A quick question for the all new brides to be

At the beginning i tried to do everything to please everyone, i have now learnt to say NO its my wedding.

People telling me what to do, people not seeing the vision and poo pooing most things suggested, my bridesmaids all telling me they want different things and thinking I can make it happen...to name but a few.

Still enjoying it though

As we are getting married abroad we are encountering problems with his family, yesterday his dad said something along the lines of why cant you just get married here? its too much hassle and too much expense. Which is lovely (he doesnt want us to get married anyway..its too soon...we have known each other for 15 years haha!)

But I think everyone has problems with family when it comes down to weddings don't they? Its hard trying to please everyone

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Probably the same as everyone above - the main problem I've found is other people! ha ha. Once you get used to ignoring them (in the nicest possible way) then things are a lot less stressful.

Example: We are using our wedding cake as dessert and my mum is having a nervous breakdown that there will not be enough left for people's "supper" later on. Drama!

Definitely other people! our wedding would be so much easier to plan if we didnt have to take into account all the griping and moaning and 'oo, really?' comments that are being thrown at us from every angle.

It's been hard learning how to say 'sorry, no, it's our wedding'.

None so far and I have 10 months to go.

This site helps a lot as I can talk to like minded people without boring my family and friends to death about our wedding, meaning they are still interested and still want to help ha ha.

This is going to bite me on the bum now I've said none!!!!!

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Not having enough money for the things we really want ! Having to go and do it abroad and combine the wedding and honeymoon and not being able to have any guests or the dress I'd really like. You have all these little dreams about what your wedding will be like,and it ends up being completely different. Having said that, it's all about me and OH getting married,which is the most important thing and at least doing it on the cheap means a lot less to organise ...I don't think I could cope with organising a full scale bash! x

Wedding dreams (have had them for two nights in a row now and keep waking up in a cold sweat!) and my sister who is refusing to aknowledge my wedding as she is not a bridesmaid (she got married in secret and used my daughter as a bridesmaid along with a thousand other issues!) so every time she is in the room and it is talked about she actually goes out of her way to change the subject and is refusing to come to my hen weekend, other than that it is all going tickity boo!!

Definitely people and also location! Our families live in various places around southern England & wales, friends at random too including some in Brum / Manchester & we live in Surrey. Plus we have family who live abroad and while we'd love them to be there accept it's not necessarily worth buying flights to the UK so pinning down numbers is also a bit tricky at the moment (just based minimum numbers without them).

So finding a location to suit everyone is impossible so we've done what is good for us with good motorway/train links, reasonable accomodation & we can't do much more!

Definitely people and also location! Our families live in various places around southern England & wales, friends at random too including some in Brum / Manchester & we live in Surrey. Plus we have family who live abroad and while we'd love them to be there accept it's not necessarily worth buying flights to the UK so pinning down numbers is also a bit tricky at the moment (just based minimum numbers without them).

So finding a location to suit everyone is impossible so we've done what is good for us with good motorway/train links, reasonable accomodation & we can't do much more!

If she's being like that, I'd be thankful she isn't going on the Hen Weekend!

I have had a few wedding dreams where my wedding is that day or the next day and nothing is done. I wake up in a massive panic!

As of yet there hasnt been any massive dramas..

Deciding who to invite!!

I originally wanted to invite everyone for the whole day and not bother with eveing guest. This would have been possible if we had gone with another venue. However now we can have 100 for the day, everyone else just the evening. Its hard to decide on who should come for the whole day or not, especially when you start to consider how far they will need to travel.

I've also got a lot of family abroad, and not sure who to invite. There are certain familiy members who will get an invite and I think will come over. Then there are a few close family members who will get invites, but I don't think they will come. But I can't invite everyone (my family is huge!!), but if I knew that someone was coming over to England next summer then of course they would also be invited. I just don't want to offend anyone by inviting one cousin and not another. Family politics!!

To be honest we've been really lucky, had no real problems at all, both sides of the family have been really supportive in what we want, and the two sets of parents have been great financially too. My only major concern now is two of my friends dropping out of my hen weekend leaving the remaining people having to shoulder the cost of their sure of the accommodation, meaning it's no longer an affordable weekend. The fact they won't be there for it has really upset me, but unfortunately I can't change the situation!