Do I put one dream on hold for another???

Absolutely do what makes you happy. If you are happy, and your H2B is happy, then that is all that matters. The fact you said it would make it even more special if you were pregnant walking down the aisle demonstrates it means a lot to you. The people who are saying you should wait perhaps don't know what it feels like for it to take time to conceive etc.

And many congratulations on the great news regarding your fertility! And happy conceiving ;-) x x x

Definitely this. A bit of a different scenario as she got pregnant just before the wedding but Flow on here got married pregnant and her wedding report is one of the most romantic things I've ever read!! https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/p/319779/2948934.aspx#2948934

You can get maternity wedding dresses, so that's fixable. And at the end of the day even if you catch just before the wedding and you're tired and can't drink anything and throw up a few times, you sound like you wouldn't mind! Obviously that's not IDEAL but it very much seems like you are prepared to put the baby first and would be ecstatic to get pregnant, so I say just go for it and maybe hold off buying a dress until later!

Good luck!

I Personally would not actively try but also not do anything to prevent it either. ( i only say this because they tend to say thst once you stop trying uou trnd to fall!) Since your quite happy to be pregnant at your wedding, when ever it happens it sounds like it won't be an issue. Good luck and congratulations xx

Thank you for your kind words ladies . I loved reading that thread, gets you feeling all excited!!!! We are not going to be as active we was (ovulation tests, baby making every other day etc!!) but we are going to try a little more around ovulation time!! Got so obsessed last time, but I have the wedding to take my mind off of it so hoping I will fall (ideally in a few months time) without trying to much xx

So long as you can work itso the baby isn't due ON the wedding say (or 2 weeks after) then you should be fine. Good luck!

I think you are making a good decision. Your friends sound like me, I would hate to be pregnant on my wedding day but thats because I am not ready for a baby and all that comes with it. Once you are ready then you dont mind giving up alcohol, having a big bump, feeling tired. It sounds like for you it would be really special so dont pay too much attention to what others say when they are not in the same situation.

We have timed it so that the baby is due a fair bit after. Obviously if it came early (would be very early) then thats a different story. We have wanted a baby for so long, that the wedding for us comes second to that. Still so excited about getting married but it would be over shadowed if I did fall!!

Can anyone tell me how to add one of the tickers on?!?! Did a bad job of it I think!!!

Just playing devils advocate, perhaps they are telling you to wait because the stress of the wedding planning (if you are the type to get stressed) can make it hard to conceive and cause problems if you have conceived. You know , "they" say if you're pregnant to avoid stress. Also it can place a huge strain on the two of you if you're getting upset about not having conceived with the stress of the wedding on top.

If you have had a break you might find it will happen and I think that any time you aren't trying is 'wasted' time. Not saying that you could miss your chance, there are far too many variables for that, but since it obviously is incredibly important to you both you might as well keep going. If you do get pregnant then is there anyone (mum, sister, friend) who can help you plan in case it does cause stress or you feel too lousy to do much?

Tbh I think get going with the baby making. If you're ready you're ready and there's no point hanging around just because of a wedding. Being pregnant on your wedding day would obviously mean a lot to you.

Good Luck. I hope your dream comes true x

exactly this

I think that you should follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Lots of people get married whilst their pregnant, plus if you've been struggling them why wait any longer now you've had the all clear, you can get married any time a baby changes you life x

We've struggled with conceiving, been trying for nearly 4 years and been through 3 cycles of IVF, fell pregnant earlier this year but lost it at 6 weeks. We're still 'trying' naturally, even though our chances are ridiculously small, but we've also signed up for adoption and fostering. We decided to stop IVF as we also thought it was silly to put our lives on hold, but only because saving up for the wedding and IVF would be impossible. Only you and OH can say if it's agood idea and if you can cope with the planning and being pregnant, but you don't really sound like you need much convincing ? I'm a bit biased, but I say go for it. When you're trying for a baby it's bad enough, but when you struggle and especially lose one, nothing is more important. It may not be how you initially pictured your wedding day, but as long as you have supportive people around to help with the planning and organising when you're all emotional and stressed or spending all day throwing up then sod what other people say and do what's going to make YOU happy! And GOOD LUCK! x

Thanks for all your comments ladies . Karenanne, I hadn't looked at it like that. I may have wrongly assumed that they think I should wait so I can enjoy the day. I am lucky that if I did fall then I have enough people to help reduce any stress. Tbh my partner is very organised and he has done loads of the planning so far (I make the decisions and he sorts it out!!). I know he would do everything he can to make sure I don't get stressed planning the wedding. Tinytottori, I'm so sorry to hear your struggle. I am glad you have decided to progress with your wedding as I agree that u put everything on hold when you are trying. I really hope you concieve naturally x

I would say go for it, you never know how long it will take to conceive so i would just have fun and not let it consume your life with best time to concevie in the month etc. just let nature take its course and hopefully the best wedding present you will be given is you will be pregnant x

In that case I say go for it. Fingers crossed for you both x