Dress codes, do or dont?

If you don't want them in the photos why would you invite them? Surely these are your friends?

* sits back with a coffee and waits to see this thread*

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Wind up I reckon.

Yep

Sounds like an Ascot dress code, would be checking?

Very close family members from both sides unfortunatly, so definatly have to be invited, this is NOT a wind up, I really am confused as to whether it is all right to set a dress code.

Sshh. Long threads are entertaining. Don't spoil it so early on! ?

If you are being serious then dont be so silly, let people wear what they want for christ sake what is wrong with some people.

But they're only fun when they're real.

OP if you are serious, which I doubt you are, no it is not acceptable to be so far up your own bottom that you would stop family members from appearing in your photos.

I would send each guest a link to a pre-chosen outfit that they have to buy in order to be allowed into your wedding. Anyone who has the cheek to turn up in anything else but their specified outfit would naturally be refused entry.

I am deadly serious, I dont really want to look back at my wedding photos when there will be a few trouble causers wearing incredibly whore-ish clothing, one of said people wore a cropped top and mini skirt to a recent family christening (No lie, she is known in my OH's family as the bike.) Is it fair then to ask them to 'tone down' their look?

Good point Kharv

Ooh you could set up something like a gift list where you put up the same number of outfits as there are guests and they have to choose them on a first come first served basis!

*snigger* I have to agree with figs........

I'd tell you to stick your wedding up your arse! NO ONE wants to see me in a skirt!!

OMG

no it's not acceptable.

can we close this thread as it's so similar to one done a couple of days ago??

The last dress I wore to a wedding was above my knee, I didnt look like a prostitute and nobody threw me out (even though I did show myself up being a drunken mess!)

As far as dress codes go, for me its a no go as I trust my friends and family to turn up looking their best as I do when I go to events. I think evening wear (i.e black tie) would be great fun but its not really us, just me liking the poshness ? Hence why I am not having a dress code..

I think its acceptable to put evening wear if you are having that kind of wedding.

Ok, joking aside, if you are serious, then please read this thread first:

https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/324109.aspx

It depends what dress code you are setting, yours sounds a bit of an odd situation...we put on our website 'no denim or trainers please' as we wanted to go for a semi-formal more than totally casual feel, but if someone does turn up in those things then we won't mind. We didn't put anything on our proper invites though, as none of our guests sound like yours.

I definitely wouldn't lead with 'don't wear your whorish trash' on any dress code section of your invite.

the problem with our situation is that we have 24 guests, our mothers, fathers and some siblings and their children (I dont see much of my family due to circumstances, and they are not invited). We are getting married in a stately home, with a 1950s theme to our wedding. Therefore, I want to set a dress code so that certain people dont embarrass us as per usual, and yes, both me and my oh ARE so far up our backsides that the problem guests will be asked not to be in the 'offical' wedding photos.

Your day, your way, do what you want I say! (oooh i'm a poet and i didn't know it??)

I have had more important things to worry about than what people are going to wear and i wouldn't dream of tell people either!

Do what you like.

My brothers girlfriend did attend my wedding dressed as a prostitute. Half my guests saw her ar$e and the other half saw her nips. To be honest, I wasn't that bothered. It was a talking point and an excellent ice breaker for the other guests.

A friend of mine had a similar issue, but they were concerned that the groom's mates would turn up in jeans. They decided to go for black tie so that they were forced to dress smart. No one minded that at all and everyone looked great.

If this is a wind up - go and read a book. Or clean your bathroom, or some other pursuit that is good for your soul. If it is not, well, I can categorically say I don't care what anyone wears to my wedding or otherwise, but I know for a fact I wouldn't invite anyone to my wedding day who deemed it appropriate to use the word 'bike' to describe another woman. You're deep seated prejudice and horrible value system are most unpleasant.

Hilarious. The contempt you show for your family is stomach-churning. Why have you even invited such undesirable people?

Maybe set a 1950s dress code then for all your guests too? I doubt many 50s dresses give off the 'bike' look.

I think you should not invite any friends and family and use the money to hire actors that will act, look and behave exactly how you want and wear what you prescribe.

If this isn't a wind up, and I hope it is. I would suggest you get married just yourself and your groom and have no guests. Seeing as their clothing will embarass you. Or, make sure you stand on a box during the photos, just to be sure you're looking down your nose at everyone.

Anyone else think of Big Fat Gypsy Wedding, or was that just me?

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Unless they were paying for my outfit I'd be annoyed at anyone telling me what to wear to a wedding, i'm an adult-I know how to dress myself ._. .....but especially if they told me to wear a below the knee skirt so i dont look like a prostitute....perfect way to make your OHs family feel cheap, nasty and below your standards...not recommended.