Fiancé does not want a best man for our wedding!!

What about his dad? or does he have brothers? i think if he doesnt want one then so be it, my oh said if his best mate said no he wouldnt have one...

I really dont think it will matter in photos at all...x

Aw that's a shame, does he have any female friends that he would class as close? Nowadays there are more and more guys chosing ladies as their best person as they were closer to them than a man.

He may come round to it in his own time, but as you have said I wouldn't push the subject too much.

I'm sorry I can't offer better advice Jx

We are not having best man or brids maids as you really do not need them you just need 2 ppl to sigh for you we are having are mums

Which is more important?

Having a 'best man' which your h2b doesn't want?

or both of you having a great day and starting your new life together?

If he doesn't want one, then I'm not convinced there's any need he "has" to have one - any more than you need a church, fancy car, posh reception venue, posh dress, etc etc.

All you need to get married is a licensed venue, registrar, two witnesses and the "I do's". Everything else is just fluff, at the end of the day.

The role of the best man is to be emotional support for the groom, and make sure he gets there on time looking decent. If he can manage that himself then that's fine.

Are you sure it's not that he doesn't want a stag night? I've made it very clear I don't want one, and hope that people will respect my wishes. I know some people - usually based on bad experiences at other people's - have stag night issues.

He doesn't have to have a best man - there's no rule that says he must. My OH is having his sister as best person, but if she had declined we wouldn't have one.As has been said before, you only need a registrar and 2 witnesses for it to be legal.

Maybe you need to tell him how important the whole 'wedding' thing is to you. It's your chance to be a princess for a day, and if his general apathy for the event is affecting you then you need to talk to him. Maybe if he can see how much it means to you he'll go with it, but if he just wants a quiet wedding you're going to have to compromise.

I agree with the other comments - if he doesnt want one, thats fine.!

Don't worry about the photos - you won't even notice it at the time - you'll have more important things to worry over.

Thanks to everyone who replied, its made me feel so much better! I've never heard of a groom not having a best man at a wedding, but then again I've only been to 2, so what do I know!! I've just decided today I am going to have another bridesmaid, so the witnesses and photos part shouldnt be a problem now. I always thought having a best man was to give the groom support and organise stag do etc but my OH does not seem bothered about not having one in the slightest! And I want to keep him happy!

Thanks everyone.

Wifeysoontobe x

A lot of weddings seems to be about 'expectations' rather than what the couple actually want - especially with 'external pressure' put on by friends and family.

I'm quite adamant I don't want a stag night - I see no reason to 'celebrate my freedom whilst I still can' because I'm not giving up my freedom - I'm gaining something far more important. A number of friends can't figure it out because they were looking forward to a night of beer and strippers or something else - neither of which I particularly have any interest in.

I'm sure it'll all work out great for you - the most important thing is "keep communicating", far more than the colour of the bridesmaid's shoes or whether you should pick that shade of pink or that shade of pink for the table decorations....

I understand the logic of this although I saw my down to earth stag night as a celebration of the end of one era and the start of another.

BTW Wifeysoontobe over the years of photographing weddings I have on occasions come across several no best man weddings....it does happen.

H2B was adamant he didn't want a best man, and it annoyed me for a bit but then I thought "that's his choice". Randomly one night he asked his best friend from primary school to be his Best Man (they lost contact for years but are in touch again). That was only last month and we're getting married in 1 month!

We are not having a best man!

My Fiancee has aked his best friend from school to be best man, and he agreed, however as we're getting married in Florida we are aware that as this guy is quite unreliable, that he may not actually come (he hasn't asked when wedding is or anything!)....but OH isn't bothered. He says he doesn't need one, so what's the fuss?!

I think its totally fine for him not to have a best man.

I dont think it will look odd in the photos at all.

Surely its better for him to be happy and have no best man than to have someone he dosnt want

It would be a wee bit strange without one, but you could suggest he could have someone as a "groomsman" maybe instead if you really think you would like some1 else there with him on the day. Being called groomsman, kind of mekes it a wee bit less close of a relationship, if you know what i mean. I can't see why you couldnt have one mind you. If he's more comfortable, then why not. I was BM before and had no partner, and it was fine. He does need a witness tho, so talk to him about that, and maybe it would work that way for you.