Are you spending Christmas together?

I think your first everything together is special so I can understand the way your thinking, but maybe he see's it as his last one to spend with just his family before you get married. Xmas for me will be spent with my man, my little man and my grandparents. Don't think I could get rid of my man for a Christmas even if I tried lol

Its hard for us as the OH parents are both remarried so our plan of action is as follows;

1. chrismas eve with my parents and stay over there
2. have breakfast with them, then on to his dads to do presents there
3. off to leeds to spend the rest of the day with his mum/stepdad/sister/bil and beautiful nephew

then its back to work for me the day after

weve decided next year dinner at my mums then the year after that hopefully at ours as who knows by then we might have a wee addition to the family

We are not spending Christmas together as such. We will wake up together. I will go to my Parents, he will go to his. He is then driving over to ours in the evening and we are spending Boxing day with my family.

We are going to New York for NYE, as are his parents, so we are spending NYE with them. It's worked out quite well actually.

We're not sure how we're doing this christmas now but we're definitely splitting our time between our two families. We're instead hoping to spend our first christmas as a married couple alone together.

Yep. My Mum is coming to our house for dinner, but we're not seeing his parents.

Actually, i've never met them, they don't know we're married, and they don't know they have a grandson either...

Makes things easy for us, ?

We have spent every Christmas since we have been together, together. We alternate whose parents we have actual christmas dinner with each year and then the other set we go to in the evening and we always have new years eve just the two of us, meal, champagne, cosy fire etc.

Because of our jobs we get three weeks off over Christmas... so we are going to Durham [where my OH comes from] for week 11th til 18th, then we're coming home and spending run up to christmas at ours just two of us...

On the day itself we are having christmas dinner at my parents (mum says it's pointless us cooking when she's already cooking for 4 and 2 more makes no difference!!) but otherwise we'll mainly spend the christmas period together

I spend Christmas with my dad every year as my mum passed away a few years ago and he doesn't have anyone else so couldn't bear the thought of him being alone. OH says he wouldn't not want to spend Christmas day with me, so by default spends it with my dad too!

Since me and OH have lived together, his parents have alternated spending Christmas at ours and at OH's sisters. This year it is our turn to have them.

Then boxing day we spend at OH's sisters as they have young children so that's always nice.

We've been together for 4 Christmas days and the last one was the first one we spent all day together. Before we'd spend the morning together and he'd go off to his family meal and I'd do the same, then we'd meet up at night. Last year we had Christmas dinner with his family, so this year we're having it with mine and then seeing his family in the evening.

Christmas Eve night (we work all day, boo!) and Boxing Day are spent with friends at the pub!

We spend every single yr and have done for the last 6 with my family there are 19 of us for xmas dinner and my oh keeps saying we should spend it on our own with the kids but honestly we would be miserable knowing everyone else was having so much fun together, for us it would be like every other sunday just with presents and every boxing day we go to oh's sister for another big gathering of his side 15 of us, i always enjoy that more because i get to drink too my grandmother has the kids after the present opening and tea have been done and i feel like we get time to ourselves after a very children orientated christmas x

Thanks girls! Our families live too far apart to share the day. I want the champagne and Christmas cuddles so much this year!! I know I can wait until next year-my first as a Mrs-but I'm impatient! Anyhow. I think I've given him a bit of a hard time this eve about oops) it but I would just love if he spent it with me!! Also, because of my circumstances this year with my family it would be extra special for him to be there!

Love hearing all the different plans!

We are doing christmas eve and dinner at my parents then over to his mums, then possibly back to my mums for evening celebrations then to see his dad some point before new year! lol crazy!

