I've posted on here before about one of OH's friends (M) who is still bitter from his divorce (10yrs ago!) and has been so unsupportive of us getting married. Well, he's got worse.
First of all he said he couldn't come to the wedding breakfast but he would come for the ceremony and to the last hour of the evening reception. So we ordered the invitations with this in mind. About 2 months ago he changed his mind and said he would take a day off for the wedding and come for the whole day, so I made him his own invitation as we hadn't ordered a day invite for him and he needed the seperate info about menu choices, etc that wasn't included in the ceremony-only invites. He then called OH at 1am yesterday morning to say that he had invited a friend from London to visit him for a few days the day before the wedding and could she come to the wedding too? OH said she could come to the ceremony and the evening reception but not the wedding breakfast as we have already decided on numbers and it was enough trouble to squeeze him in at such short notice, let alone his friend. So M announced that in that case he would only come for the ceremony and evening reception after all because he doesn't want to leave his friend on her own.
As if that wasn't bad enough M then started trying to pry into our relationship and predicting that we will end up divorcing. Even saying 'I hope you prove me wrong about this'. At this point OH realised M was drunk and hung up.
He has said stuff before ('she's too young to know what she's doing'; 'she will get bored of you in a year or two and want to sleep with other men'; 'at least you will get a good party out of all this') but this is the worst yet. I know its not personal because OH never talks about me much to him and he has only spoken to me properly once before when I was 19 years old and OH and I had just started dating. His entire knowledge of our relationship is based on that.
I don't want him to come at all but I am letting OH make the final decision. M has been really good to OH in the past, giving him somewhere to live and work when he first came to England and giving him a job last year when OH was struggling to find work. As a result, I think he feels like he is indebted to M and can't stand up to him. Anyway I'm trying to encourage OH to stand up more to M and set some boundaries - whether that is to exclude him from the wedding altogether or to make him stop saying that our relationship will fail. I'm trying not to influence his decision too much and avoid a mega-rant in front of him which is why this is all on here.
Please feel free to call M a twunt or rant about your own annoying guests.
PS. Sorry It's so long!
