Absolutely in shock... ** UPDATE PAGE 7**

Oh I really feel for you. Stay strong, have some hugs ?.

KBS - I am so sorry to hear what has happened, at least he had the decency to tell you the truth instead of stringing you along for longer. I can't begin tro imagine what you must be feeling, but like others have said only you can make the decision as to what happens next. Take your time to think things through - do you have somewhere else either you or he could stay to give you some space for a while?

As for the stupid bint calling you, as hard as it is you have to ignore her, she's obviously annoyed that she has been caught out and needs to blame someone! If she keeps calling, get the police involved.

Remember, we are always here for you to offload.

Jxx

So sorry to hear that KBS. I know nothing that anyone says on here is going to make a jot of difference to how you feel. I hope you have some good friends to look after you.

KBS - I don't know what to say. I'm so so so so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through, but we're all here for you. Look after yourself.

Sam xxxxx

KBS - I'm so sorry to hear all this. Like others have said, I too was hoping it was just some sick joke. I've not posted in a while, but I couldn't read and run. My eyes have welled up reading this. I hope you are strong enough to make the decision what is best for you. Ignore the silly cow, she's retaliating because she has been caught out/dumped.

Take time out, surround yourself in the people you love. They will support you through this and you will come out stronger. I know everything we say will be insignificant, but we are all here for you, any time of day. If you need to cry, cry. Let it all out. You don't deserve this but it will get better. Big hugs and we're all thinking of you xxxx ?

Oh honey can't believe this has happened to you. Don't for a second know how you must be feeling and hope you have someone to help you through this, you know we are all here for you when you need us. Big hugs xxx

I'm so sorry to hear this KBS. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I hope that you can get through this and come out stronger. With or Without your OH.

Take Care. Sending you big internet weirdie hugs! xx

Oh God! KBS I am sooo sorry!!! I never for a minute thought it woudl turn out to be true

I cant even imagine your pain.

*hugs* xxxxx

Hi KBS, I some of this thread yesterday but as I was at work didnt get a chance to comment. I dont like to read an run, but I dont know what to say that will help. Be strong and like a previous poster said, cry, lots if you need to.

KBS I am so sorry to hear this. You must be feeling terrible right now.

Take the time to htink about what you really want. Some relationships can survive things like this and others cant. Its how you deal with it now that makes a difference.

Best of luck to you whatever you decide to do xxxx

KBS I am so sorry to hear your news - you must be devastated - I am thinking of you

Facing the issue head on and trying to deal with it will be the hardest thing you do, but will also help you to come to the decision that is right for you. Stay strong and make sure that you focus on you ...

It may be worth considering relationship counselling - Relate are very good https://www.relate.org.uk/what-we-do/counselling/relationship-counselling

Absolutely gutted for you. Your worth so much more than that and 9 months is a long time to be deceived daily. You can only do what's right for you. Hold your head high darling, they aren't worth the **** on your shoe.xxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear god K, I'm so sorry for you! Its such a hard one but you need to think long and hard about what you want, you have already gone through this before, do you think you could stay with him and learn to forgive him better still trust him in the long run, I can imagine that your world has been turned upside down and I hope that you make the right choice. If it were me, I dont think I could forgive my oh had he done that to me knowing what I had already gone through, and I dont want to rub salt in the wounds but 9 months is a long time.

My thoughts are with you and I hope you can sort this out x

KBS my heart goes out to you, like everyone else I was hoping it would turn out to be a sick joke or a wrong number!!

Like everyone else has said I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling. Heart broken probably doesnt even come close.

But propbably like alot of women here (and men) we do know what you are going through in some way, but I know though what I would do, and thats have nothing more to do with the small minded **** ( I am trying to be a lady here!!)

I will be thinking of you, do let us know how you are when you feel up to it or if you need anything.

But if she calls again get the police involved it is harrassment.

keep your chin up my lovely remember your a strong, beautiful and intelligent woman

xxx

When I first read this post I wanted it to be a wrong number or a disgruntled ex trying to stir things up.

I read a post a little further up about a hitched hunt - and I'm up for it!

I know you will have lots of friends around you, but you are always welcome to talk to me I have a good shoulder - as do a lot of other people on here!

Thinking of you xxx

Hi KBS, So sorry to hear this. There isn't anything I can say to make it better, but I can only repeat what others have said, go and stay with a close friend or family mmber, and think long and hard about what you want. and remember we are all here for you when you need to let off more steam.xxx

KBS my thoughts are with you! Do what ever you need to and what ever decision you decide will be the best one for you! I could not stop thinking about you last night and as soon as I got a chance checked your update this morning! It is devastating finding out something like this as many of us have said but its your choice and only yours how you chose to deal with it.

