Babies.

I already have one. I have endured the "when are you having another one" question for the last 9 years!

Tell me its not as bad as it looks on tele and you sneeze and out they pop!

That's exactly what my labour was like; 2 hours and out she popped. No pain relief and no stitches. And no, I dont have a bucket.

Mr C has been nagging me for years - I am the one with all the excuses "we need to be married first", "we need to buy a bigger house first", "we need to save some more money first"...

He is 32 and doesn't want to be an 'old' dad, plus most of his friends have at least one now. I'm 30, and I'm not sure I will ever be "ready" but I am getting a bit more broody now.

We are hoping to put the flat on the market by the end of the month, once we have bought a house I think we will start trying and saving at the same time - I worked out the difference between my normal salary and what my mat pay would be and to backfill means we need to save lots of pennies!!!

Then it's fingers crossed!

We have one and she is amazing! I progressed as far as I had wanted to with work and we were financially stable enough for me to be a SAHM which I never intended to be until E came along! You're only 27, there's no rush! I fell pregnant at 26 and felt I was too young but it worked out for us. We get asked when we plan number 2 all the time but it doesn't bother me, I just tell them when we are ready! Don't let OBEM put you off. Everyone's experience of childbirth is different.

BAGGY FANNY!!!?

You promised you wouldnt tell anyone! Bi*ch.

ooo lucky you! I had 37 hours and stitches! I don't have a bucket either, it's actually smaller than before thanks to the wonderful Doctor who delivered E ?

My friend had her baby this morning. She was induced a week early cos the baby's heartbeat was a bit off, and she gave birth in 15 minutes!!!!

We're waiting - im 26 and H is 31, he already has 2, think we're gona wait about 2/3 years, maybe even 4...got so much we wanna do and would ideally be in a house first.

This is us too.

Although my excuses were 'when we are married' when that happen it was 'when we get a house' now were in a house i need a new excuse. Im thinking 'when im 30'!

We're both 27, and starting to feel the pressure from relatives, but so far able to resist! My cousin, who got married 4 months before me, has just announced that she is 12 weeks though, so I'm guessing I'll get lots of "Are you going to be next?" questions soon... Ideally I'd like to be able to buy a house before having a baby but I'm not sure that's going to happen in the next couple of years. I don't want to leave it too late though as there's a reasonable chance we may need to try for a while/need fertility assistance. I reckon in a year or two we'll be starting trying.

I've seen enough labours to know roughly what to expect, but I'll be super paranoid because I've seen more go wrong than is really representative of the overall population.

If you're thinking of reasons why not to have a baby then you're probably not ready and you should both be in agreement as to when is a good time to have one. It doesn't matter how old you are though, I was 26 when I planned and had my first child and 30 when I had my second, my friend has just had her first at 34. I'd love more but we can't afford to move.

If i waited until i was ready then i dont think that day would arrive. I dont think ill ever be 'ready' so to speak.

Your right though age doesnt matter.

We pretty much started trying straight after the wedding! One of main motivations for getting married when we did was wanting to start TTC, but wanting to be married first.

Baby is due in July ?

I'm not sure my OH will ever 'be ready'. He does want children but I don't think he will ever turn to me and say, right lets have kids now!! I think we will start trying soon after the wedding, I can't wait to have them!

I'm very broody but with me being in uni I want to finish that first.

OH wants more kids (he has one from his ex) but wants me to finish uni or I'd have one tomorrow

I'm getting the other comments oh you don't want to get pregnant yet, you should wait blah blah blah

Stupid question alert, but one I've been pondering:

Does it really really make that much difference if you don't start trying until your 30s? Would I be making a mistake by waiting?

My only negative on starting in your 30's is what if it takes you years to get pregnant? A friend of mine took 5 years, they were both tested and in full working order but it just wasn't happening for them.

We're aiming for 5 to 10 years time. We will both be only 23 when we get married. Any time after the age of 28/30 we will start thinking about it I think.

We do love kids, and occasionally we both get hit with the broody stick. There was one lovely moment when my cousin's 2 year old daughter asked for cuddles before we put her to bed and I got the privilege of lovely quiet time baby snuggles when she was tired ? ❤️ That made us both want babies there and then.

Other times when they are little sh1ts, or we see parents with their screaming brats out and about, then we are put right off. We're seriously considering a one and only child, for both financial reasons and wanting to be able to give as much love and time as we can. Though we'd maybe consider a second later on I think it would be a very careful decision for us.

Never.

I just dont have a maternal bone in my body.

My stepmum always said this they popped 2 out in her 40's..

Alot of people tell me this too..... " oh you will change your mind"

Maybe I will- no one can predict the future but I can gladly say for now the thought of being pregnant or having a baby disinterests me totally.

I don't have a maternal bone in my body either!

As soon as possible. I am just waiting to get a new job first because I don't fancy tying myself down to this one by having to stay to get mat pay. H is 34 this year and is also worried about being an 'old dad', so doesn't want to wait too long to ttc #1.

I find that question really nosy- MrMini has 2 already so people are always asking "well dont you want your own one?" as if suggesting that the borrowed ones are in some way inferior?!

Mr Moo privately gets upset when people ask him if he 'wants his own children'. It's like their saying that the bond his has with his stepchildren isn't strong enough.

We were pretty much ready after the wedding. 2 years on and it's still not happened... ?

aww Hatrick it will ?

Sorry that was very woe is me wasn't it!! But thanks ?

Happy HatTrick is now back in the building!

Hurrah!

Want to be married, as financially stable as is possble and in a house first (currently in a 1 bed).

Wedding is in 1 year, looking for new jobs now, aiming to move house by our first anniversery if poss. So am looking at starting ttc around 18months after the wedding, if we were to concieve straightaway that would make us around 27 and 33 respectivley.

Fully aware though that it's not so simple as that so am trying not to fixate myself on any deadlines. OH is way more broody than me already though, I think being older he's aware of the time ticking much more and has very specific plans for being able to be very active with the kids.

I'm 30 and Oh is 38 and he is getting stressed saying we must have babies now or we never will. I don't really care if I never have children, I have no broodiness, no desire to have kids at all.

Everyone has always said you want them one day but that day has never happened, the thought of having a child makes me feel a bit sick. I love my life and dont want to change it.

OH's mum has been very mean and pressuring OH to have a child for the last 10 years, she is very good at using guilting him into things. She brings up children EVERY time we see her.