As you are more opinionated on here than BT......AIBU?

Well considering they're not serious enough to be living together thne I understand why you think it's wrong but to be brutally honest it's not really any of your business.

It is absolutely 100% none of your business.

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No I know, thats why I didnt respond when she told me.

As I don't know any of them, or any detail of their lives and intentions to each other, I have no idea. I'm sure the daughter has not been forced to call said person 'Daddy' and if it makes her happy, I think it would be difficult to stop her.

And as everyone else says, it's nothing to do with you really, is it?

I don't see what the problem is to be honest. You said it's a long term relationship. I don't think it necessarily makes them (or any other couple) less committed if they live apart.

Ahh young people these days - they probably listen to Radio 1 and its clouding their judgement ??

sorry...sorry....

and really - i'd stay out of it!

I would think it a bit odd, as if she's trying to undermine the real father (presuming he's still on the scene?). OH's son (10 at the time) once referred to his mum's current partner as 'dad' when speaking to OH, and OH was utterly distraught by that. I do think there need to be clear lines in place otherwise it could really confuse the child - I know you say the child is young, but not how young?

But - as others say, difficult one as really NOYB.

I've got no intention of mentioning it. Sometimes we all have serious discussions together though, about all our relationships and I always keep it zipped when it comes to this. I'll carry on doing that!

I've got no intention of mentioning it. Sometimes we all have serious discussions together though, about all our relationships and I always keep it zipped when it comes to this. I'll carry on doing that!

The child is almost 9 but a v young 9, she already has a Daddy 1 (paternal father), had Daddy 2 (2nd Ex Husband), now on Daddy 3. I feel for her as it seems she just wants to be part of a family, and after 2 years we are all waiting for them to make the next step.

The child decided herself to call him Daddy, i think she really wants to have a Daddy that is around and stays around [:'(]

Presumably she's just got used to calling whoever is currently the adult male in here life "Daddy". Perhaps it's not ideal but I can't see that it's a helll of a lot different from children calling people "auntie" and "uncle" who aren't really.

Anyway, it's SO not your business that you shouldn't be making judgements about it, never mind saying anything to your friend.

I am entitled to my opinion SophieM, and I've already said I've no intention of mentioning it.

I did get your point several replies back,

I didn't make a point several replies back, I was out.

No need to get arsey ?

Berlimey ?

I would keep out of it if I were you.

Actually I hadn't thought about paternal dad in all this - just assumed he wasn't around/interested.

And "I am entitled to my opinion" has to be the lamest excuse for prejudiced/judgemental/just plain wrong thinking there is.

Betcha that's what Nick Griffin says too.

Correct

Sure you are, hun. [fluff]

But just because you can have an opinion doesn't mean your opinion is welcome, valid, correct, or any other positive adjective you care to think of.

You've clearly set this thread up so that all the hard-nosed OTers can agree with you that your friend clearly lacks moral fibre by and is going to mothering hell by having more than one man in her life that has the title Daddy.

You also aren't taking the hint that said hard-nosed OTers aren't taking the bait and aren't all small-minded, loud-mouthed, old fashioned bigots.

We all know the "ideal" family is a stable two-parent family but life sometimes gets in the way and parents have to make the best of the situation they have.

I cant believe no one has yet taken issue with the thread title ?

gee thanks ?

I read it as a compliment.

I read it as a compliment as well - as in will give an honest opinion without fluffing it up.

It was meant as compliment.

I'm not sure what your asking really. Are you being unreasonable in having an opinion? Well no. Though I also fail to see why it would upset you so much.

As for the post title, I think it's more offensive to BTers.

I think the OP and others should look up the definition of the word "opinionated"

Indeed!

https://www.thefreedictionary.com/opinionated

I am ashamed to say I never knew that ? I thought it meant having strong opinions.

I retract my previous post. It's more offensive to OTers ?

You know what's always bothered me about this place, it's how so many hard-nosed, opinionated OTers have exactly the same names and avatars as some of those terminally fluff-brained moral cretins over on babytalk. It does confuse me.

? I was just going to say the same thing. It tickles me that many people seem to think the two boards are magnetic polars which can never be crossed by a human being. And therefore slagging off one on the other is always perfecly acceptable and will never get anyone's back up, oh no.

Actually I'm fine when I'm on BT. It's only when I come over to OT that I become a stubborn and dogmatic harridan.

Actually I'm fine when I'm on BT. It's only when I come over to OT that I become a stubborn and dogmatic harridan.

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No you're not unreasonable in that you have an opinion. But as you've said you're not going to get involved i'm confused about what you're actually asking us to clarify you're being unreasonable about?