Asking for money...

Thats near enough what we put....

“We don’t expect a gift, but should you wish to get us something, we hope you won't mind us asking for money towards an amazing honeymoon with which to start married life”

We just put a naff poem in ours ? (I think H2B found it online somewhere)

We are sending out this invitation


In hope you will join our celebration


If a gift is your intention


May we take this opportunity to mention


We have already got a kettle and toaster


Crockery, dinner mats, and matching coasters. 


So rather than something we have already got


We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot


But most importantly we request


That you come to our wedding as our special guest

I read one somewhere that was something like "presence rather than presents" which sounds nice.

I have done something similar

'we are not having a wedding gift lift, although any presents for the happy couple will be gratefully recieved. The most appreciated gift, however, would be a monetary contribution to help send us on our romantic honeymoon to Rome'

Copy or change it if you like xxx

I am personally in the "don't like money poems" camp...

We wrote (at the very end of all the extra info...) something like this:

"We have already set up a beautiful home together but if you would like to get us a gift, then vouchers towards a honeymoon of a lifetime would be very much appreciated. Gift Vouchers are available from...."

Same boat - don't need "stuff" but cash appreciated for the bigger things we do need to replace in the next few years.

We put the following in small print at the back of the invitation pack so it wasn't too "in yer face".

The biggest and most enjoyable present you could give either of us is your attendance at our special day. However if you would like to contribute to either our deposit for a house or some Argos vouchers to help us furnish it once we get it, we will be delighted to accept your gift.

We would have done the gift list thing but at the time didn't know what house we'd be moving into so we just put

"We are looking forward to setting up our marital home after the wedding, should you wish to give a gift money or gift vouchers would be greatly appreciated"

We didn't specify what vouchers either, thought it would be nice to have a mixture so we're not tied to one shop.

As we are moving abroad, we didn't want to do a giftlist so had the same dilemma about asking for money. Felt we had to suggest money or people would buy presents that would have to be left at my parents for the next 2 years which would be such a shame. So, we came up with this:

We know it is traditional to provide a gift list for a wedding, but with our big move to Dubai, we have chosen not to do this. Your presence is present enough but if you would like to mark the occasion, then contributions to our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated.

We were not keen on the poem ideas either but have received invitations with them in and thought they were nice.

We wrote at the bottom of our information sheet:

"We understand the costs of just attending a wedding are already high and we are so grateful to all of our guests just for making the time and effort to share the day with us. As such we have not registered with any gift listing services.

If you would still like to give a gift, then a contribution to our savings fund would always be appreciated!"

I thought I would revive this thread to see if anyone else has any suggestions as I am just in the process of trying to word our invitations!

Basically we really want money but know some people will still want to get us a gift so we have registered a small list with John Lewis. Any suggestions on how to word this?

We had this dilema a couple of weeks ago and couldn't decide what to do. I don't really like the poems as they are a bit tacky, so we've come up with this....

"We have put a lot of thought into whether to include a gift list with the invitations. We really do not wish to offend anyone by including this and would like to stress that we do not expect presents. However, some people have already asked what we would like and we know others will want to get us some sort of gift, so thought it might be helpful if we gave a few hints! Mostly, we would really love to go away on honeymoon so a few pennies that we could put towards this would be much appreciated. Or, as most of you know, our house needs a bit of work doing to it so vouchers for B&Q or Homebase would also be put to good use. If neither of these take your fancy then surprise us! But, just to reiterate, having everyone together with us to celebrate our wedding means the world to us, and to get a bit cheesy “it is your presence not presents” that we want!"

We're having pocketfold invites and this is being printed on one of the inserts.

I was actually going to start a thread with this today asking for people's opinions, but thought I would do it in reply to you instead!

We have put this:

Please do not feel obliged to buy us a gift. However if you would like to give us something, we would appreciate monetary contributions towards experiences on our Mexican honeymoon!

For 'older' people that ask, such as our grandparents who are more traditional, we will probably just tell them directly we would like a new panset/bed linen whatever. My gran likes to give money but always wants to know exactly what for, so I am not sure she would be a fan of the honeymoon experience idea, I don't think there is a right and a wrong way to ask to be honest. Most people nowadays know that money is more appreciated than unwanted gifts. Some people might turn up their nose at giving us money, and if that's the case then I am sure they would just get us a little something anyway.

We had a line in the invites to something of effect:

While your presence at our wedding is gift enough for us, if you wish to give a gift, vouchers for ***** would be gratefully receieved.

We had this;

We still got some gifts - some people wanted to give us something.

We kept a spreadsheet of who gave what. Once our TOG had some photos online, we asked for a digital copy of one (for our printing) and sent personal thank-you to everyone with a copy of a photo. Those that gave gifts, we explained what we used their gift for.

One of my aunts gave us a financial gift before the wedding, and this allowed us to get a framed photo for signing on the day. This is now sitting proudly in our lounge ?

Exactly this.