I hope your ok and I know you dont really know us on here but we are all here for you! Hugs xxxx

I am so sorry hun, nothing anyone can say on here will help you make the best decision for you. Don't think about anyones feelings but your own, it is you that matters.

However, I would also like to dismiss what some people have said about him having the "decency" for confessing. I am sorry but he is not decent at all by any means. He confessed because he was caught - pure and simple, if he was decent this wouldn't have happened in the first place or he would have been decent enough to have finished with you first if he felt the need to cheat.

Can I ask where they met? Do they work together? Even if he changed his number would there be a possibility they could meet regularly? You need to ask yourself these questions in order for you to make a decision and move on in whichever direction you feel best.

By the way - she is a dirty witch who is trying to cling to something - she has probably been dumped by her husband and so she is trying and keep hold of your H2B hence the phone calls, if she can't have him, neither can you.

Take care and hugs xxx

KBS, just wanted to send virtual hugs and hope you take some time out to think about what you want to do to move forward with your life.

As for your mobi number, if you contact your network provider and tell them you are receiving harrassing calls, they will change your number foc, they did that with me once.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

xxx

KBS I am so sorry to read this. ? x

KBS, I am so sorry to hear this, I truly hoped along with everyone else that it was a mix up or lie. I am sure that at the moment you are in absolute pieces and nothing anyone will say will make you feel better, I hope that you have got the support of some friends IRL so that at least you can surround yourself with people that care about you. Everyone who has posted on this thread is here for you, but I understand and respect that you should take some time to get your head together.

I really hope that you have the courage and the strength to make the right decision for your future, whatever that decision is make sure you take the time to ensure it is the right one. In the mean time sending you a hug....?

Is anyone in touch with KBS iRL who can make sure she is ok?

I know she has better things to do right now than update us but I am worried that she is on her own dealing with this.

I would rather sit and have a coffee and a chat with someone i hardly knew than be on my own....it is sometimes better to talk problems over with a stranger cos they dont give you the answers you want to hear....they are honest with you.

Hope KBS you have had some sleep and something to eat.....you need to keep ya strength up hun....we all here for you

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xx

How utterly horrible for you KBS, I don't know what else to say except that we are all thinking of you and when you decide that you need to talk we are all here for you!

Keep your chin up - you are the bigger person here! xxx

I too was thinking about you last night and sincerely hoped it would all be a malicious phone call. I am so sorry to hear this update and the fact the other woman is being totally heartless towards you. Only you can decide what to do but I do wonder if he would have finished it with her if he hadn't got caught. You may have had a lucky escape there is nothing worst than being the last to know especially after you are married, you deserve better you really do x

Hi KBS, nothing I can add to what everyone else is saying. Just that I hope you're reading all these messages and realising how much support you have from us here.

and its awful and horrible and painful right now, but whatever you and your guy decide to do, hopefully your pain will ease.

more hugs coming your way and I'll keep you n my thoughts xxxxxxxxxx

Oh hun, so sorry to hear this... I was hoping it was just a wrong number. No words can help but thinking of u, can't imagine how you must feel, big virtual hug x

Oh My K!

I'm so sorry for you, my heart sank when i got to the updated page!

I do hope you are ok! i cant imagine what must be going through your mind right now

Big Hugs!! XxxxX

I am so so sorry for you. I did read yesterday but I can not post at home. Thinking of you xxxxxxxxx

I can't believe the B**** called you!! I would be fuming!! Some relationships can survive an affair but I think because the woman said they had great sex that it was that, just sex. They probably won't want to set up home or anything because it wasn't more than that. And if he's done that then he probably will do it again. Women normally have emotions involved during an affair, men just want to have sex! In my opinion anyhow.

I don't know. Just my thoughts. Really feel for you KBS. Just don't let the bu**er drag you down!! Like someone said earlier, you are a BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT WOMAN and you DO NOT DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT! Hugs and stuff xxx

Hi girls, thank you all for your lovely messages of support, I really do appreciate each and every one of them.

I have been to the Drs this morning as I havent slept/ate etc.. still not eaten or slept but trying to sort my head out. Had a long walk and then went and did a bit of retail therapy too..

Cried my eyes out in a shop to which the shop assistants made me a cup of coffee, I felt like a right prat!!

OH is still wanting me to consider trying to make this work and my heart says yes as I love him SO very much still, time will tell I guess.

I have taken the Drs suggestions though and have contacted Relate so that we can both talk it through to either be able to break up amicably and maturely, or indeed, try to make this work. Again, this is going to take a lot of thought, on my side, and I have a lot of decisions to make over the next few days/weeks.

Big Hugs - I am glad you are giving yourself the time to sort things out in your own head, and Relate will definitely help you. Remeber, whatever happens you WILL be fine and happy in the future.

x