Bridesmaids - are they actively involved?!

Just because you don't have jobs for them now, doesn't mean you won't in the future!

I wish my bridesmaids would be more involved instead of been bitter about the fact it's my day and not theirs.

are you going to need help putting favours together? or making up orders of service or anything like that in the future that you could get them involved in?

No not really, thats what I mean. We are having charity pins for favours and our order of service is already mostly done. I hate having too many people around me when im doing things hence only having my sister helping me out. I suppose I can just find jobs for them on the day maybe?

Hi, I really wouldn't feel bad at all, your friends / family should be over the moon to be bridesmaids and basically just be there for you if and when you need them. Being a BM in itself is an honour but doesn't really need any major input! I have four adult BMs and I whilst I am not shy to ask for help, (and they have offered) if I don't need any help that's also fine, I was CBM for my best friend in May and really the only task I had was the hen night, I kept offering to do more but all the work really comes from the bride. I don't think there are too many jobs that are for BMs. What I'm trying to say is definitely don't be stressed about this, you can't make up jobs for them, just say thanks so much for offers to help and you will let them know if I need anything and how much you really appreciate they want to help, and I would say the best help they can offer is helping with planning your hen, I got lots of ideas from other BMs and friends when I was planning which was vital so hopefully your sister will welcome ideas! Hope this helps a bit!

I've only got 2 BMs, and so far they haven't had to do anything - Except from come shopping and try on some pretty dresses (which isn't much of a chore haha). Like you I chose them as they are special people to me. But, they will have *plenty* of duties on the day and the immediate build up! So don't feel bad ?

So far I only have a MOH, but she has been brilliant already and offered to help with all sorts (not taken her up on any of it yet), and she is the sort of person who will only offer if she is willing and able to do it.

My sis is my cbm and has only organised my hen do up to now, but my other adult bm is gagging to do something. So I gave her the delightful task of phoning round all the h.dressers in the area and getting prices. She has done a sterling job and is now mithering to do something else. Think I need to get my lists sorted.

I didnt even think of asking my bms to do anything, neither have offered abd tbh neother seem that interested at the moment. I am happy to do most things myself i think, my sister has a completely different outlook on the wedding so think if i asked her she would start critising etc

Am sure the weeks leading up to the wedding i may ask them to do a few things, im even arranging my own hen do!! my sisters idea of a hen do was not what i wanted and she just cant be bothered to think of anything imagintaive!!!