Getting jealous of the newbies.......lol

I'm finding the change of names on the posts weird - when I was new I expected not to know anyone and I had just got familiar when all the newbies arrived, and they say the institution of marriage isn't as popular as it was. Wish I was at the exciting decisions stage......just thing though, they'll be jealous our weddings are due to be here so SOON! x

Lol I am a newbie although with 6 months to go not as long to go as some but I am jealous of how close your weddings are and wishing mine was only a few weeks away! ?

Err, no ?

I am glad my planning stages are coming to an end!

I am glad the date is getting nearer to be honest, and did some more work in our "final" wedding book last night and still really pleased with the choices we (and I in terms of my outfit) have made.

Saying that I wish the newbies lots of luck in intial planning - I found that bit rather stressful if I'm honest.

I am loving the planning but I do wish it were sooner and I am quite envious of the B2B's who are nearly there, I just want to be married to him NOW *stamps feet* lol

Don't really know if I'm still considered a newbie or not, but I have to say I'm envious of the B2Bs that are coming up in the next few months! I've got some of the big stuff booked (church, venue, dress, about to book tog) so now theres not much that urgently needs doing and I really wish the wedding was sooner!

Am the same here! wedding June 2012 and so far have booked church/venue/tog and nothing else to do now until next year - although come January and i will be in those bridal shops! he he

I'm the same kj82. I'm now an OM and in some ways, wish i still had a wedding to plan. Its not the fact that i regret anything, I just miss the planning and im now bored and havent got a clue what to do with all the spare time i have now. ☹️ When i was i B2B, i wanted my ticker to fly down and now its gone, i miss it. does that make sense?

Not at all, lol!!!

I'm glad i've only got a couple of months left.

It's not that i haven't enjoyed planning i just want my life and my money back.

Also because so much will be happening for us after the wedding (moving on our own, getting a new car etc) i'm getting excited for that.

For all the newbies, enjoy every minute of it tho coz it does fly by.

Cosmo & Trickers - can I be nosey in a bid to beat the post wedding blues myself? Have you got any other projects going on at the moment?

I am going to have a bit of a tough time after the wedding with OH going away and will probably be a bit down anyway becasue of that but I'm going to be relocating and starting a new job after the wedding and decorating our new house... Do I honestly need to worry about feeling miserable as I am going to be totally alone 200 miles from home? If I am going to be a miserable devil I may try and put off the move until OH returns..

Can someone plan mine for me I have no idea where to start!

unfortunatley no. I'm also being made redundent shortly which didnt really help (i found out 2 hours after coming back from minimoon). I'll probably start decorating the house after xmas but thats about all for now.

I can see what you mean but I don't feel jealous of those who still have ages to wait and those who are nearly there. We've enjoyed all of our planning and, once it's over, we'll enjoy being married. We've got to wait for our proper honeymoon and after that there are careers to advance, houses to buy, and one day, a family to have.

I do think I'll have much better planned parties in the future though!

Well... if you're bored I have at least 2 of my b*tches coming into season straight after Xmas and knowing from previous litters I will have loads of them running around.... so I am going to be soooo busy and needing help lol

@Trickers - Good luck on Project baby. I wish we were at that stage now, but it's going to be a while for me and H2b. Honeymoon sounds like it could be some fun. My planning OCD has extended into finding honeymoon trips and looking for new honeymoon clothes too.

Good Luck with the Baby Project Trickers. Me & H were going to try in the new year, but with us not having/going into permenant jobs, we've had to put it on hold for now. ☹️

Cosmo - that really sucks and the timing couldn't have been worse! I hope that things get better soon and you find a new job (if you haven't already).

Trickers - difficult to decide on the timing then. But they do say there is never a right time and all that. Me and H2b are desperate for kids, but at the same time both feel too young. It's high on our radar of future considerations, but I am scared too. Perhaps for a different reason to you - I guess you understand the consequences and what will happen but for me it's being scared of the unknown.

I'm a newbie (to the forum, been engaged 9 months) and, although I'm really enjoying the planning stage, I'd far rather be close to the wedding. Maybe I'll think differently when I'm closer to the wedding. Grass is always greener!

Kayl - thanks. Both me and H have found new jobs. Although they are not permanent yet. I start my new job in January and have a 20 week probabtionary period. H is on a temp 3 month contract with a view to it becomming permanent after the 3 months.

Trickers - I understand completely how you feel. I was 18 when i had my son and had never really been around babies/kids. I had also considered a termination, but H stood by me and we went ahead with it. (i dont regret it in the slighest). I had quite a long labour (about 36 hours). We now have a wonderful 5 year old who both me and H love to pieces and dont regret going through with it at all. Trouble is now though, I'm getting very broody and want one now! lol.

My brothers girlfriend says exactly the same as you, her little one is a model kid too, although did arrive a few months early weighing only 3lb which was heartbreaking at the time. Her little one is 3 and half now and I think baby number 2 may be on the cards in the next few years. My mom always tells her "you'll never get another one like B".

I feel much the same as how you describe you intial reactions to being pregnant. I've never been around kids, and before I met H2b I was 99% sure i'd never have one, I know it's soppy but things now seem different. Since then I've aquired 3 niece's and nephews under 3 so it's kind of forced my maternal side out. As much as we want a child, sometimes desprately, if I found out I was pregnant tomorrow I would cry for days.. I just don't handle change well.

I had 3 fantastic pregnancies and labours with my boys (they are now 20, 18 & 17). However when I was pregnant with my daughter the pregnancy went ok ish but unfortunately we lost her (stillborn) which then tore us apart and we divorced but when I met my OH I really wanted another baby but again this was taken out of my hands as I had to have a life saving emergency hysterectomy

The only "plus" side to this though is that the boys are all nearly grown and my oldest has left home, middle one going to uni soon etc so we are kinda getting our life back and can go on holidays without packing nappies/bottles etc plus I will be 44 when we get married...

KBS you life story (if you can call it that) makes me even more sure I want kids. It's one thing saying I'm not sure now when I am not aware of anything preventing it. But if I consider being in your position, I know it would hurt me. Thank goodness it saved your life though. And... Another 10 or so years and there may be grandkids? ?

We've already had a "scare" last year when my 20yr old thought that he had got his girlfriend pregnant... One minute I was quite excited at being a Nanna but on the other hand I thought OH God Im going to be nanna! It was a false alarm though, phew lol

No, it doesnt make you sound selfish at all, it sounds like you are a great mum and even if you stay with just having the one child or go on to have another four or more (just kidding) then you will still be a great mum.

However there is a time in your life that you need to take your life back, if that makes sense, now my boys are older I decided to go back and study for my counselling degree as its something I have always wanted to do but couldnt when they were younger as I needed "instant gratification" with regards to my salary. I must admit though it is nice just to say ok lets go away for the weekend or go out for a meal and not have to either take them with us or find a sitter for them, so theres always pros and cons for both...

@ KBS - the fun and games! OHs mom was a Nan at 39! She has her (second) dauther at 20 and her daughter gave birth aged 19.. Now that's an "eek i'm a nan" situation.. She has handled it well though, even though when S calls out "Grandad" in Tesco people give him funny looks.. ?

@ Trickers - I don't think it makes you selfish, I think it makes you responsible and reasonable. Much better (when possible) to really consider the end result of your decision rather than to find yourself unhappy latter.