Birthdays - would this upset you?

Too right it would upset me! Your birthday is the only day in the year that's about you and you alone. I always go mad for birthdays more than Christmas.

Pull yourself together Nuts I'm sure if he could have avoided this situation he would have. Take comfort in thinking about a girly night with your BM! I am sure your OH will more than make up for it when he comes home.

No it wouldn't upset me, i'm not too fussed tbh, i think there are more important significant things to stress about. You won't be spending it alone, so that's a comfort and i'm sure he'll make it up to you in one way or another.

It wouldn't upset me at all (I don't think). But I'd probably play on being upset in order to lever a massive present/surprise/dinner from him at a future date.

I'd definitely be a bit upset about it at first, but I think I'd get over it as it can't really be helped. I'd definitely be making plans to to do something with H on another weekend in place of it though! I hope you have a nice girly night in though on your birthday.

Probably not what you want to hear but, no it wouldnt upset me.

I spent my 30th birthday at work and then the evening on my own as my H works until 10.00pm. Didnt bother me in the slightest.

This. I would be slightly disappointed but not upset. Life sometimes gets in the way and as long as he makes it up to you on the Saturday/Sunday with the above options then I wouldn't mind at all.

It wouldn't bother me. I have often had to spend birthdays alone due to H's work, but then again iv never been made a big deal of birthdays. Hope it isn't too bad. Come on Hitched, we'll be your birthdaybuds!

I think as long as I had someone to be with, I wouldn't mind if J couldn't be there on my birthday, but I wouldn't want to spend it alone.

You'll have a great day with your BM, I'm sure of it.

Oh don't worry I didn't post hoping that everyone would agree with me and am not about to flounce because you don't!!!! ?

Just wanted to gauge a bit of an idea of how other people would feel thats all - and maybe get a kick up the bum at the same time!!!

I like the idea of him making it up to me.... and his parents are throwing me a bbq on Monday so tis not all bad, I'm just being knowingly unreasonable *stamps feet*

Well, if flow's cyper hen party was anything to go by, maybe you should have a party here!?

Happy birthday JoJo!!!! Tis my Granny's birthday today too!!!

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Nope. Really wouldn't upset me at all. I'm not much of a birthday person. Some of my old uni housemates used to have "birthday weeks" and make us have a night out in our uni town, then traipse home with them for the weekend to have a night out in their home town. I spent my 21st completely on my own as it was half term during my year abroad and everyone else went home but I stayed. It's just another day for me, but I may well do what FTLOMB said and pretend it bothered me so that I could get something nice another time!

? Mr C would never forget as I bounce around for the week before!! Happy Birthday! ?

He forgot our anniversary once and was mortified!!

I do like birthdays to feel special, when I was at home, we always had birthday banner and balloons... Mr C does not do this (I think I need to have words!)

If he was called away and couldn't help it, I would find other people to entertain me!

My husband and children usually go back to work/school either on my birthday or just before after the Christmas holidays so I'm used to spending the day without them. Next year will be different as they're all off and I'll have a newborn baby, if they don't decide to steal my thunder by arriving late on my birthday.

I think i would be a little bit miffed! There is a 16 year gap between me and my brothers so they had moved out when i ws growing up, my mum always went all out on my birthday! Also, my Birthday always fell during Oct half term! I always book it off work! Last year i didnt but only made it until lunch then took a flwxi afternoon and my friend took me for afternoon tea and to get our nails done! :-)

I alaways make a big deal of birthdays, mine and other peoples, i make cakes for people on the office and decorate their desks, H gets banners and balloons (his family never make a big deal of birthdays so he finds this very strange!!)

I think birthdays are special as its is your day!

when i was single and living along, on my birthday i got up, got myself a cup of tea and went back to bed with my cards!! there was no-one there to treat me so i just treated myself!!

hopefully you will have fun with your friend! get the vino in and hopefully after a few glasses and a natter the awkwardness will go!!

Happy Birthday JoJo - ?

