Gift list or not?

Hello

Many couples don't have gift lists and ask for donations to honeymoon etc.... perhaps changing the wording to: request a gift voucher from: then you can pick a shop you like... could be a clothes shop and you could buy yourself a whole new wardrobe lol !!

HTH

Kim x

We have had pretty much the same dilemma, so in the end have opted for this;

We were unsure as to weather or not we would have a gift list as the best gift on our day is having you all there to share it with us, but if you would like to give a gift here are a few ideas;

Ikea vouchers

Thomas cook travel vouchers

John Lewis vouchers

Cinema vouchers

National Garden centre vouchers

Digital Camera

'Big fluffy' towel sets

The last item was at H2B's request as he REALLY wants some BIG FLUFFY towels!!! lol

We're having a small list of stuff like towels, dinner set cos old stuff is getting ready, just for the more traditional people that would really like to buy a gift. my stepmum sent this with their invitations when they got married

We don’t want to offend you, but we have it all

All the household goods, big and small.

To save you shopping, sit back and rest

A gift of money is our request.

Don’t go berserk or rob any banks,

Any amount will be met with thanks

Now we’ve saved you all the fuss,

Please come and celebrate our marriage with us.

That poem is fantastic!! I love it! Would you mind at all if I used it please??

xx

Oh please, spare you're guests now.

Just send nothing with the invites and be grateful for whatever you recieve.

See that's what we were going to do until my friends pointed out that we might end up with loads of towel sets, vases, glasses, champagne (which neither of us drink) etc! We couldn't store them, give them away or ebay them as that'd just be awful!

I think the voucher selection is a good option for us.

We aren't doing a gift list or putting in a voucher list. am dreading what sorts of horrible glassware sets or toasters we will end up with! am considering having a gift list at john lewis, but i feel kind of awkward asking for specific stuff... so yes i think the voucher idea is great! also i know places like trailfinders and maybe thomas cook (not sure) let u set up an account where people can donate whatever amounts they like toward your honeymoon x

If you really don't need anything why not set up a justgiving website for your favourite charity? Our flat's way too small for any new stuff so we did this. We raised £1,500 for our local Ronald McDonald house.

Please don't use a money poem. We're not putting in any gift list or poems. If people ask us we're going to request vouchers for argos or ikea or them kind of shops as we're currently living in a flat. We plan to get a house in the next few years when i qualify so would like new things then. If we receive gifts we will just say thanks. I'm hoping for some nice towels, bedding and plates if we do. A few people have already asked and said they'd give us money towards our honeymoon, so we can spend it there.

I'm sure that was just a joke, but if that was on an invite to me then they wouldn't get what they asked for!! I know someone who asked for spending money for honeymoon and they spent it on clothes and stuff. I know guests who were not impresed as they had assumed it would be spent on experiences.

We are having a John Lewis gift list. We have lived together for a while but have a mismatch of stuff.

We're having a small list from John lewis for the traditionals and asking people for vouchers for Thomas Cook so we can have a decent honeymoon later in the year. Personally I expect a list, or at least people to indicate where they want vouchers from - I think cash is slightly cheeky but not vouchers for some reason??

I think it's cos they could spend cash on their leccy bill or whatever - it's not really a gift!

Please no poem! Just ask outright!

As you well know, we have now lived together for x number of years and therefore have everything we need for the house so aren't compiling a gift list. However, if you would still like to give us a gift, vouchers for the following stores would be very much appreciated.

Our problem is that we wanted to do a honeymoon guest list but due to booking our honeymoon with virgin and the fact that we are going straight after the wedding we were going to ask for cash so that we could pay off our honeymoon. If we asked for virgin vouchers I think it would be too late as we would have had to already have paid the holiday off.

What would you do?

Our problem is that we wanted to do a honeymoon guest list but due to booking our honeymoon with virgin and the fact that we are going straight after the wedding we were going to ask for cash so that we could pay off our honeymoon. If we asked for virgin vouchers I think it would be too late as we would have had to already have paid the holiday off.

What would you do?

xx

I think RaeF's wording is really good - simple and direct. I know some people do like poems though - it's a question of different tastes, so up to you - I think you can find a lot of examples via google.

LauraJane,this company could be ideal for you. http://www.honeymoney.co.uk/index.asp I think it is nicer for a guest to be able to choose what they are paying for, rather than just a set amount of vouchers. The company transfer the cash over, so it won't matter that you have already paid for everything!

We didn't include anything about gift lists on the info sheet and when people have asked, we;ve just said we don't want anything - come to our wedding.

I know there will be some who will bring something and you can't stop that really if they decide to get something so we may end up with some vouchers and money.

Good God NOOOOOOO, please don't use a money poem they're bloody awful and so bloomin twee.

If you want something then ask for it.

I'd be tempted to ask for dollars or whatever the currency is for your honeymoon for spending money, but also give guests the option that 'vouchers for any high street store would be very much appreciated' and 9 times out of 10 you'll get Debenhams or John Lewis to spend when you get back!

In terms of those honeymoon lists I think they are quite a nice concept - but how much can you use them on? A friend had one on notatoaster.com but pretty much everything was flight upgrades and hotel space - so it may as well have been vouchers. Also, sorry, but I'd be really reluctant to go with a wesbite - had a friend who got burned by wrapit and that was pretty well established. I'm really amused btw that I tried to be quite tactful about poems saying "people have different tastes" and everyone else has barged right in there!

LJR - have a chat with Virgin and see if they do anything where people can contribute although you've paid it off? I know John Lewis do this, so it's possible Virgin do.

Re the wanting to pay for something specific, I think we're going to post pics of the honeymoon on our website - so people know what they're getting!

Round of applause.

You'll be surprised at how FEW 'towels, champagne glasses, toasters' you will get.

and as for money poems .. twee and cringe-worthy.

you wouldn't put a gift list in a birthday invite would you?

My 'round of applause' was to memedoaky.

That's my thoughts entirely ?

No. But I have never, ever been to a wedding where there wasn't a list - going back 12 years! I'm really surprised people on here are so against them tbh.

Me neither! And I have been to a lot - virtually ALL of my friends/cousins etc are married now! So you can see why I thought it was the done thing ?

I hate going to a wedding where there is no gift list, as I want to buy something that the couple really want (and will hopefully keep for a few years). I don't like being asked for vouchers or cash either. If a couple are lucky enough to have already got everything for their home that they could ever dream of, then I would rather they had a charity gift list.

We didn't do a gift list of any sort, just asked for donations towards cancer research uk. people were great and donated nearly £3k!!!

in any case, we did get money for our honeymoon, some john lewis vouchers and also some other bits and pieces.

just ask for what you want, don't make it all flowery with a money or gift list poem, which are naff and twee to the highest degree. just say - we do not expect you to buy us anything, but if you would like to, we would love vouchers for X.

I think Bluewater's wording is excellent.

We weren't sure about a list as we really did have everything we needed. However, most of it was of the "morrisons first home" type range so we set up an amazon list and asked for stuff to upgrade it. We didn't make a masive fuss about having a list and only told people about it if they asked. As a result we got quite a lot of glassware - all of which is lovely and I'm very grateful for. Most of it is under the bed in the spare room for now but will come out for special occassions/when the day to day ones start getting old/chipped. We also got a set of heart shaped ice-cream spoons which I would never have put on a list but are so cute I love them!