Ebony - Im being a complete nosey parker? but why dont his parents know your married or about their grandson?... hope your not related or something!! haa haa

x

Unfortunatly we wont be spending christmas dinner together because due to unfortunate circumstances were currently living with OH parents and id rather have christmas at my parents christmas will be as follows, christmas eve buffet with my parents and my brothers OH's, then home to have more drink with his parents, then christmas morning with his parents, then i go to my parents and we go and see my grandad, then my OH comes to my parents for pressies and drinks, then he goes home for meal, and then i go back to his parents after christmas dinner with my family for more drinking and food... haha sounds quite fussy and difficult but its just how it is, we will have our own home next year and we'd said we werent prepared to leave the house all day haha, so everyone will be coming to visit us and then my family will be staying for dinner

taa daa thats my christmas in a nut shell!

haha x

Gosh, I cant imagine not spending xmas with my family! We come as a pair, like it or lump it! Lol

This year the plan is to spend Xmas eve afternoon with my brother and his family, then over to OHs parents village for a couple of drinks with them till 9pm ish, then I have to do a trip round to each of our nieces and nephews as they will be in bed and Santa has to leave a little note on their stockings, and that is down to me to arrange!

Then, Xmas morning we will get up together, have breakfast and champagne and presents, then head over to my FBILs for about 9am, have an hour there, then over to my brothers for about 10.30, stay there till 12 then to my sisters for lunch with my sister, BIL, 3 nieces, mum, dad, 2 aunts, 1 uncle, 1 cousin, 1 great cousin and us 2! We will do more presents, eat, then sleep and get tipsy and then walk home when we are knackered!!!

We spent Christmas apart at our respective families' houses the first two years we were together, when we were still living separately and I was at uni.

Since moving in together 2 years ago we have spent it together and I intend this to continue! The first year we drove up to his parents' house on Christmas eve, spent Christmas Day there and then went to my parents' house for Boxing Day. Last year, I was working nights through Christmas, so he did Christmas dinner for me in our flat, then went to his parents' on Boxing Day and I joined him later that week once my nights had finished, before moving onto my parents' for new year.

This year is our first Christmas as a married couple but we still both wanted time with our families, so we'll go to my parents for Christmas and then his for New Year. I imagine that until we have children it'll be some variation on this arrangement each time.

I will be at work all day so we won't be, but if I wasn't then we would spend the day together. But as it is, a few hours in the morning and evening will have to do. Hopefully it will be different next year!!

We won't be,as OH will be on nights and I will be on days. I have no idea if we'll see each other or if I'll have chance to go to Mum's or if I'll have to be by myself.

In fact, we haven't had any Christmases together in the last 5 years. Next year OH is due to be off, so hopefully I will be too and we can host Christmas in our new house

This will be the first xmas we actually spend together as last year I was working in Kuwait and couldn't get over. This year I'm hoping will be great as OH got his tourist visa through a few weeks ago so we're off to stay with my parents for Xmas. It'll be his first time in the UK and poor boy - first time to meet my family and a lot of my friends.

We won't be either, as H is away (and will have been for 4 months by then ?). If I am lucky I may have a very very early call on Xmas morning (was 4am last time).

It's our first one as a married couple so i'd have love to spend it together, but it's not possible. That said, his being away means we'll have enough cash to spend Xmas & New year 2012 in New York, so I am looking on the bright side.

So - try not to give your H2b a hard time about it. In my experience those romantic notions of Xmas rarely come true anyway. Last year was mine and H's first Xmas spent together (he was away for 2009 too) and we thought it was going to be the best thing ever, sadly, we got a bad cold, his parents central heating broke, the grandkids got us up at 5am, it snowed and we had looooads of driving to do... Bad, but very funny times!

Hmm we've pretty much always spent Christmas together ever since we were an offical couple (we were friends for about 4 yrs before that), but I'm often working over Christmas, so it's a matter of snatching time together. In fact this is the first time in 4yrs that I'm not working. Last year, for example, he spent the day with his parents, but then met me at my aunt's house where all my family spend the evening, since I didn't finish work until 7pm. This year will be amazing - it's our first Christmas living together in a house we just bought together. I requested annual leave back in March, so I finish late on 23rd, and am not back in until 7pm on Boxing Day (yayyy) when H2b leaves for Scotland anyway (he's an instructor for Scouts mountaineering courses in hs spare time). My parents are staying with us too, and I think my aunt and uncle will come over to us in the evening this year

We've already had the discussion about my family / his family / our house, and I've said that since I am an only child and he has 2 brothers (albeit with partners with their families too), I am reluctant not to involve my parents at all, since I'm the only child they even have the possibility of seeing. Whether that means people come to us, or we are at my parents' place, I don't mind, but I'm not spending it 3hrs away from my family if there's even the possibility I don't have to work!

this!! i find it odd that if your engaged to be married, you split up on christmas day to spend with each family!?!? maybe just me :/

We will be together at ours in the morning, then head to my mum and dads for lunch and rest of the day ( last year his mum and dad came to us so eveyr year wel alternate!) then boxing day with his parentals!

