We're giving flowers to our Mum's as their wedding gifts - and I want to know if I'm being fair in giving my Mum a much larger arrangement?
OH's Mum hasn't really done anything for the wedding - well in actual fact, she's done nothing in the planning. No offers to help in any sort (which is another bug of mine as they helped with FBIL's wedding, in planning and financial terms). The one thing she is doing is being our witness - but so is my Mum.
What I'm trying to get my head around is, I find it a bit odd to give a gift in the same size as my Mum, who has done everything. She's gone to all our meetings where possible, she's done sooo much DIY for us, from making the invites, to decorations too. Both my Mum and Dad have basically funded our wedding, considering they're paying for the venue, catering, drinks, decorations, flowers and cars. We're doing outfits for everyone, entertainment, and photographer, and then obviously the gifts.
For those doing our readings (which I feel is a much more nerve wracking and as an important role to witnessing) they're getting bookmarks as gifts - so it really doesnt feel right to me to spend alot on OH's Mum. Of course, she still deserves a gift for raising my future husband, but what I'm trying to get at is I don't want to give her a bouquet the same/similar to my Mum. I think my Mum deserves sooo much more!
If however, we only get her a small gift (as in small bunch/bag of flowers) compared to my Mum, being its done during speeches - will it be frowned upon?
