Engagement ring

I'm all for the man choosing the ring. It's the ring you've chosen to ask her to spend the rest of your life with you. I like your idea but is it worth running the idea past one of her friends before choosing for it definite? just to get a second opinion!

That sounds like a lovely idea. Your fiancee to be will love it because you picked it and put thought into it! My h2b picked mine because it has the infinity symbol on it which we both have tattoo'd on our wrists, it was so thoughtful and made me love him more **awwww** lol.

If you think she is the type who is very fussy and would like to pick her own ring you could buy a lovely box and put an iou in it then take her ring shopping so she can pick it for herself!

Good luck x x

See I am fussy and had 'hinted' to my OH at what ring to get me. Luckily he had been paying attention! ?

I think it completely depends on her taste really. Its a lot of money to spend and get it wrong, but your idea about the birth stones made my heart melt! Who could resist that?

I'm a plain gal myself so wanted a solitare diamond - nothing else and no fancy bits. Like I said I guess it depends on her!

So are we allowed to know your plans on how you are going to do it? ?

I wanted my hubby to chose my ring ? as he was the one proposing i wanted it to be his choice. he wanted me to chose so in the end we made a comprise he choose three he liked then i chose my favourite out of them.

I think the man should choose the ring. We know ourselves how hard it is to choose a ring so to to know that our man has gone to all that trouble to find the "one" will mean so much more. Like the others have said, it really depends on what sort of style she likes, I like the idea of the birthstones but might look a bit fussy and hard to find? What are your birthstones?

Ooh how exciting!! My OH had been asking questions about what I like for years (doing his homework ) He eventually asked my friend to take me shopping to get exactly what I liked and then chose the ring, setting and gems himself I think having her birthstones on the ring would be lovely too, very thoughtful. Good luck and I hope it all goes well

I sit in the seriously fussy end of the female market so I chose my own ring My H2b said after i picked it he would not have chosen the one i chose he would have thought i would have wanted something plainer! only you know your fiance to be. I would say don't buy an expensive ring if you thing she might turn round and say she not keen on it and want to buy another...... (not me but do know a friend who did do this to her poor H2b)

My other half picked the ring himeself but didnt propose with it as he couldnt find out my ring size without risking it. He propsed and then he took me to see the ring i loved it immediatley and it means so much knowing he chose it himself good luck

Another option is to get her a really fun, funky ring say, out of top shop, something she'd smile and laugh about until shes chosen her own ring....

ive had friends who have had a hair band, an elastic beaded ring, and an ole fashioned ring pull as proposals.......

well my OH proposed to me and then we went to the jewellers and picked the ring together. thats 1 option for you.

Wow, you guys have an active web forum! Thanks for all of your helpful replies. I was leaning towards picking it myself (she will like that I think), and enough of you have agreed so I think that's what I'll do. Our birthstones are amethyst and topaz for the lady that asked, I think blue topaz and amethyst go quite well together. I have no idea about her ring size though - she has one ring and wears it all the time so I'll have to use some kind of subterfuge to find out! In terms of how and when I ask, I haven't quite got to that yet. I intend to ask her dad first (but not long time before, maybe a phone call earlier that day!). I initially planned to ask early in the new year, but now I've decided to do it I don't think I can wait that long! It will almost certainly be outdoors somewhere and remote(ish), as that's where we both love to be. Thanks again for your help.

All the very best and mind and come and tell us all about it. A couple of grooms have planned with us, or get your good lady to join Goodluck!

I would say choose the ring too! In my eyes - it's not a proposal without the ring! ?

I wouldn't worry too much about knowing her ring size. The ring my husband chose they only had 1 of in the shop so he got that and then after he proposed it got sent off to be made smaller.

Good luck!

Oh how exciting!!

i had always had a specific idea of they type of engagement ring i wanted and had shared this idea with my OH.

when he proposed he went down on 1 knee and pulled out a ring which wasnt the one i had always dreamed of, however, the fact that he had spent so much time looking a rings and deciding and that it was the one ring that he chose made it so special and i wouldnd swap it for the world!

It seems as thought you have put a lot of thought in to it which i think she will appreciate and the added thought of having your birthstones!!!! that is so special!

if you want any tips on the proposal, id recomend you read the "getting to know you thread"!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!

It really depends on your OH. My H2B knew that I would want to choose my own, so after talking about getting married for a while, we went up to London and chose the ring together, and had a lovely day out celebrating afterwards. It was exactly what I wanted, and I did all the diamond research beforehand (the 4 c's and also certificates etc.), which my OH wouldn't have done!

Others prefer it when their OH had chosen the ring - I suppose it's seen as more romantic. Having said that, a lot of my friends have secretly admitted that they don't like their engagement rings and would have chosen something else. One friend disliked her's so much (it was a diamond band - she wanted a solitaire), she fessed up to her OH and she chose a different one.

