gutted :-(

Thats such a shame! Im sorry to hear that, hope everything works out for you x

Oh Hun, I'm so sorry to hear your Dad is poorly. Keep strong for him, and stay positive for you. He is in the right place and the Drs and nurses know what they are doing. Big Internet hugs winging their way to you x

Unfortunately I understand all too well. My Dad has just had a heart attack - finding out tomorrow what they are going to do to treat it. My thoughts kinda spun to the wedding but I'm just trying to stay focused on him and hoping he's ok. That's what's important right now.

Sounds like your Dad has a bit of buzz about him. Everything crossed for a speedy, speedy recovery xx

Eternally-- this is what my oh had- his was a right sided bleed in the brain stem -my oh walked down the aisle on our big day 3 weeks ago with a lot of determination-

hope your dad has a very speedy recovery and dont take NO as an answer fom any of the docs xx

I hope your dad gets well soon.

So sorry to hear this. Hope your Dad gets better soon

Sorry to hear your news, he sounds very positive so hopefully that will help

Oh gosh so sorry to hear that, stay positive honey!, sounds liek your dad's determined to be there!

What a terrible situation for everyone involved. Hopefully once they get some more information the prognosis will be positive. My Dad had a stroke 2 years ago and although it knocked it out of him for a while, he is pretty much better now. Strokes are horrible things, and as you said, the situation could have been far worse, which is what we thought when it happened to us. Your Dad will be utterly determined to get better for your big day, and he sounds like a fighter! X

I don't really know what to say but I didnt want to read and leave!

I hope your dads makes a swift recovery!! xx

Oh no! EternallyMe and Vicster I feel so bad for you. I really wish your fathers the best and speediest recoveries. I'll keep my fingers tightly crossed that all goes well for them both.

So sorry to hear your news. My stepmum had a massive stroke a couple of years ago and she got noticeably better each day. Try and keep positive and hopefully he'll surprise you!

Hi eternallyme,

I totally know where you are coming from as my dad had a stroke 8 weeks ago and left us all totally devastated. Dad had a bleed on the right hand side with total paralysis on the left side. We originally thought it was a mini stroke but then had the dreadful news that it was a big stroke. He was very very poorly for a couple of weeks and, since he was first admitted, he has come on in leaps and bounds. He has intense physio each day and the doctors, nurses and physios cannot believe the progress he has made.

Thankfully, he hasnt lost his humour, can remember everything that has happened, what is happening in the future, can eat, talk, swallow and, like you, so thankful that he is still with us as it could have been a lot worse.

Obviously, my wedding is constantly on my mind and we found out on Monday evening that it is down to the doctors to say if he will be allowed out to walk (well he will be in a wheelchair being pushed by mum) me down the aisle. They have said that it could "knock him back" a few weeks if he comes out for the ceremony/day/hour which is something that we will have to think about to.

The other problem we also have is that the stroke has left dad incontinent at the moment and he would be totally horrified if he messed on the day and would destroy him as, no doubt like your dad, is a very very proud man.

There is nothing i want more than to have dad walk me down the aisle as i have waited so long to find my knight in shining armour and the wedding is something that we have all looked forward to for a long time.

I know dad will do everything he can to make it and even said to my sister on Monday evening "oh, i havent written my speech yet so bring in some paper please"! Like your dad, he tells the nurses and doctors about the wedding and is giving him something to focus on.

I know exactly where you are coming from as it has totally torn me apart too and constantly feel as if i have been punched in the chest. All a girl ever wants is her daddy to walk her down the aisle.

Wishing your dad a speedy recovery and, as my H2B keeps saying, "baby steps darling, baby steps, he will get through this".

Giving you a "hug" ? and sending my love to you.

Sally xxx

Sally, sorry to hear about what you are also going through though the progress must be really encouraging. Really hope he makes it out - but as a back up is there anyway you could go see him on the day and maybe even have the wedding blessed there with him?

So sorry to hear this, Sal, Eternally and Vicster. Sending internet wierdie hugs to all of you and keeping everything crossed that they all make speedy recoveries.