I would be fuming if J ever forgot my birthday, but given that's NYD, he'd have a hard job!

I'd be a major mard arse in that situation tbh. I don't need to be made a huge fuss of on my birthday, but I do at least like to have H around. I'd have a huge sulk at being on my own for the whole day, especially the morning.

Oooh, and happy birthday JoJo! Can't believe your H forgot. That calls for some major grovelling to make it up to you!

It would most definitely upset me, especially the bit about "I TOLD you I wouldn't be here Thurs/Fri"

I would expect him to make a big deal in some other way to make up for it. I'm a little childish about my birthday, though I wouldn't expect him to go out of his way, but maybe bring back flowers and take me out for dinner when he got back kind of thing.

This would p*ss me off.

Happy Birthday JoJo!

I would be disappointed. I don't make a huge deal of my birthday, but it falls on Sunday which is my weekend to work so I decided to book the weekend off (mine also was always in the school holidays so I've never been able to comprehend working on my birthday). And I think it's nice to do something you enjoy doing on your birthday. OH has already put a pile of presents on the living room floor so I am being tortured by them at the moment, which is better than forgetting. Happy birthday JoJo!

I usually go to work on my birthday, it's just another day as far as I'm concerned, but I do try to make a fuss of other people on theirs!

I would be a bit miffed that I wasn't seeing H at all though, I'm like that any time I have to spend a night away from him though!! I always tell him I'm happy for him to go off with his mates, and I am.. until the day comes and I'm faced with a night alone in our bed. I don't sleep well at all without him there - sad aren't I?

I would definitely play the 'poor me, all alone on the night before, whole day of and day after my birthday' card though. Will you get to see him at all? He can't help having to work but it doesn't hurt to make him feel a wee bit bad if it means getting spoiled as compensation!

ETA: Happy birthday Jojo - I'm sure you'll find a good way of making your H pay for forgetting

Like some others, I've always had my birthday in summer holidays so am used to having the day off. This year it is a Saturday and next year if all goes well I'll be on maternity leave. Previously I have worked in Clearing over my birthday but that was my choice and nice to make the extra money.

I'd be miffed about him telling me "I told you I'd be away Thurs night" but at the end of the day, for me his work would take priority over my birthday if the work commitment is unavoidable. I would totally try and milk it though and would go round my parents and have a moan! And make my mum bake me a nice cake ?

Happy birthday JoJo! ?

Happy Birthday Jo! Hope he makes it up to you

Happy Birthday Jo Jo. ?

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Happy Birthday JoJo!! I wouldn't let OH forget my birthday, although he didn't bother getting me anything for our 4 year anniversary (not even a card!) so wouldn't surprise me.

I would be annoyed if I was on my own on my birthday, but our family always makes a big deal out of them so I know how you feel

I totally get that he needs to work and thats important for our future as well - might soften the blow if he could get me tickets... he'll be working at epsom races, i've been before and it was amaze, got so tiddly on champers!!!

It's the not seeing him at all bit that bothers me. I was really upset about the evening because a night in on my own watching crap tv, I can get miserable and lonely enough without it also being my bday but now that my BM is coming over for the night at least I'll be distracted!!

Will be buying lots of cakes to take to work though ? Nom Nom.

I alwys make a huge deal of my birthday, drag it out over atleast a week. I would just make the most of having you BM there and get drunk (my OH gets really annoyed with me wen i get too drunk) so i would just embrace the free time. Make sure he gets you an immense prezzie though.

Happy birthday JoJo ?

My OH works night shift so I'm pretty used to spending nights in by myself like a loser. It would bother me at first but I'd get over it as long as we were doing something special another day. My birthday was always in the school February break so it was really weird the first time I had to work on my birthday. I'm not bothered about people making a fuss of me on my birthday but it is a good excuse to get breakfast in bed and get dressed up to go out somewhere nice for dinner/drinks with my boy.

Happy birthday JoJo

Wouldn't bother me at all either. I would just do nice stuff on my own and have night/time with my H another time.