You are the best judge as to which route to go down. Good luck!!

Yes definitely do that! I asked my mum whether H2B should ask permission, but we both thought it was ridiculous and old fashioned. Especially as we've been together for nearly 9 years and living together for 2. So I told H2B not to bother and to take him out for a drink afterwards. My dad was a bit upset! Oops!!

Just to add that I am quite fussy and knew exactly what sort of ring I would want. But my OH proposed with one that he picked, completely different, and I love it. The fact he researched it, thought about what would look good on me and what I would like means a lot to me. And the proposal was a complete surprise which was amazing. I'm sure your girlfriend will be thrilled with whatever you pick.

Aww that's so lovely ? Good luck and best wishes.

My H2B chose my ring. It's gorgeous, prefect and I love it. My H2B knows me VERY well so I wasn't surprised that he had chosen such an amzaing and beautiful ring. It was too big but he paid for insurance and the re-sizing just incase. I had to have it resized to an 'I'. The woman in the shop was incredibly rude though and said it would be easier for the shop to order the ring in my size...she couldn't quiet grasp the fact I wanted the ring he had proposed with...idiot! And then 'forgot' to ring when they had it back in the shop because 'they were too busy'.

My husband proposed with a cheaper dress ring in Barbados which looked like a diamond solitaire and the following day we went ring shopping and chose the ring together, which was such a lovel and exciting day!! We spent ages looking around the shops and then went to a nice coffee shop for coffee and crepes while we talked about the designs I had tried on and made a final decision and went back to get it!

I think your ring design idea is lovely and extremely thoughtful, but I personally would prefer diamond with no other stones - might be a safer option as all girls luuurrve diamonds. Obviously this is just my personal taste and opinion though.

By the way, she sounds like a very lucky lady!! I hope our replies have helped and good look with the big proposal! Please come back and tell us how it went.

or a haribo ring? in all seriousness, do it with something cheap. each woman is different, but i say, do NOT do it with THE ring. and as really lovely as your idea is for a diamond and both your birthstones sounds, what if she doesn't like it? it would be so mortifying for your fiancee.

we did the e-ring shopping before we got engaged (4 years in fact, but that's another story <rolls eyes> and going looking for The Ring was one of the MOST fun days of my life. i got the exact ring i wanted (the one i'd been eyeing up in the shop window for at least 2 years previously!) and he got to feel safe and secure in the knowledge that when he DID propose, i would love the ring without any second of hesitation.

welcome, btw!

ETA - now that you've gone to the trouble of joining, you DO realise that you 1, have to stay, 2, introduce your bride to be to the forum, and 3, come back and tell us how it all went and what ring you got? ?

Hello again. I've ordered the ring! I get it in six weeks. After much deliberation I decided against birthstones as ours would be much too soft. The shop also agreed to take it back if she didn't like it (or said no) so it's not a disaster if she hates it. Next step is speaking to her dad, then deciding where/when/how to ask! I am both nervous and excited. Stand by for more updates...

Oh wow! Let us know how it goes!

And (if she agrees!) we'd all love it if you'd flash a picture of the ring you decided on once you've proposed!

Good luck!

xxx

I definitely agree that you should of chosen the ring yourself, so i'm glad you did. good luck with the proposal and come back or send your B2B back to fill us nosey lot in.

a girl who works with me got engaged there on hols a few weeks ago, but omly announced it ther at the weekend when they got the proper ring! He bought a necklace, with a ring charm on it! I thought it was such a fab idea!

Good luck!! My OH did it on a beautiful sunny evening on a cliff in Cornwall (he said if i'd of said no he would of pushed me over!!)

The other great thing he did was get his fingerprint embeded on the inside of my ring!! Its so personal i love it!! Oh and he picked the ring!! Not what i would of gone for but its so much more special as he picked it!!

I asked last night - she said yes! She was really pleased with the ring I had made, and said she couldn't imagine being proposed to without the real ring so I guess it's down to preference. I asked her on the bandstand on Brighton seafront (one of her favourite places), and spoke to her dad about it last Sunday. All done in the right order!

My bit done, over to her for the organisation (just joking!)

Yay congrats! Enjoy being engaged!

Maybe we'll see her on here in a little while?

xxx

Congratulations!!! how exciting!!!!

make sure you tell her to come to Hitched!! ?

Good luck on the engagement.... for me it was all about the proposal ?

However, was presented with 2 rings..... no I'm not greedy, however, h2b was worried that the ring he had chosen would get damaged as at the time was a Warehouse Manager and not a totally glamarous job lol.

If you have an idea about the ring, then go for it. The birthstones for each of you set in the shoulder's/ shank sounds beautiful, and a really personal touch too. Of course, diamonds are a girls best friend ?

All the best..... the fun starts here!!

Massive congratulations on the engagement, and also thank you for coming back on to let us know, it's really nice to see you go from planning to engaged.

We need a flash of the ring now!