We have been together 11 years and always spent christmas together. Even when he was in Manchester and me in South Yorks he travelled down on train. I spent new year with his family. We have kids now so not really bothered about new year and prefer to spend it with the kids at home. We are spending christmas day with OH's family and boxing day with mine this year xx

This will be our first Christmas together and I am so excited about it! My family live in the Isle of Man and C's live in Ireland, so in the past we have gone our seperate ways on Christmas eve and got back together on the 27th. I put my foot down this year and we are spending it with my folks on the agreement that we will spend it with his next year.

This will be our first year as hubby and wife and will be together. We will wake up at home and then go to OH mums for presents and pick her up and then all down to my parents for the day/nite. It seems more than likely that dad will still be in hospital so we will all go up to see him in the afternoon/evening. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Im starting a new job in few weeks in which i will have to work Christmas or new year , but its unknown as to what i will work yet which is unsettling , i would however like to work new year so we can have christmas ...........either way well have our day on a different day if need be as the job comes first , just wish i worked a normal 9-5 sometimes lol x

For the 9 christmases me and oh have been togethher we have had about 2 christmases together, before we lived together we would go for dinner at our own parents and just see each other in the evening, the first 2 years we lived together we has christmas dinner at our own house but had to visit both sets of parents etc, i worked the last 2 christmas days 7am - 730pm and am working the same this year.

next year however we will have our baby, and basically have been told by my dad that we are not to drag the baby out and that everyone should visit us... When dad said this hubby was thrilled but he thinks his parents wont agree to this, but tough

We have never spent Xmas together, but this year we have made sure we do. We are going to his parents for Xmas day and mine for Boxing Day, and will reverse it next year!

I have to say, I had started to go off Xmas (or at least I thought I had) over the last few years, but since deciding to spend it together I couldn't be more excited...which is good, I thought I was becoming a bit of a misery guts about it all!

Our parents only live 10 minutes away from each other, so we've always seen each other for part of Christmas Day, apart from our first one together.

For the past three years, we've done the following:

Spend Christmas Eve at his parents' (even at 34, he wanted to wake up at his parents' house!)

Gone to my parents' for the day

Back to his for the night

Spend Boxing Day at his

Spend Boxing Night at mine

It's been a massive pain as, although they only live 10 minutes apart, it means that one of us (me!) can't drink in the day as we have to drive and, by the time we get to whatever house we're in for the night, we're always too tired to do anything.

This year, we've agreed that we'll spend Christmas Eve at our house then to his parents' for Xmas Day, then mine on Boxing Day.

We awys spend xmas together. OUr first xmas, we went to my parents. Every other year it i just the two of us, in our own home. We visit my parents on Boxing Day and his in Jan at some point (its too expensive to fly over to his parents in December).

I am sooooo jealous of this!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are plans for Christmas are me, oh and son staying at home xmas day, my parents boxing day and his parents day before xmas eve. down to his brothers friday before nye and so our oh parents, nye at my parents again. x

We have always spent ours together except the first one due to him working. We are both close to our families so usually have dinner with one set, then tea/spend the evening with the other. Tbh i would be quote peed off if he didnt want to spend it with me when there are easily compromises like i mentioned to make.

We have been together 7 years and have only spent the first christmas apart. i would spend christmas day with one side of family then boxing day with the other. since we moved in together we have had xmas eve at our house either just the two of us or with friends. this year we are at my family for christmas day and his boxing day. i love doing it this way as we get two christmas days which means two christmas dinners!!