Am I being an over-sensitive idiot?

I think they were probably just having a good night and wanting to be pests - H2B probably got lost in the loo for half an hour at 1am so they thought it would be funny to say they'd lost him! As you say, boys will be boys - they are never going to admit to a stag night being just a bit alright, they've got to make out like it was the craziest night ever.

It would bother me if they didn't have a good explanation for losing my H2B for eight hours, because I want to be sure he's safe. Beyond that, I think you're ok to be annnoyed with the best man for being a bit daft, but it doesn't sound like malicious intent to me.

Yes, I would be mad, mainly cause my OH can get in a pickle whilst very, very drunk. Not in a cheating on me way but more in a pool of vomit ( has happened three times in 6 years) or being provoked by others and getting too lairy, or getting so drunk he cannot remember what has happened for a couple of hours, he has never taken it too far and got into trouble whilst we have been together but my main fear for the stag is we wag's will get a phone call to come bail them out of a police cell! I have visions of the hangover running through my mind! Due to this we are having a WAG's sleepover.

so whilst I'm sure all was well and the best man is being a twonk thinking he is funny and trying to live out their own version of the hangover, I think you have a right to be fumming also.

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Do you think they were trying to make you Worry about what, his safety or something else?

I'd be mad too and am fully expecting similar to happen when my H2B is on his stag because he is the idiot who has pulled these kind of "pranks" on other people's. I'm always the first one to chew him up and spit him out for it. Stags seem to like getting a reaction for their ridiculous antics. Don't give them one! Stew quietly and act like it hasn't bothered you in the slightest xxxx

Ooooh, I'd be mad. More about making me worry than anything else, to be fair, but I'd be fuming nonetheless.

Even if the best man was having a laugh and just trying to rile you up, a (probably rather drunk) missing bloke is not funny. At all. And I'd make that very, very clear.

Maybe I'm a stick-in-the-mud (although I don't think I am...) but, yeah, I'd be pissed right off.

I'd be really mad but I am very sensitive, OH knows that when he's out I need a message to let me know he's safe, he often forgets and loses track of time and doesn't understand why I am still sat up waiting for him to come home at 3am, I can't sleep unless I know he's okay. So what your best man did would really piss me off. I'm sure it was meant as a bit of fun and not malicious, but when people are drunk they often don't realise the effect that these things have on people, especially stressed out brides. I would wait until OHs hangover has worn off and explain to him that I was really worried and see if he offers a decent explanation, I wouldn't even bother asking the best man.

I wouldn't care. I'd send a text back saying 'no problem as long as you find him in time to get him to the altar'.

But then again his friends are the biggest wind up merchants going, and usually when they say they're at the airport about to get on a plane to god knows where they're dreaming!

Stay calm and laugh it off

I wouldn't worry about it too much personally. Especially if you believe the best man is doing it to wind you up. No need to dwell on it to much. Let the boys be boys and leave them to it I always get lost from my friends when I'm out as I like to meet new people and end up spending most of the night with them, maybe your OH did the same. Especially if it was obvious it was his stag do, I can imagine lots of people will be congratulating him and what not

This, don't let the comment under your skin. Your OH is probably unaware and you can always mention it as a funny when hangovers etc have disappeared.

I can sympathise, I am a worrier too with regards to OH being safe (I won't go into why but it is not any fault of his). I would be a bit freaked out at that message and so pissed off at his mate. Not only because they lost him but because he told you and he knew you couldn't do anything but worry, with the added thing of him trying to put ideas into your head.

Exactly this,

I would also suggest this.

For some reason, men on stags revert to teen stupidity, and want to be anmoying...

I would be upset, but i'd be calm about it and wait til he ws home safe and sound, as he will be soon, and then just say it upset you that they had to try and wind you up

x

Once when my OH was on someone else's stag in Budapest, he called me at 3am to tell me that he had no idea where any of the others were, but that there were girls on the stage, covered in gold paint. Then he hung up. Idiot boy.

Don't let it bother you, 'm sure your OH will be furious they told you this! Silly boys.

xxx

I'd also be really peed off, not for one minute thinking there may be cheating going off, but because a) the best man would know full well it would wind me up and worry me and b)because I was once party to a stag 'going missing..... He was bound naked to a sign post on a B road for a while! So yeah, I would be worried for OHs wellbeing but would also be telling myself boys will be boys and there are bound to be wind ups, tricks and drunken idiocy on a stag do. Try to let it wash over you..... As long as you OH comes back intact (maybe minus a bit of facial or body hair but hey, that can grow back lol!) then that's all that matters. :0)

I'd be annoyed too!!! But it's only one weekend and they're just being silly boys and it'll seem like such a little thing once he's back home with you. If the best man was trying to wind you up, the best thing you can do is show him it didn't bother you! Don't think you're being over sensitive though

I do think it's a tad oversensitive. More than that, though, if it were me in that situation even the idea of cheating wouldn't occur to me. I know you say you would never think that, but there's at least some part of you that thought about it. Is there a reason why?