Deciding on a venue TOGETHER..

I was a bit like this, but luckily I loved the venue as much as I thought I would. OH insisted on looking at other venues, so we looked at 2 others. When we sat down to discuss them, we both looked at each other and said, why are we evening discussing this. We both knew the first one was the one.

We only visited one venue and I knew we were going to book it that day, it was always our dream venue and although it was a bit more pricey than we wanted there was no other option for us.

It's not stupid to feel excited. Do agree with OH to keep an open mind and consider everything about the venue for you both budget wise and travel etc. But do agree with you to maybe give your OH a kick up the bum and tell him to get more involved Mine is like that with certain things, I know he cares but ideally he'd love to just nod yes or no to decisions and have me do everything haha.

Very good of the venue to hold the date for you too. Do we get a venue flash?

A slap around the face is a bit harsh but I would always advise visiting a venue before you book and asking a few questions - all holiday hotels look nice in the brochure but they don't show you the block of flats that is being built at the back - or they are having an extension built at the same time as your wedding - the landfill site down the road does pong a bit, the room the bar is in is 400m away from the room the disco is in, the background lighting in the room during the evening is too bright, the bar prices are sooooo expensive................

OP, I was exactly the same as you. And when we finally walked in (after no visits elsewhere, nor any planned), we knew it was perfect for us.

Same here, but we still saw 2 other venues, despite already having made up our (my) mind. Yes, you do need to see it and make sure it's as wonderful as you think it is!

The one I was convinced I was going to love and would be the one was a bit "meh" ... it ticked all the boxes but I didn't feel a wow. the one felt a bit meh about going to I completely love ... I think I have fallen in love with at least 4 perfect venues ... and then. visited them and they were just ok ...

I was the same. at first he was reserved, then he got more picky than me! Have to day I wasn't wow by the photos of my current venue and nearly dismissed it half way through the tour ... until we took the bond like lift to the cocktail lounge ... pure heaven.I bet you'll both swoon when you see the place!

I was the same, loved our venue before we even looked at it and really wanted it, though my OH wasn't really bothered - thought it looked nice but wanted to see others too and didn't get overly excited but once we saw it he loved it just as much. We saw eight in total just to be sure but that was the first one we saw and the others didn't compare. I personally think it's good to have other things to compare it too - but it's fairly normal to be excited about a venue and he might be too once he sees it.

Our venue was the first we viewed but we did view about another 10 just to be 100% sure. Just to kill any later wobbles and also because I actually really enjoyed looking around wedding venues it makes a nice day out with free drinks hehe

I found that some venues I liked the look of on paper/website didn't really live up to it in real life and vice versa.

We went to see a few ... Even after walking into 'the one' and being like WOW!!!!

We fell in love with it! It was perfect - and to think we actually sat in the car outside it like ' shall we not bother going in? Not sure I like it'

Open mind is key - I went to one place thinking of love it and it ended up being my least favourite.

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We only visited the one. I'd looked into lots but I knew I wanted our venue the minute I heard about it. OH has a hard time committing to decisions like this usually but the minute we arrived he was sold before he even stepped inside (I was sneaky and made him walk the scenic route along the canal towpath at the back).

I knew as soon as we got engaged that I wanted our venue. OH wanted to see prices before we got too excited. We saw another few places that weekend as we already had them booked in for viewings but we both loved ours and knew it was the one.

I think when you know you know and it sounds like this place ticks alot of boxes! You must be excited to look around

Thank you for all the replies ❤️

I'm pleased to see that I'm not the only one who is gaga about somewhere straight away.

We are visiting on the 11th. It's hard for us to find time to visit venues due to OH job and with planning on a winter 2014 wedding time isn't on our side. I understand what people have said about how the venues obviously pick all the pictures that show their best sides on their websites and cut out the little negative parts but I really feel this place is just perfect already, so I hope it truly is as good in the flesh. I have been assured by others it is. It's Southend Barns in Chichester by the way! Years ago, my Dad bought an old barn and converted it entirely on his own and that is where I grew up and is still my parents home today, so I really wanted a barn venue as a little nod to that, and since discovering this place I am just cooing over it constantly. My OH is like 'don't worry we wil be seeing it soon enough' *mind already made up!* hehe.

I booked mine without even seeing it, possibly a moment of madness but I knew what I wanted and I was worried the date I wanted would go so I just went for it! xxx

I am a bit of the exception to the rule I think.

Our first choice ended up being too expensive for what (and where it was) after we started talking about booking it. After that a lot of venues took our breath away on the net and only 3 from the 30+ we visited actually made the final shortlist. We were disappointed with most of them some way or another after we went to see it!

We had to visit our final choice twice to make sure it was what we wanted and be happy with it. In the end we both found one we both liked together. Like you said.

But we are a bit different, neither of us had a "dream wedding" in mind as such, so was hard picking amongst barns, golf clubs, hotels, estate houses and even public gardens!

But if it is the only venue you are interested in seeing and the only you booked, I think we all know is your personality to be like that so you'll hardly change your mind =)

What about booking other venues just for the fun of it? We loved going to so many venues, and we got a few freebies just to go and have a nosey about =)

Good luck anyways!