I've not seen my H for just over 4 weeks (he's been living with his parents and I've been living in our house. Baaasically, we're supposed to be on a 3 month trial break.) This Manchester opportunity has now come up for me, which I've told him about, and tonight we're meeting up to chat about that and also the logistics of our house sale (our buyer takes entry 16 Jan- hoorah!). Obviously, we could agree to extend the trial period by a few months and make a final decision once I've done my stint in Manchester. However, this would make Machester like a kind of purgatory for me and wouldn't be the kind of 'fresh start that you all saw me get excited about yesterday. It seems clear to me that the sensible thing to suggest would be to make a decision about the marriage now, rather than let things drag on ( or do you think I'm being unfair in unilaterally moving the goalposts from end of Jan to 3 weeks before Christmas?) I really want to suggest that we consider resolving things now-ish, but I'm afraid of so many things- a) that I'm jumping the gun b) that I'm being unfair c) that I'll regret it (although if I keep him dangling as a 'safety net', surely that's horribly unfair too.)
I feel like there are neon lights telling me to be brave and to draw a line under this now- so why am I being so wimpish? Could I have all of your 'don't be wuss' vibes for tonight please so that I don't chicken out? ?
(Also, if anyone has any tips for how to disguise the smell of fag smoke in a house, can they please share this, as he's coming up to our house for the chat, and I've been smoking indoors like a naughty Lou).