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Pompey
Beginner June 2012

Exes

Pompey, 24 January, 2013 at 13:15 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 36

Just out of interest, who here still speaks with any of their exes? I only ask as a girl at work often meets her ex for lunch.

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Latest activity by Irisbride, 24 January, 2013 at 23:32
  • Holey
    Beginner July 2011
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    I wouldn't meet mine for lunch but I sometimes bump into him in the pub and will stop and chat

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  • ashlil
    Beginner February 2011
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    Unfortunately see hubby no.1 every 2 weeks as we have a child but if not I wouldn't speak to him, and I only speak to him now when I need to not because I want to

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  • Muesli
    Beginner June 2013
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    Mine use to text me around 2010ish after we broke up in 2008 asking to come see me and be naughty even tho he had a gf.. he disappeared for a little while then added me on fb.. then he deleted his account.. i don't have any contact with any of my ex's but mainly cause they are tw*t's lol!

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  • Cilla
    Beginner April 2012
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    No. I have a few as FB friends but they weren't serious boyfriends and I have nothing to do with them.

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  • Pittabre
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    One's dead.

    One lives with his husband in Australia.

    One occasionally gets into contact to try and hook up even though he is married.

    The main Ex though I have to stay in contact with because of the children BUt he refuses to speak to me or be civil even though he did the dirty not me. I'd rather never see him again.

    Is she single? Maybe there is unfinished business there?

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  • SaSaSi
    Beginner July 2012
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    Serious exes - no. I dont speak to them and I dont have them on facebook. The one before OH - I could probably have a conversation with him but I just havent seen him in years.

    Flings etc yes I can speak to etc. There is one (married now) who we occassionally double date with.

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  • Enjayee
    Beginner April 2013
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    I have a couple of them on Facebook but I don't speak to them anymore. My sister still speaks to one of them, though not on a regular basis. That feels a little odd but I nothing overwhelmingly bad!

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  • Pompey
    Beginner June 2012
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    No, she's got a long-term fella.

    I spoke to one ex t'other day as I dreamed that he had come into work trying to claim benefit and messaged him on FB because I thought it was hilarious.

    One is in Australia with an 18yo girlf.

    One is married and hates me so wouldn't even look at me in the street, let alone speak to me. I recently found out that one of the girls from my netball club was his ex before me and she split up with him for the same reasons I did. We can't work out how he's married....

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  • Zoomo13
    Beginner August 2015
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    I have 2 on fb, but they werent serious relationships, more like a girl got her needs and wanted some company but saying that i only tend to write something on their fb wall when its their birthdays so actually dont physically speak to them.

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  • (Claire)
    Beginner July 2011
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    God no! They are exes for a reason!

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  • ImagineIt
    Beginner December 2012
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    My first BF who I got engaged to years ago is a recent FB friend. Hes married with kids. I would have no intention of meeting up with him though, but it's nice to see how he is now.

    BF no 2 is a fb friend as well, but again I wouldn't meet him. (adding them really helped with closure after all these years as both ended quite badly and I was too young to really handle it emotionally at the time)

    I dont speak to any of the others though.

    I saw one recently while I was doing a charity collection. He walked past & only spotted me as he heard me go 'eeeoooooo!!!'. Haha!

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  • Pittabre
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    Because she can't afford the divorce? Sorry that's quite shitty.

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  • ebony_rose
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    I still see a couple of my exes out and about. I go out for lunch with my last ex, he takes me and my boys bowling too. I got with him when my eldest son was 3, and he called him Dad. We lost touch for awhile, but got back in touch about a year ago.

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  • Ali_G
    Beginner October 2012
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    When we first split up, ex and I used to speak regularly. Never saw each other though, just the odd text and/or email. Now though, we don't see or speak to each other, despite him being my best friends' brother!

    Another ex of mine - though I wouldn't say ex as we were just sleeping together - we do see each other very occassionally. I would like to see him more often because we were always great friends & always had a laugh together, but his girlfriend sees me as a threat, so doesn't like us meeting up.

    I don't think it's strange that your friend meets him for lunch. Sometimes people can split up and still be great friends, particularly relationships that end because they've just stopped feeling the love.

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  • Helenia
    Beginner September 2011
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    I have no contact with my only significant ex. We didn't have a very acrimonious break-up, just lost contact. And his new gf made him delete me from Facebook. H is very good friends with a couple of his exes, and goes for lunch/dinner with them occasionally. There is one other one who sounds like a total psycho who he doesn't see.

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  • far2calm
    Beginner May 2012
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    No, but strangely enough I had a dream about an ex last night, my Mam was having him stop at her place for the week while he went to a job interview, and she kept asking me to come for tea but not to bring the hubby. She hated this particular ex, it was very weird I have never seen or heard from this ex for years!!!!

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  • freckles87
    Beginner May 2013
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    I'm Facebook friends with my first ex, we chat on there every so often, he's a lovely lad.

