Anyone help with a Woe Is Me chat?

You arent over reacting I promise.

Are you afraid to leave him?

Where are you? Are you anywhere near either of us?

You have nothing to say sorry for, you need help and you have gone to the place where you thought you might get some.

I'm on the West Coast of Scotland. If I leave him, I lose everything, my only hope is that he makes good on his promise of being fed up with me and leaves me. He won't though. I'm screwed.

Fucking leave him!

Meep - he wont make rent. So wha? You'll be so far away by that point.

He wont have money for food? Bollox. Someone will feed him - let his pretty women friends have the privlidge and let them see what he's really like.

Why do you care for this man? This man who makes you feel so small,who makes your life seem not worth living? Why?!

I'd like to shake you. But instead I'm going to offer you refuge. Please, if you do one thing for yourself, buy a bloody plane ticket.

You are not the woman he's told you you are. You are not a bad person. Your life is worth living.

Damn sorry Im the other end of the country or I would offer some solace here (unless you want to really get away)

What will you loose if you leave? The house? you can rent somewhere else, possessions? they can be replaced.

What you will loose if you stay is yourself ?

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

I hate myself for it but I can't bring myself to leave him without financial provision. I know, I'm an idiot. The only thing I can think is because I have been with him since I was a child really, 18, and I am now 30 and I have a misplaced loyalty.

Eric, my mobile is lying in the other room or else I would have txtd you right away, edit your number out, too many internet weirdies, I have saved it if you don't mind? Even if it was a silly, friend text? My culled friend is just realising that I've culled her and it is horrible

Thanks Zoe & Eric, you have both been a wonderful help, I need to pull myseld together and not make things worse with youngling (although the wearing off of his beer goggles probably prevents it being an option).

I'l do my best and not go any further than with morbid thoughts, I doubt I would even have the balls.

Meep - ring this number ****.

I've already rang it and spoke to a lovely lady - she's waiting for your call.

Please ring the number meep.

That was lovely of you Eric

Meep, you can leave him and still give him some money if it makes you feel better, a set amount a month just to start with until you know he is getting benefits then cull.

Please take Erics advice and talk to the lady. If not stay here and talk to us as I am worried about you x

Oh and by the way I bet you are lovely looking and could have had the youngling even if he wasnt drunk ? (not that you should at the moment)

I can't Eric, I'll come over as a whining brat with nothing wrong, he is always Mr Perfect, I can never explain it and when i try, I am always wrong.

Thank you so much, you and Zoe have helped me more than any 'real' people. If it weren't for Hitched, I don't know where I would go half the time. I'm not a prolific poster (this is my Chrsitmas name so worse than usual) but the idea that there is always someone if I need them is waht makes Hitched the great place it always has been. Do I sound like an advert now? I have had nearly 3 bottles of wine but don't feel a dent but I might be coming across else-wise. Might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb, 1 bottle, 4 bottles.............

It's been all awkward in work and I've only had to look in the bathroom mirror to know I am kidding myself to think it could have gone further. I used to be okay, 3 stones ago but ah well, what does it matter in the long run?

FWIW I 'know' you if that makes sense, ie you arent invisible on hitched.

You will not not not ever sound like a whining brat with nothing wrong , he is NOT mr perfect, infact far from it. Abuse is not just physical. The lady on the phone is there to listen just like we have, nothing you have said is whining at all. Tell her what you have told us if you arent sure what else to say. If you cant pick up the phone just carry on typing Im here for as long as you need

Meep I can guarentee that I am more overweight than you and I have a H and have had a larger than average number of conquests, size has nothing to do with it, trust me I'm a fatty

Meep if you leave him you wont lose everything. If you leave him you'll gain everything.

The ladys name is Kate, she's from Derry originally, she's waiting foryou to ring her.

**** - ring it now

Meep - stop making excuses pet.

You will not be laughed at, you will not be considered whiney - nobody will judge. Ring Kate, or ring me. Ring one of us please. I will not sleep tonight until you do.

Really? You know me on Hitched? You might be mixing me up with AnnaBanana, she has a similar profile pic? I didn't think anyone knew me!

I just can't say it outloud, I always talk it down, I'm too proud? I can't even get drunk tonight I am so pathetic I've even tred to cut my left arm, I am so pathetic (can't do it right though)!! I am a 30 year old married woman FFS - why can't I stop acting/wishing I was 18?

Please sleep - the phone is too beepy for me to use just now. I will text you though tomorrow after I top my phone up if ok? I can say it all here but in conversation I always defend him and don't get anywhere. He was right, all his eggs are in my basket, he's just lucky that I'll do my best not to drop them.

No not confusing you with annabanana so ner ? Im a saddo and am here more than 6 hours a day so recognise most IDs. But I do 'know' you.

I can understand not being able to say it outloud, do try to call the lady, but I will be here to talk to if you can't (promise)

You are wishing you were 18 as I think that might be the last time you were truly happy, its not stupid, its normal when you have a partner that is treating you like a door mat.

Meep, go to the telephone, dial ****, and just talk.

You'll be happier by sunrise. Please honey, ring the number.

Meep, I'm going to badger you until you do it - you can reverse the charges

Gosh, I've always felt invisible on here! I'm on constantly and have been about for years but only seem to have 700 posts - I lurk a lot

Thanks for tonight - you're getting me to the end of it

I can't, all the phones are out in the hall and he'll hear me, I can't, sorry.

Talking won't work, I'll talk her into thinking he is Jesus and I'm Mary Magdalene (saint and whore if you've not gone to RC primary lol).

No one is truly invisible, someone here always notices even if you dont think that they have. I often feel like no one notices me on here either and I have over 15,000 posts!

If you want to talk again after today just shout (im on msn if you have that, if you do I'll post my ID)

Remember the number for a time when you can talk x

The Vatican decided the MM wasn't a bad girl a few years ago. ?

He wont hear you, will you just dial the friggin number!!

He's asleep, comatose, disinterested. Ring the woman - its a freephone number anyway, but if you ring from a mobile you can reverse the charges.

I rang the number in August and I cant tell you..........it will change your life.

You're right, without **** posts you feel a bit insignificant! I think I have MSN, is that hotmail? If so, I'm on

Msn is the hotmail messenger thing, do you have that or just the email? Ive added you to my contacts anyway, mine is

ETA eric feel free to add me also if you have msn

Good to know about MM, maybe hope for me yet!

I'll try to phone now but I don't know what to say, it'll seem so petty. Please don't think I'm being Mrs Attention Seeking I just am paralysed with, I dunno, uncertainty.

Good on ya! Ring the number **** ?

I can't get the phone. I'm too scared to try harder. I'm sorry.

Keep trying Meep. But if you really can't keep the number for later.

Meep - it may seem like a really difficult thing to do, but really the hardest thing is actually lifting the receiver and punching the buttons. Nothing more difficult than that.

All you need to do is lift the receiver, press the buttons and then do nothing - you dont even need to speak. Honestly, you can remain silent for the whole duration.

Try it. ****