Acceptable BM Present?

Why do you get BMs a gift? Because they're your buddies and even they don't run their bottoms off attending to you, they've probably taken more than their fair share of moaning, inane chatter and shopping.

What do you get BMs as a gift? Neither me nor my BMs are the 'sentimental keepsake' types so I made a goody bag containing a Jo Malone bubble bath, a Juicy Tubes lip gloss, a bottle of pink Prosecco and some chocolates.

I think the gift you suggest sounds perfect. I had 4 bridesmaids and appreciate it costs a small fortune. I think it's about the token of a gift, rather than the gift itself.

I think the gift you suggest sounds perfect. I had 4 bridesmaids and appreciate it costs a small fortune. I think it's about the token of a gift, rather than the gift itself.

I have been friends with all my BMs (bar OH's sister and my sister obviously!) for many years so one of the gifts I am planning on giving them will be a photoframe/ collage with a few pictures of us together over the years as part of their gift.

The other part will probably be something like bath set/jewellery but trying to keep it reasonably priced..

I think what you've said sounds lovely. My BMs didn't have a great deal to do running up to the wedding, and they knew it was very much on a budget but I got them an engraved glass each with a mini of their favourite drink, and a pretty cushion.

I think it's more about the thought than anything else, rather than how much they have/haven't done, or what you've spent on them already - as long as they've done their best to help you, whether you asked for a lot, or not, then it's nice to show them you've appreciated them.

Sounds good to me. I'd love to get something like that.

Mine got their wedding jewellery,a bottle if mini champagne, a mirror and a card. I wrote soppy stuff in the card And I think tbh they appreciated that more than everything else!

Small bridesmaid got a box of jellybeans instead of wine though

Oh yeah, this. Both my Mum, a friend and my new SIL were crying at dinner!

apparently mummy mini still reads the soppy card I gave her the night before the wedding and sheds a little tear. Exeter brownie points for me.

If someone got miffed at me getting them a present when there was no need to I'd be miffed at them! I'd never even heard of getting the wedding party until OH was best man recently. He got a nice watch but the groom (our best man) knows we are on a tight budget and has repeatedly told us we don't need to get anything for him.

I wasn't planning to get my bms anything but they can keep their shoes and dresses if they want. I've just got the flowergirl a cheap bracelet because I thought it would be nice for her to have something to keep.

I think it's just nice to say thank you for being there for you on your special day.

I think what you have suggested sounds lovely and I would be more than happy to recieve it. ?

That sounds like a nice gift, it is quite different to what normally gets given, and I would be thrilled with it!

Like Mini said, you could just give them a card if you didn't want to have to spend anything else just for the sake of it. I spent a fortune on presents for my BM's on top of everything else I had shelled out for them and think it was a waste.

A card would be sufficient.

Perfectly acceptable, i would love that!

my bridesmaids arent doing much, i hope to find jobs for them on the day and im sure they will be very helpful. My maid of honor is however doing lots, she is over this weekend for DIY wedding fun and organising my hen do. They are keeping their Karen millen dresses, shoes, Thomas Sabo Jewelery to be given on the morning of the wedding, and Bridesmaid dressing gowns. I dont need any those items after the wedding, none of them have the same size feet as me HAHA and its a bother to resell them. Plus i kinda feel mean asking for anything back as they were brought for them I do think its a lot but they have all earnt it by being my nearest and dearest.

Cards with soppy stuff in definitely mean more.......which leads me on to a confession.....when I was CBM for my best mate she bought us all beautiful Tiffany necklaces & gave us all a handwritten card. I ended up a drunken BM and when I went back to the table my present bag had gone. It turns out because it was so light & had tissue paper on top (I put it all back in the bag to keep it safe...) the venue threw it out thinking it was rubbish. I never got it back. To say I was devastated is an understatement. The necklace I could and did replace but the card is priceless. All i know is it made me cry, I still can't remember the exact words.

So while your bridesmaids will undoubtedly love any gift - I'm sure having you as a best friend & a few words of love would mean so much more. There's no price on friendship! (sorry for the cheesefest!)

Ps I should add, she still doesn't know this! Please keep my secret safe!!

Is it just me or would forum etiquette dictate that a poster returns to at least acknowledge those who have taken time to reply to a question?

That is the general consensus Footlong...

?

Maybe she's too busy on Mumdrum now

Give her a chance, she only posted less than 24 hours ago. ?

You do know it's possible to view someone's activity....

Not at all. And I'm certainly not expecting a personal thank you. But an occasional pop back to a question thread with a generic "thanks all" is usually considered polite. Of course, on occasion, people forget what threads they've started and "thanks" go missing. Nobody would notice or care about isolated incidents.

WOAH! Chill out! Granted it was probably unnecessary for Cilla and FTLOMB to say what they did. However, it is a lot of people's pet peeve that OPs don't go back and say thank you for people responding! It's definitely one of mine and I always make sure to go back and say thanks.

Rather than get defensive, just say thanks and move on!

Then what is the point of a discussion forum? Just putting that out there...

No I didn't miss the post. I just chose not to comment on it.

The bit in bold is probably the reason why people tend to jump on your back.

But you seem to have an ever increasing list of people who you think are trying to start arguments, when others may see it as simply responding with their opinion.

People take the time to come on here and offer you advice on all the questions you ask so its only common courtesy that you come back and acknowledge that. I don't just mean you personally either, I mean in general.

If I thought they'd be sticking it in a cupboard somewhere they'd be getting nothing! that's really a bit ungrateful. something meaningful wins any day though. I got mine slightly more expensive and beautiful jewellery so that it was a real keepsake that wouldn't end up binned.

This.

I have just read the whole thread - I don't think you can say cilla was picking on you by saying maybe you were busy on mumdrum? if anything she was defending your lack of return! the harshest sounding person in this thread appears to be you. and yes I've read your other thread.

I'd say the only one picking an argument is you? The only post you've responded to is the one (that everyone agrees with) asking why youve not come back.