovered one day.

3. I think a well known and liked hitcher doesn't like me. I can pin point the moment this happened. I really want them to like me.

4. I love my son to more than I can imagine but when pregnant really thought he was a girl. I'm jealous when friends have girls and secretly hope that family members who are expecting have boys.

5. I miss my mum so much and wish I could just meet her for lunch or pop round for a cuppa.

6. I used to do judo.

7. There is something major going on with my brother at the moment and it's tearing my mum apart. I hate him for being in this situation and for upsetting my mum so much.

8. I'm glad the woman who caused my dad's accident 2 years died. I felt so much hate and anger towards her and I hate how she has changed my dad's life forever. He's pretty much fine but struggling a lot in some respects. Then I wonder how I can feel like this as I am not usually a vindictive person.

9. I really really want to win a small amount on the lottery to allow us to pay off our debts and move home.

10. I sometimes wonder if I met my husband too young. I met him at 17. I do enjoy my life and love him and my son more than anyone in the world, but I wonder if missed out and should have met hm later. I'm so lucky to be with him. He's happy for his life to be mapped out on my career dreams (and then I feel guilty because of number 2)

I did doughnut but never went that far. well remembered.

I've enjoyed reading through all of these and realising that everyone has issues and quirls and a lot of us share the same ones.

1. H and I have complete opposite tastes in music, he is into metal and I love pop and I can't help dancing around him singing along to Girls Aloud knowing it is his idea of hell hehe

2. I am registered partially sighted and although most of the time I try not to let it bother me I am wishing someone finds a miracle way to cure blindness.

3. I hated my childhood and had a horribly abusive father. I am 26 and I still can't say no to him when he wants to meet up, though all the way going to meet him I have often wished he would get hit by a bus or some other horrible accident on the way.

4. I have no particular talent for anything and go through phases of trying everyone elses talent to see if I can find one or atleast find a hobby.

5. I find it very hard to say no to anyone when they ask for help and very often feel that this is something that people take advatage of, especially in work situations.

6. I love my mum but I can't spend more than an hour or so with her as I really don't like her at times. I also resent her for staying with my father for so long but I can never feel like I can say anythng to her.

7. I am terrified of getting old and fear I will old and alone.

8. I have a phobia of hairdressers and only go if I really need too. Thankfullly I have thick strong hair and don't get too many split ends so I can cope with a haircut once in a blue moon.

9. I suffered on and off with depression when growing up and after a couple of years found the best cure was putting music on full blast and dancing around like a loon until I collapse from tiredness. i still do this a lot now and this is probably the reason I love pop music so much.

10. i am so lazy and put everything off especially if it appears that it will be hard.

1- I spent the afternoon with Take That the week before their first album came out...

2- ... and turned down going for a curry with them

3- My mum was on a TV sex show

4- I was on This Morning in the 90s

5- I'm fairly sure my father will kill himself one day

6- I've come to terms with 6 as know nothing will stop him if he gets to that point, but am scared that he'll persuade my mother to as well

7- My temper scares me

8- I so wish I hadn't had dropped out of university, I regret it pretty much every day (along wth no 2!)

9- I worry I'll never find another job because people can tell that I'm actually crap. I hate being unemployed so much, this wasn't meant to happen

10- Right now I could cheerfully slap my sister, even though she's going through an utter nightmare. I need to be more supportive of her and am trying but am so, so angry at her.

Ooo this is quite fun:

1. Most of the crown part of my hair is grey, and has been since I was 18
2. I was moved up a year in school when I was 7 years old
3. I only talk to my eldest sister because she is related to me (otherwise I wouldn't bother giving her the time of day)
4. My happiest childhood memories were spent with my grandad
5. I love knitting
6. I once lived with two fire fighters
7. I cry at the news all the time
8. I have had plastic surgery (although I'm not telling where ?)
9. I have been engaged more than once
10. Secretly, I hate that women have to work and would rather stay at home cleaning the house and meeting friends for lunch?

1. I love my dog beyond all reason and I have to prevent myself from thinking about anything bad happening to her. I also make almost all decisions based around how she might be affected.

2. I am not in the least bit embarrassed or sorry for #1.

3. I can get all my toes from my left foot into my mouth, but not the right.

4. I slept around quite a bit in my early twenties and I am glad I did.

5. I think I have an addiction to shopping - I feel a definite high when I have bought something and start to feel low if I haven't been shopping in a while.

6. I almost never buy any items of clothing that are black - I gravitate towards colors and then have trouble finding anything in my wardrobe to match.

7. I moved to the US when I was 24 and have stayed here ever since. I find it hard to relate to my friends back home who still live in the same town we all grew up in.