    I see my last ex in work sometimes, we'll stop and have a quick chat but it feels rather awkward, since I went behind his back with OH! I'm really good mates with his brother though, which may seem a bit odd!

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  • Nutella
    Beginner March 2013
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    No.. not my only significant ex (I'm not counting school bf's!!)

    When we first broke up, it was all a bit messy and the lines blurred.. we stayed 'friends' but for a long time that meant a relationship without sex (I know, it's usually the other way round right!), but it all got horrible, he was crazy in love with me but I'd lost the love and it pained him. He kept trying to make it work but it was destroying us both to be so close yet not have what we used to have. So we broke it all off completely and I haven't seen him since. He fb'd me a couple of times in the few months after but I ignored.

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  • Canary
    Beginner August 2013
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    I still am in touch with the only significant ex I have. He's a great guy but we were young and grew apart. We used to meet up every now and again for coffee and a catch up or speak on the phone but it's slowly died off over the last couple of years. I would have no reservations about meeting up with him though.

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  • fairyfay
    Beginner September 2012
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    I was with my ex for just over 17 years, so we used to speak regular as we moved in the same social circle and had many of the same friends. This dwindle alot one I met H but more on Ex's part than mine, We do aknowledge one another when we see each other now but I struggle to get a conversation out of him.

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  • natalieexx
    Beginner October 2012
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    I wouldn't even give mine the time of day. If I could delete the horrible thing from my memory forever I would.

    He turned Psycho and into a bit of a stalker after we broke up and the last I heard from him was only 6 months ago, we split up 4 years ago. He's still an obsessive psycho now.

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  • Arquard
    Beginner May 2011
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    One ex I still have sporadic contact with because we have a child together, but I could cheerfully never hear from him again. One went totally loopy & made death threats against me when we broke up so I have nothing to do with him at all, though we seem to have mutual fb friends so he occasionally crops up in the "people you might know" and gives me the fright of my life!

    The only one I bother with is a guy I briefly dated when H & I were on a break (the single dad I mentioned on a recent thread). Lovely bloke but we were much better as friends.

    H still speaks to his first ever girlfriend quite regularly, meets her for lunch and went to stay with her for a fortnight when she lived in Japan. I don't cope very well with this at all but I suppose it's nice in a way that they still get on.

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  • Sam&Louise
    Beginner September 2015
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    First ex, no.We stayed friends until he started seeing someone else about 4 years ago and i've not heard much from him since really. Had him as a friend on Facebook until about 6 months ago, but deleted after deciding I didn't really like who he was any more.

    Second ex I still speak to & i'd consider him a good friend. He's really lovely- it would have just never worked out with us as we wanted different things from life. We were only together for a couple of months, so nothing serious. Having said that, would I go to lunch (or anywhere else) with him alone- probably not unless we'd just bumped into each other.

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  • Barefoot
    Beginner August 2012
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    I wouldn't know how to contact my ex husband if I wanted to, nor where he is living now. I am, however, good friends with someone I was seeing for a year or so after the ex-H and meet up for drinks a few times a year when I'm in his neck of the woods. He's the only ex I am friends with though. OH sees his ex sometimes since she is part of a circle of friends he has from years ago, but these days it tends to be just meeting at weddings and parties rather than anything else.

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  • venart
    Beginner June 2013
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    I have met up with exes for lunch before, and it's meant absolutely nothing, but the two I'm talking abotu were both close friends with me before we dated, and we split amicably (relatively, anyways, after a short time), and are still friends.

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  • Pittabre
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    You see I was with mine for 15 years and it is a sad showing of our marriage that we had no proper friends in common or move in even slightly similar social circle.

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  • Knees
    VIP August 2012
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    I suppose I have 3.

    1. My first serious boyfriend in 6th form. He doesn't live round here anymore so I never have cause to speak to him. We're Facebook friends but never actually speak. If I bumped into him I'd stop for a chat.

    2. No because he's a complete twunt. Again, doesn't live round here, but if I bumped into him I'd grunt hello and that's about it.

    3. I see him more often than the others as he lives here and he's married to my friend! Would only see him if I happened to bump into him in the supermarket (with her) and will stop for a chat (mainly with her).

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  • Pinky6
    Beginner June 2012
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    I don't but if I ever saw him I would be civil, he was a nice guy just not the one for me.

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  • Alreadymarried
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    No, they're exes. Why would I want to stay in contact? They're not my friends. I believe in moving on. Obviously if you've got kids that's different.

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  • pandorasbox
    Beginner August 2012
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    Exactly this. But then again they weren't serious, just flings/FWB, I never had a properly serious lad til OH.

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  • Vanilla Pod
    Beginner September 2011
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    I have got a couple of non serious exes on FB. The "real" ones though, no chance. Wouldn't want to ever see or hear from them again!

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  • Tizzie
    Beginner June 2012
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    I only have one ex and it was not serious AT ALL. We were more like best friends. We're still friends and H gets on with him too. We met up with him and a mutual friend for drinks and it was lovely.

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