A Saturday WWYD - 'Friend' related

For goodness sake! Stop texting and call her.

Oops! She sounds a bit over-sensitive though...

I would go, but just before you set out, send a text saying 'just leaving now, see you in a bit', or something. That gives her a prompt to let you know if she's not planning to turn up.

Or <NickJ> just call her </NickJ>

TBH I cannot be doing with calling her. I reckon it is worth just waiting it out a bit and text her to check we are still on.

She is on the 'To Cull' list for sure (not just this incident but don't want to bore you with the rest)
I haven't got the energy and I just don't need a 'friend' around me who I have to watch everything I say and how I say it.

Yes I should call but I know just how the conversation would go. It's not like she has ever picked up the phone to me in the last year!

Ex

You just said you've been wanting to get together! ?

You ever picked up the phone to her either?

WBGBS! Sorry, but you come across as being about 14 in this post.

To me a a friend is someone you genuinely like and want to spend time with, not refuse to phone just because they haven't phoned you, and are thinking about 'culling'... Either you like her or you don't, surely?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J---aiyznGQ

Totally agree - don't really want to see her and need to cull - so what next...

I have tried the keeping a low profile from her and that has been fine. So Guess it's time for the next step.

Thanks for making me face up to it.

E

Sorry Just had to add that I had written 'A friend I have has / had been wanting to get together'

This certainly wasn't mutual!

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Luthien - this is a keyboard cat friendship fail of epic proportions ?

If there's an atmosphere and you're not that bothered about maintaining the friendship, I really wouldn't bother going.

Speaking from experience, I 'hung onto' a friendship with a girl from work a few years ago, even though she was a pain in the arse and not the kind of friend who actually meant that much. So one day, I bit the bullet and just let her know I thought we had taken different paths and had grown apart. The friendship then ended. I could have ranted for days about how she had let me down etc in the past but I really couldn't be bothered wasting my energy and stooping to that level - I'm better than that.

So whatever you decide, do it because what you want to, not what anyone else might think. Life is far too short to surround yourself with people who either get your back up or don't mean anything to you.

Good luck x

So we spoke - I went.

It was horrendous

Now is the time to call it a day, telling me how awful I am to her etc etc. Whilst I am defending her against all sorts of stuff people int he bar are saying to/about her.

If I am so awful then crack on without me.

Cull initiated!

People in the bar were talking about her and saying stuff to her?? This sounds most odd!!!

I did say it was a hideous night! - Yes a couple of guys came up and spoke to her.

Other people she knew of from the bar were talking to me - for her to overhear when a guy bought her champagne.

Anyway all done and over with now.

It sounds all very school playground to me.

It might well sound School Playground - but that's your opnion to which you are entitled.

As I have already said - the event is done with and there will be no more.

E