Cake fights :-(

Hmmm what a predicament, what totally bizarre inlaws you have!

Not sure that I could suggest anything more than a quiet word from your H before the wedding along the lines of, let's not get silly drunk and decide to try practical jokes...otherwise 'yer atter heerrrrre!'

They are bizarre, which is sometimes funny but getting too much now! Im just worried if we warn them again we will get the "we wont come then" responce again or we will be inbedding the idea to do it! Im so worried i dont want to sound stuck up but we have a beautifull venue and everythin, i mean whole heartedly id hate anyone that ruined it!

Is there a sensible in-law you could discreetly ask to "have a word" beforehand? If it comes from you or OH it may be that they take that as even funnier to do as they know it would upset you and that you're getting stressed about it (ridiculous and mean I know but that's people for you). Either that or suggest that you might want to do a rock the frock shoot afterwards and would be gutted if anything got on your dress/OH's suit etc. Not sure how you could work it into things but if anything similar is mentioned (or if there is another family event with ballistic baking involved beforehand) say almost jokingly "well if anything gets on my dress the culprit will be paying for a replacement, not to mention the cost of the cake" but with a tone that's anything but casual.

If all else fails could you forewarn your venue about certain guests who should be refused alcohol if they appear to be getting a bit tipsy?

Keep the cake away from them. He sounds a total d!ck, sorry.... this is behaviour from a child, not a grown man. Have the cake cut and taken to the kitchen asap..

WSS

Oh my word, how awful for you - and how awful are they. I think you do need to say something sort of formally - that it's been worrying you both a lot, and that you wouldn't have ever dreamed anyone would do that at a wedding, but when it started being done at a funeral you realised you had to clear it up, as you and your hub would be really, really upset if they did anything like that (any maybe throw in it would really upset some older relatives or your parents or something...)

I know you are going to be worrying anyway after how they have behaved, I really feel for you. could your OH brothers 'keep an eye' on them for the eve and if they are starting to P8ss around have a firm word?

Some people just have no respect, can't belive she was throwing cake at a funeral and can't believe he put a gateau on your head...you have already been more than understanding to their complete rudeness!!

Sorry but completely agree!

Massive predicament...so can understand why you are worried.

Here's an idea. Knock up a T&C from the venue, with all their usual blurb, but include a para that says something to the effect of they reserve the right to charge total cleaning costs if undue mess is made on the carpets.....and make a point of showing your 'outlaws'. It would need to be worded a lot better than that, but its taking it away from yourselves and saying that if they get up to any daft things like this.... its going to cause trouble at the venue. You could even make it stronger and put that the venue reserve the right to escort any guest off the premises who doesn't show respect and regard for the venue and its furnishings. Hope that gives an idea that could be tweeked into something workable.

ooh great idea!! I vote for that too!

If your venue are anything like mine, the T's&C's are explicit about damage and behaviour. We have to front up a £300 cheque that will be taken in the event of any damage.

There is also a fantastic clause about a £250 fine if the Police have to be called and £100 for each person arrested.

Not sure what to say other than OMFG at your inlaws!

What total arses. I agree with SS...have a worded thingy warning them.

x

Perfect and make it clear whoever makes the mess pays for it!

Sandy that is Genius!

Hi everyone, sorry my reply is so late but i didnt want my partener to catch me writing about this he would be mortified to c id told people, so im safely back in work now!

Sandysounds that is a fantastic idea i will certainly be putting that one to action! Its ridiculous but all i still have to do and this is taking forefront of my worries so thankyou everyone for your help! I will also be giving strict instructions to h2bs brothers to keep an eye on things i know they will back us! How stupid thou, havin kids and toddlers at the wedding and being more scared of the behaviour of the adults!