Father of the bride speech

Aww i can understand why you are upset about this, the father of the bride speech is one of the things about my day i am most looking forward to. Have you spoke to him about how importand this is to you? if not maybe you should try, if he sees how much you want him to do one he may reconsider, maybe he doesnt see it as a very important thing.

If he's been saying it for a while, maybe he wasn't saying it in a jokey way and you interpreted it that way?

If my dad gushes about how much he loves me and how proud he is of me I'll be slightly miffed - IMO those things should be said to your child anyway, not just when they're getting married...

I'd be devastated if my dad didnt make a speech at my wedding - we are very very close and I adore him.

I think you need to talk to your dad & let him know how important it is for you and how its a vital important part of the wedding day you have always dreamed of. Let him know it doesnt have to be gushy, long etc but just a few heartfelt words.

I actually think your dad might regret not doing one as well in years to come -its kind of his right of passage as well?

If your having a video made it would be a wonderful part of that video - the kind of thing you would watch over & over again.

Thats my opinion anyway - im sure other hitchers will have differing opinions!

I don't necessarily want him to gush or for it to be long, I would just like him to say something. He did for my sister's wedding, so I'd be gutted if he didn't give me the same as he gave her. I know some people hate standing up and talking to a room full of people, H2B is a prime example but he's putting that aside for 5 minutes to let the people who matter know he appreciates (or rather, that we both appreciate) the support we've had. My mum said she'd try to cajole him into saying something, so we'll see.

Whilst I understand that you want your dad to make a speech, he is clearly not comfortable with this - and has told you so. Your dad will at least be there at your wedding.

My dad died 18 months ago - I'd give anything for him to be at my wedding.

Be glad for what you do have.

Maybe you should speak to him yourself and ask him why he doesn't want to do it. Although if you know deep down how he feels about you I'm sure you don't need him to tell everyone else, but I can imagine how you must feel that he wouldn't want to share his feelings on your wedding day.

If he doesn't feel comfortable speaking in public what about if he was to write a letter as if he was doing a speech and have it printed in the order of service/day, just an idea for him to express how he feels without having to stand up and physically saying it. xx

Hi Babypink, I really know where you are coming from. My dad has always said he would not do a speech and I accepted this, as I know he does not like public speaking or being the centre of attention. I have asked my MOH to do a speech instead.

Maybe you could do this and ask her to speak with your dad, to get what he would really like to say?

My dad had just dropped another bombshell, that he won't even stay for the wedding breakfast. As my mum has passed away, I initially felt like he can;t think that much of me to do this. However, I think it's his shyness and I know he loves me loads. As long has he walks me down that ailse. I also accept hee will be missing my mum and it's all too much.

Also you could concentrate on that special moment, when there is the two of you, just before you walk up the ailse. That's what I am trying to do!

Sorry not much help! Hope you have better look changing his mind, than I am having with my dad!

I know my dad will be uncomfortable giving a speech and I know he doesn't really want to do one, but I'll be gutted if he doesn't. He has tried to get out of it by telling me that his brother never had to do it, till I pointed out that his brother has two SONS! lol. Nice try dad!

I know some people feel truely uncomfortable speaking to a group and i am lucky that my dad is not one of them, but i do feel that if your dad managed to say a few words for your sister it is only really fair he does the same for you, you dont seem to have unrealistic expectations of what he can do (ie you dont expect a long gushy speech) have you told him how important it is to you?

My dads speech is going to be off the cuff, i know he hates speaking in public so his speech will be short & sweet. Maybe your dad will do that? It's not so much pressure then.

My dad wouldn't wear a morning suit either but i have managed to bully him into...

Though now yesterday I was told my parents arn't staying at my venue overnight as they need to tend to the dogs.....thanks parents!

Hi Babypink - I hope this gets sorted. But at the end of the day, your wedding day is about you and your H2B. My dad isn't even going to be at my wedding, by choice! So, H2B father is 'giving me away'.

Hope you get it sorted! Big hugs! xx

Do you think that maybe he is still just joking? He could have every intention of saying something at least. My dad said exactly the same about my sisters wedding until 3 days before when he said 'I suppose I should at least thank the guests for coming!) He went on to give a fantastic speech about my sister, the day and how lucky he was to have such a wonderful family, etc, etc. It might be worth letting your dad know you are upset any how.

Im dreading my dads, altho hes a comical guy, hes quite quiet and understated so doesn't shout and isnt the centre of attention........however at my sisters wedding around 10 years ago now, he pulled it out of the bag by giving her new husband a penis enlarger and her a selection of huge vibrators to 'make people laugh'!!

I have this same issue not just with my Dad but with the Best Man too

My Dad is a bit shy with the attention on him (I understand this as I'm like this too), he has said he isn't doing a speech. When my sister got married years ago he did a speech then (well it can't even be classed as one as it was only a few sentences haha). But I would love for him to say a few words about me, we are very close too.

My H2B is having his younger brother as the BM and he has said he isn't doing a speech either.

I don't want speeches to go on and on but a few words would be nice I've been to a wedding where there were no speeches at all and it did seem a bit odd, just going from the ceremony to the sit down meal and eating with no further mention of it being a wedding.

Oh well.

I nearly spat out my tea whilst reading that! That's... incredible and terrible at the same time LOL! Did people laugh?