Colour scheme for the guests

Heard of it... yes.

Do I agree with it... no.

I honestly dont think I'd go to a wedding where I was asked to wear a certain colour, peoples tastes and their shapes and sizes are so individual, I personally think this is a step too far.

There was quite a lengthy debate about this a short while ago.

I know I am in the minority that doesn't really see having a dress code as an issue....at the end of the day its just advising you of the theme of the day no different to a fancy dress party.. I'm sure there will be no firing squad for non compliant guests.

The Beckhams did this! Everyone had to wear black and white....

Opps sorry didnt mean to dulpicate, I had never heard of this and was suprised.

Good point though, I think its the way its done. I saw a bride write on a wedding invite "not a must do, but I think facinators look lovely" most guests where more than happy to make the effort.

As much as I think it's ridiculous, I can in a way understand a "dress code" for guests (within reason) if you're seriously worried about your guests turning up sloppily dressed for example.

Perhaps not down to specific colours to wear, but to request formal attire I don't think is unreasonable.

I know ultimately it shouldn't matter, but we've been at weddings where guests have turned up in jeans, grotty old t-shirts, tracksuit bottoms, trainers and polo shirts. I'd be mortified if someone turned up to my wedding like that!

OHs younger brother is at that age where he thinks Polo shirts count as formal/smart (as long as they're "designer") and wore one to a family wedding last year. He (in my opinion) looked ridiculous standing next to the rest of the family in suits and shirts. We've jokingly (but seriously) banned polo shirts as a result. What with the no children policy and a ban on polo shits, we're incredibly popular at the moment!

I would be massively annoyed if I was asked to wear a specific colour (or to avoid a colour).

I don't really understand the benefit to anyone, plus I love wedding outfit shopping. I have four other weddings next year (plus my own). I can't wait to find outfits for them!

Hmm. October wedding and I think I missed a trick. If I said everyone had to wear orange it would have been a lot easier seating the 10 or so people who would actually come if I did that!

Oh no, Im scared now...why would anyone think this is ok?

Talking as an OM you really wont care what colour your guests turn up in, you know, as long as no one else wears a long white bridal gown ?.

I dont really see the point in the colour schemes for guests, you have your actual bridal party for matchy matching if you want it (I didnt even go that far ?). All it does it makes people uncomfortable and worry about something minor and if your guests are feeling like that it could ruin the atmosphere of the day. Enjoying it with the important people in your life is much more a big deal IMO than what someone has worn.

I honestly don't think I'd be friends with anyone who thought it OK to make such ludicrous and precious requests, let alone make it to their wedding.

Yes my OH "suggested" that our guests should all wear the same colour as our theme! I told him no though

? ha, Yes I think they would be off the christmas card list!

I think it's ridiculous. It's one thing making suggestions of what you would like (e.g. the fascinator thing someone mentioned before) and therefore people have the choice of whether they want to comply or not, but it's another thing entirely to demand people dress a certain way and get upset if they don't.

Last night my mum was saying that she thinks we should put a dress code on the invitation, and my response was I honestly couldn't care less what people wear. I doubt I'd even notice if someone turned up in jeans.

We are having black tie as our dress code but this will of course be optional.

I dont agree with it on a personal level but too each their own x

If I was someone's friend I would respect their requests, albeit thinking she/he was a bit of a looper.

I requested no jeans/trainers as it was quite a smart venue and we wanted a more formal/smart look. We only got one evening guest who wore jeans and a polo shirt and some casual shoes. He looked fine for a bar or something but really stood out at an evening reception amongst the other men who were all wearing trousers, as they weren't even dark coloured jeans so it was very obvious.

I thought if it did happen I wouldn't have been bothered, but I did notice him and I thought at the time he looked really scruffy. He is on a few pics of our first dance (when we invited people up to join us, not just Oh and me and him!) and I think it looks pretty rubbish. Obviously at the time I didn't say anything and of course never would say anything. I certainly wouldn't have dreamed of sending anyone home!

I think there's a huge leap between telling your guests that there is a theme and that you'd prefer them to wear certain colours, and sending someone home to change because they wore the wrong colour! I personally would do neither but I'd be a lot more understanding of the former.

I'm with James on this one.... and probably in the minority.

For my first wedding, I actually bought red ties for all the men...... *ducks from the firing squad*

Im the sort of person that if you told me to wear a certain thing I wouldn't on principle.

I just thing that for someone such as myself, who has body hang ups (I suppose we all do really), dress shopping for a wedding, even as a guest is a minefield - and expensive, and if I had to - as the original post said - wear cream i'd really struggle ☹️

I also like to see everyones nice clothes and outfits, its nice to see everyone all dressed up.