8. I don't think I want children, ever and it makes me sad.

9. I have the ability to get hopelessly lost, I can't read maps and I even struggle to use a GPS. The thought of being lost makes me panic.

10. I get starstruck when I see a celebrity. I KNOW they're still people but I go all stupid and freeze.

My anon name. You will soon realise why!

1. I had a 2 year affair before I got married. I was very much in love but he would not commit. So I decided to jump in feet first and give marriage a chance.

2. I last had sex with the other guy exactly 20 weeks before my wedding day.

3. My husband does not know that on more than one occassion, I made enquiries about how much money I would lose if I cancelled the wedding. He had no money, I paid for it all, as well as all our bills. The reason he had no money (drugs and debt and his behaviour towards me because of them) was the root cause of my behaviour.

4. I reported a family member for serious benefit fraud, this caused major problems within the family

5. I have shoplifted in the past. I had no need to as I earned well but I liked the buzz

6. My Mum is very ill and I get very frustrated with it and sometimes I am horrid to her, even though I love her more than anything in the world.

7. I hate how I look and wonder why my husband is with me

8. I also feel guilty every day about what I did (see 1-3) and I dream about the other guy at least once each week.

9. There is mental illness in my family, and alcoholism, and I feel this is where I get some of my traits from

10. I wonder about my own mental health but I come accross as respectable, together, trustworthy, hard working, ell educated, boring, goody goody, and sane(!) to everyone I know. They absolutely would not believe any of the things I've done.

Wow, this has been really fascinating, i've read all 15 pages!

My ten is quite dull really:

1. I have an unusual tattoo on my shoulder and I don't regret it - although it's probably a little silly looking now
2. I came top of my class in year 12 and got into a very popular course at uni - which i subsequently flunked in my 3rd year. I went back part-time and scraped together enough points to pass - just.
3. The reason I flunked was indirectly caused by meeting up with 'internet weirdies' and I this makes me a bit wary of meeting people 'off the net.
4. I am very easily influenced/led astray by others - see above.
5. I looove to dance and am sad that i haven't been out dancing for ages.
6. I like sniffing my hubby's armpits. (He smells lovely!)
7. As someone else said, I am convinced I will win the lottery one day, but probably not until I am much much older
8. I can't believe how lucky I am to be healthy, happy and married to my wonderful H. I keep thinking that perhaps it's all a dream...
9. I've shagged someone who reckons they used to date Catherine Zeta Jones many years ago...
10. I just found out that my great-uncle was once Minister for Health in Trinidad and Tobago. So i didn't even know that about me!

My 10

1. I am about to be married for the 3rd time.

2. I love my daughter to bits but really wish her natuaral father was not her father.

3. I have had 11 miscarriages and didn't tell my ex about 3 of them.

4. I was really unhappy at school and bullied, I now do not find it easy to make friends.

5. I looked at the last statements from people who have been executed in Texas America far too regularly.

6. 99% of my friends are on (or at least met on) the internet (again relates to number 4).

7. I like my own comapny and do not mind if I do not speak to another person for days.

8. I spend far too much money and owe my parents a lot of money (this stems from having an ex husband who did not help with mortgage/bills/food etc)

9. I do not eat vegetables or fruit (except peas)

10. I do not feel I am intersting in the slightest, I understand why many people do not want to talk to me.

This has become quite deep and confessiony, my 10 things seem really lame now!

Just thought of two more

11. I am unreasonably excited about just purchasing a showerproof clock radio...

12. l spend far too much time on here and find the lives and times of the Hitched community absolutely fascinating and wonderful.

1. My husband has put on quite a bit of weight and I don't really find him as attractive as I used to.

2. I have also put on a lot of weight as it has seriously affected my self-confidence but not enough to actually DO anything about it.

3. I feel very hurt about being made redundant. I know it was a business decision blah blah blah but my bosses promised me so much while I was on maternity leave and not only did they not deliver, they made me redundant as well. I feel stupid for believing them.

4. While I am desperately excited about getting my new job, I am scared to death that they will realise I am actually quite stupid and don't know much technically.

5. I am petrified to be leaving my daughter to start work again. Since I got the new job I have been waking in a cold sweat with the worry of leaving her.

6. I love my own company and would happily spend days on my own.Since having a baby the one thing I really miss is time on my own to just do nothing.

7. I often wonder how things would be different if I got one grade higher on my Chem A level and did my medicine degree.

8. I have weird waking dreams about being a firefighter and saving a baby from a burning building.

9. I am a complete control freak when it comes to money and hate that H can move things around in and out of our joint account.

