Bizzarely retro/sexist reaction...by me

He's probably got a really nice kitchen.

I did the asking....although it actually came out as "do you know that holiday we've got booked for next year? Shall we have it as a honeymoon instead?" ?

I ASKED MY h (sorry caps) hmm well it was more a case of - so are we going to do this before im too old for a big frock and a tiara?

PuP, I feel exactly the same as you, in spite of being a card-carrying feminist. Ridiculous, but there it is ?

I proposed to JK, but let's just say she wasn't exactly subtle about making it clear that she was expecting said proposal... ?

It's a weird one, isn' it? But why, dammit? Why does it seem "less right" (no offense to the proposers of hitched, I think it should be fine, in fact I think it IS fine, really, but...) ?

I'm getting the sense that women don't make such a production of it, maybe? (sweeping generalisation or what)

Hmm - there was no proposal from either side for us, but I don't think it would have happened if I hadn't pushed it past the conversation that went along the lines of:

"D'you wanna?"

"I dunno, d'you wanna?"

It's about stupid old-fashioned ideas about modesty and not "putting oneself forward" or "throwing oneself at him" and tghe possibility of rejection, I think.

I should make it clear here that I only anticipated the proposal because Mr JK had nearly proposed at a right turn in Wiltshire on hearing that whilst I would be happy to have children out of wedlock, if he wanted to marry we'd have to do it pre-kids, as I didn't want to be upstaged at my own wedding.

We got to lovely romantic Prague and he waited three bloody days to ask me. FFS.

Sounds like us. I whined about getting married for circa six months before the actual proposal, including nearly but not quite ruining a fantastic "mini break" weekend at a country house hotel, when I was convinced the proposal was around every corner. A fortnight later I told him I thought he'd have proposed to me then. Then I thought I'd shut up about it. THREE MONTHS LATER, when I'd all but given up hope he finally got his act together in a jacuzzi in Amsterdam.

I was luckier than my sister who proposed to her boyfriend on an annual basis for ten years, and was rejected each time on the basis that he would do it when he was ready. Other couples had married and divorced by the time they'd got round to it. I've never seen a more relaxed bridegroom mind you. They were right to wait.

Um whilst I didn't do the actual proposing, I did choose my engagement ring before the proposal and we had actively been looking for three or four months before we found one!

Ours was also like this, plus we were both tipsy lol.

I proposed to my H. On the M1 on our way back from a trip to Sheffield. No romance at all, but I don't think he'd ever have got round to it!

No regrets on this front, though it would have been nice to have a romantic proposal. (However, TOTALLY ancedotally, the 3 couples I know who had the most romantic proposals are also the 3 couples that are divorcing.... ?)

My h proposed to me, but i should make it clear that i had previously set my hat at him.

disgraceful ?

I proposed to my H taking advantage of the leap year in 2004.

We were staying in a hotel and I left a note for him on his breakfast plate whilst I went to the buffet and got mine. I think he was in absolute shock as I always said I didn't want to get married!

I take my hat off to anyone who proposes - male or female. Its such a head-fuck thing to do or agree to.

I love reading all these. We got engaged a couple of months into our relationship, not long after we started calling each other 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend', so there was no waiting for him to ask or wondering if I should - not that I would have done. Old-fashioned as it is, I do think if a bloke wants to marry you, he'll normally ask.

Unmarried women have asked me since how I 'got him to marry' me which I find a bit odd.

See your friends may have a point - in my experience men dont want to get married anymore.

This may sound insane, but I've found that men generally dont really need to commit to marriage anymore. But that probably says more about me frankly.

It's hard to generalise... some blokes want to settle down, some don't. The same with women I guess.

I know its a HUGE generalisation - I mean I haven't had that much experience. ?