Are you a 'nagger' ?

If you're a nag then I definitely am.

I don't feel bad about it one bit though. As you say, if I don't, things don't get done.

I think you are i'm afraid - I do the same, and I definately am!

No blackboard here, but I do have to write H a list if things HAVE to get done - I've now learnt, if they aren't important, just don't mention it - much easier life for both of us ?.

I'm always nagging. If I didn't nothing would get done.

I tested him on Tuesday. We have loads of odd jobs that need finishing around the house before baby comes so we have a minuscule number of weeks. He was supposed to be getting on with them on Tuesday so I left him alone whilst I was at work and didn't text him to say 'have you done so and so'.

He did absolutely nothing, just played his x box all day.

I'm a nagger too, otherwise H doesn't get round to things, and will spend any spare time playing on the ps3, if he has a day off I txt him a reminder of things I do. Generally I try to do most things myself but if its something I can't then I nag him!

My husband says if he has said he'll do it, he'll do it - so I can stop reminding him every six months.

My H moans at me for nagging, but I tell him that if he did things that I asked within a couple days of asking then I wouldnt need to ask again! I call it 'repetitive asking' rather than nagging. Men!

I try not to nag too much but as others have said if I don't mention things they'll never get done. If he does something without me specifically asking, like emptying the dishwasher, then he gets upset if I don't congratulate him on it...

I'm a nag. Things wouldn't get done otherwise. My H doesn't reeeally mind, he knows he needs clear, simple instructions! I can't go out and say "please tidy the flat", I have to say "please do the filing, then pick up the clothes from the floor, then do a delicates wash, then hang it out..." etc!

I am being helpful, not nagging ?

I think that I am sometimes one, however, I get bored with listening to myself sometimes and reign it in lol.

Things need to be mentioned x

Im not sure if i am or not, probably to an extent but not every day!!

I'm a total nag! BUt then OH tells me off if I don't nag him, if he has forgotten to do something then he'll say 'oh well you didn't remind me'!!!

This!

If I don't tell him directly what to do, he will forget, then point out that he can't read my mind. I do worry about 'nagging' but he always tells me that he sees it as helping him do what needs to be done rather than being bossy.

H is definitely the nagger in our marriage! I'm the one who doesn't do things.

According to my H I am a naggy old b1nt (for the record I am 26, therefore not old). Unfortunately for him, I have to be otherwise he would sit and play with his Xbox/laptop/balls until the cows came home. I had to ask him 5 times between Monday and this morning to change the bin, which is the one job he has to do. This morning he said 'but it's not even bin day today, it's Tuesday'. Bin day is today, but if he thought it was Tuesday why didnt he change the bin when I first asked?! Divvy.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one whos OH wouldn't do anything unless I 'nag' him. I don't think I nag, but he says I do. If he asks me to do something, I do it. If I ask him to do something, he will do it after I have nagged him the 5th time (if I'm lucky)

This.

I don't like to nag. But if I don't, he doesn't do stuff!

Oh and also, I thought this was a VERY rude title when I first saw it!!

I am queen of nagging, but then H won't do a single thing off his own back so it's a case of having too!

Why are so many men like this?!

My dad is exactly the same - he will do things but only if left with a clear list of jobs.

What really annoys me about H is he'll have thing that need to be done, but instead of doing them he'll start a massive (completely un-urgent) job and spend all day on it!

e.g. We had his sister coming to stay a few weeks ago so I asked him to hoover and change the spare room beds. I got home from work and he'd spent the whole day cleaning the kitchen cupboards and chucking out cups etc and hadn't even started hoovering or changing beds.

It's lovely to have clean cupboards but they really could have waited until the week after.

My dad is the opposite. In fact he does the majority of the housework, he even sews, and don't get me started on polishing our school shoes when we were kids. He was in the armed forces which has everything to do with it and my mam has always been happy to let him carry on. She'll do the odd thing but I would say dad does 70% of the housework and DIY jobs. He's a saint my dad.

My H does this!

All I have asked him to do today while he is on an off day is wash the dishes. I guarantee that when I get home he will have tidied the spare room, dusted, hoovered (all great) but the stinky dishes will still be on the side! And then he'lll expect praise for what he has done!

I used to nag my H, but he soon clicked that if he does stuff the first time I ask, he doesn't get nagged.

I do have to give him exact instructions, as he isn't capable of seeing the things that need to be done.

My Dad on the otherhand, is the one who tells my Mum what needs to be done. His ex gf was totally OCD with housework, and it rubbed off on him.

I don't know but my Dad's the same! But with Dad, even with a clear list of jobs, he still drags his feet.

We've been waiting since beginning of September for Dad to move our washing machine out of the kitchen and into the utility room and plumb it in - we've bought a dishwasher on gumtree and it's going in the space where the washer is. Both need moving and plumbing in, but Dad's dragging his feet even though he says it's a "simple enough job" for him to do although it does require a bit of fiddling as he needs to pull mains water from our bathroom for the washer so we can't do it ourselves.

If I ask my H to do the washing up on his day off, I guarantee that he'll have only just started it when I walk in the door...

I nag.. but I tell him how much I hate having to. It makes no difference!

Lots of things don't get done if I don't nag, and if he complains I nag too much now I just point out he got nearly £1000 back for PPI after I nagged him incessantly for a week to all the bank about it *smug*

Mine too! Or he'll pick me up and say 'I'll do the dishes when we get in!' just when I want to start cooking! Not sure what he does for the 8 hours I'm out of the house, he doesnt even have x box etc like other blokes! Just a guitar!

Talking of Dads, mine is actually very helpful but he does everything so slowly that my Mum gets peed of and banishes him to the garden. Take ironing for example, something that would take my Mum and hour or so took Dad 5hours.

Thanks for your replies, glad I'm not the only one! I have to say, he's not all bad at all, just procrastinates a fair bit. He is very busy and works so hard, that's why I think I'll try not to nag so much. Like was said, I'll test him a bit and let him the benefit of the doubt...see how long I last ?