10. I spend too much time on hitched and would probably be a better wife and mother if I didn't.

1) I really thought that my dad didn't love me and only realised he did on my wedding day when he burst into tears doing his Father of the Bride speech.

2) I once snogged my H's best friend (before I started going out with my H) and I didn't think that his girlfriend knew about it until last weekend when she said she knew about my 'loose lips'. I feel pretty rubbish about it as she insinuated I was a slapper, which couldn't be further from the truth, (see 4).

3) I don't think my H knows about the above as he was away at University when it happened.

4) I have only ever slept with two people; my H and my first love.

5) I have a phobia of fish, specifically sting rays. I once had to be escorted from a sea life centre as I freaked out.

6) My best friend may be moving to another country and i'll miss her so much. I'm trying to be supportive but I don't want her to go.

7) I really don't know what I want to do career wise. I have worked for a small business since I graduated six years ago and I feel trapped and I worry that i've wasted the past six years.

8) I am fat and really fed up of it.

9) I can tie a knot in a cherry stalk with my tongue.

10) I don't know how to swear or post smilies on Hitched.

Oh, my top 10, I think. I have really sruggled with these

1. Like Hyacinth I am turning into a complete snob, I am also not embarrassed nor ashamed about this. I will though, and have taken any job, but I am really looking forward to retiring.
2. I'm starting to realise how different my life is to the rest of my family (in that H and I don't live together, our first commitment is to our careers, and have separate social lives a lot of the time) and I get really annoyed at how narrow minded my family is towards my lifestyle and the inferred comments
3. I dont remember a time that either of my parents have ever told me they love me, I don't recall telling them I love them either, but I know they do. Despite the above my parents are really caring and have helped us in many ways, practically and emotionally. Dad has been helping us renovate our house and H is going there after his surgery, it's just a word
4. I really dislike my MIL and the way she treats my H, especially compared to his younger brother. There's lots of elements to this, but it's been compounded by the fact that she was uncontactable for the first 24hrs H was in hospital, and yet tries to play the all caring earth mother type
5. Despite being career focussed, what I would like to do is give everything up for 10months and be selfish and tour the world, not necessarily with my H. I know I'll never do this, as I'd worry for the impact on my career, and I'm far too sensible and think too much just to drop everything
6.. I read once that the average life exptancy for someone with H's condition was 36, 6 years from now. I haven't told him this.
7. I once had sex in a box at white heart lane
8. I have irrational hatred for lots of people
9. I am possibly the most intollerant person in the world, ever, which is strange given the nature of my work (involves behaviour training and research). My old job once got me to present to pre driver training to 16 year olds, they never asked again!
10. Despite 7 I wish I was more confident as a teenager/early 20 something in my looks, and had significantly more meaningless sex

Sorry, changed it a bit as it turned a bit woe is me

This has been such interesting reading. Hitched is such a fantastic place.

1. I know of more than one hitcher I recognise from RL and wonder if they recognise me

2. I crave acceptance. I want everyone to like me and do not take criticism well and take it and other rudeness to heart and get upset by it.

3. Since I was a young child I've felt fat and can't ever remember feeling slim or normal. I remember being weighed at primary school and being 1lb heavier than my friend and feeling devastated by it. Any time Isee a photo with me in it I find myself just looking at me to see how fat I looked that day

4. I hated my first proper job. I was treated terribly and made do some horrible things and it has put me off my career path as I just don't feel cut out for it, but still feel sad at the thought that I'm not good enough

5. I went through some pretty tough times in my late teens which I think has impacted on me more than people realise and often wish I'd been able to seak to someone "proper" about it

6. [not that big a surprise] I love shoes. I am really particular about what ones I love and lots of people have told me I should open my own little shoe boutique as I have good shoe taste

7. I am my parents only biological child but have 3 siblings. When my parents started fostering I think it was a bigger thing to me than most people realised and having it acknowledged by my dad during his wedding speech really touched me

8. I worry about everything and am very self conconcious then get paranoid about stuff and worry more

9. I have very few friends left for numerous reasons including being crap at keeping in touch and enjoying spending most of my time with H. I also get on better with men and most of the friends I see regularly are actually H's and not mine

10. I suck my thumb and even do it in front of people sometimes. I used to be really ashamed on if especially as a teacher form primary school took a photo of me sleeping sucking my thumb and stuck it up on the blackboard

My 10 seem very dull in comparison to some of the things others have posted. There are many many things I would post and really really want to (kind of like what I imagine confessions would be like) but I'm afraid that there are people here who might know me irl and I'd totally die of embarrasment.

I've enjoyed reading all about everyone and think it's great that some of you are totally pouring your hearts out ?

This must be so cathartic for some, just to let this out.

i could do another 10 if I am honest but that is greedy!