Hi Vicster

So sorry to hear about your dad too, hugs to you. It is very encouraging the progress that dad has made and we are crossing everything that he will be out, even if its only for the ceremony. We have already decided that should he not make it out, that we will be going up to see him in hospital but i know it will break my heart to leave him. We also have decided that we will have a blessing next year if he doesnt make it out. We are taking each day as it comes and every day progress is made (even though sometimes very small). He is a very determined man. They are such a worry arent they??

Love and ? to you and wishing your dad a speedy recovery.

Sally xx

Yup... I'm sitting here waiting to hear if the doctors want to do an angioplasty or bypass surgery. if its the bypass then there's no way he'll make it and i don't know what we'll do. the wedding is 350 miles from my parents home. i'm trying not to think about that though. it's horrible sitting waiting.

but their health is the priority and its brilliant that your dad is making such progress and so quickly after a major stroke.

Thank you Jen. xxx

Im really sorry to hear about your dad, that is so sad. but it sounds like hes a fighter, which is a good thing. The idea of a blessing and seeing him on the wedding day too is a good idea, maybe a little party on the ward will cheer everyone up too? Im sure the nurses would love to see him with you all so happy on the morning. I hope he makes a speedy recovery, let us know how he gets on, i have my fingers crossed for you. x

I know this isn't much consolation, but my dad had a triple bypass about 7 years ago. He was out of hospital 6 days later and within less than two weeks was able to walk around the block and on his way to being fighting fit. Bearing in mind that was seven years ago, I'm sure they will have made even further improvements. He is fitter now and healthier than he was for years before the surgery. I know you have such a tight time frame with your wedding being so close, but the wedding aside, the bypass was the best thing that ever happened to my dad - he is honestly like a new man. I just wanted you to know that although a bypass sounds so scary, it can be a really good thing and make so much difference. I hope that your dad gets the right treatment and that he's much better soon.

It is awful the sitting and waiting and thinking - im sure that we have all done enough of this to last forever and a day.

What Jen has said sounds very hopeful with her dad having a bypass and yes, 7 years in the medical world, could only mean that it has got better and better.

Fingers crossed for you Vicster.

Sally xxx

Thank you Debs - he sure is a fighter and one helluva strong man!

Sally xxx

I am sorry to hear this. I hope your dad manages a full recovery. xx

So sorry to hear this. Hope he makes a speedy recovery.

Sorry to hear this. Sending wishes that your dad is back on his feet and feeling better soon x

Oh bless you, hope your Dad get's better soon. He sounds like he's trying to be positive x

Thanks to all for your kind words. All positive vibes welcome!

Just had a call to say that he should be transferred to Wessex Neuro at Southampton within the next hour so that's a good thing - they will be able to look more at whats happened and why. He is making a good recovery with his movement but he is concerned about his legs as they can get weak very quickly if he doesnt have his medication for his other condition (he has been vomiting again so nothing is staying down)! But we can deal with that.... he has learnt to walk twice before so he can do it again.

Im still having waves of emotion and hate that feeling of waking up and realising that it's all still real. Was going to try to go to work today but just couldn't get out of bed. Need to post of the form to the registrar with the little details but i don't know what to do about the bit that says my dad will walk me down the aisle.... i just don't know yet how well he will be.

Having to make sure that my mum and youngest brother eat and look after themselves as they are both unwell too and just don't think about themselves.

BIG HUGS to vicster and Sally too... as I say F-ing parents!! Love them to pieces but man, do they cause some heart ache and stress!

Awwww hun i hope it all goes well and your dad makes a full recovery.

hugs.

Karina xx

I am sorry to hear this, wishing him all the best. Jx

Phone the registrars, tell them what's happening and ask can you make a last minute decision on being walked down the aisle. I'm sure they will be more than understanding. you don't need to think about that now.

so glad he's making recovery! dad is home but we're waiting to hear what action they are going to take as he has one major blockage and two minor. This is his second heart attack but I have no idea if that makes any difference in terms of treatment.

the wedding is probably a great thing for your family - something really positive to focus on and be strong for hugs x

Sorry to hear this... everything crossed for you.

And to the others! x

So sorry to hear that. I hope he continues to make good progress. x