How excited is your h2b?

Welcome! And congratulations!! Tell us about the proposal! ?

Mine is quite excited. Though as with everything we do, I am the organiser so I look for things, select a few options and then we chat about them, make the decision and then I book them. But everything seems to be organised/planned already for ours so there's not much we're needing to do at the mo.

When we chose our invitations, I looked on VistaPrint, found some I liked and started playing about with a few options. I showed him and we sat one night and discussed wording etc and then that was it - job done. I went away and did all the online purchasing and what have you.

Have you chosen any dates yet? I think a lot of men can't get excited about things until 1) they're actually "real" and 2) nearer the time ?

Hi & welcome!!!

My OH isn't v excited either - think its a guy thing!!!!

Hi Flutterbye,

Congratulations! Have you picked a day yet? Is it a long/short engagement??

My OH is like yours he's extremely happy, and says things like "I can't wait till our wedding day" He just doesn't seem excited to me!lol I'm all hair, dresses, shoes and flowers too, so he's just opted for playing his PS3 and half listening! haha

We haven't booked anything or planned anything yet, but once we do, it's all up to me, he just wants to turn up on the day!! lol x

Hi and Welcome!

My OH is really looking forward to ours, and we make all the decisions together so im really lucky!

My fella didnt seem that excited to me....then i read his facebook wall and he had been banging on to everyone about it??? I was very surprised and happy to see it. He also gets appears to get excitd when i tell him daily how many days to go it is but i think this is just t keep me happy!! lol xx

Hi and welcome! ?

My other half gets quite excited about the day, and some of the planning bits, he doesnt get very excited about stationary and flowers etc but he loves planning his outfit and the reception, food and things like that.

Thanks everyone!

He proposed when we were in Barcelona a couple of weeks ago We were in the park there wandering around... there were some buskers playing music, and he turned round and asked me. No bended knee as there were too many other people around! We haven't set any dates yet - the first step is telling everyone and buying an engagement ring! After that I think (hope!) we will start thinking about the wedding - hopefully it'll be next summer sometime as we've no reason to have a long engagement.

He certainly thinks it's a "man thing", that was his excuse for not being so excited. I am wondering if that'll change though once other people know - it'll certainly seem more real once his family hear the news. I also think he is too much of a control freak to leave everything to me, so at least I know I won't have to do everything

Hi, welcome to Hitched and Congratulations

Mine isn't as excited about all the little details like I am, and although he wants to be involved with decisions, he really isn't bothered by all the little details. He is helping to make the invites, and is very excited about honeymoon.

I think with most men they don't share the same excitment we do, but doesn't mean they dont care at all. For example, I recently found out he has a countdown on his work computer and he now sometimes tells me how long we have left, which I think is lovely as it's not something I expected him to keep an eye on!

Edited to add - We went to a friend's wedding earlier this yr and he did get very excited then...."next yr this will be us", "I want us to do this and that" etc.

Hi Flutterbye!

welcome to hitched! xxx

How are you getting married in 10 months and not have planned anything? - envious, very envious!

Elizabeth... I totally sympathise with you.

I am a designer (interior) and I think the creative flare means that OH trusts me to make all the right decisions for the wedding day. He isn't very imaginative when it comes to this kind of thing, but he is good at helping me decide.
For a while I was a bit p*ssed off that he wasn't coming up with ideas, but as he keeps reminding me... I am the brains and he is the brawn. He will gladly run about all over town doing my errands, but he can't find a flower that he "loves". hehe

I kind of like his manly take on the whole thing. Especially when I get texts that read " I can't wait to call you my wife"

nice wee balance I think.

My OH was really excited when we found the venue, not overly bothered about the photographer or videographer (which was fine by me, it didn't really excite me that much either!) he was actually really interested in the invitation designing (a family friend made ours) and had quite a lot of input in that, and now that we're starting to consider the food he's really interested in that too. He's also been great with the honeymoon. The only thing he's had zero interest in so far are the flowers, which I can understand.

To be honest, all of the little things like favours, the cake, all the decoration/colour scheme stuff really bores me too, but obviously I want the wedding to look beautiful so I still look into it all and put some thought into it, but I can understand how a lot of guys leave those things to the brides-to-be!

Not even remotely, even at this late stage (although he has started to say he's getting butterflies and at a friend's wedding earlier this year said he was "bricking it" that it was going to be us in a few months time ?. ) I've have tried and tried to get him to give me some input into ANYTHING at all about the whole day but it really is like drawing teeth. Right at the start we joked about him just turning up on the day but it pretty much has turned out that way, which I have to confess to having mixed feelings about. On the one hand I have pretty much got what I want about everything but at the same time I wish the day was going to be more about "US" than "ME".

Eeek, how long does it take to plan a wedding?! If we decide to get married next summer then we have far less than 10 months for planning... ?

This is definatly a man thing!!

My other half was really excited about our engagement because he had been planning it for a whole year ?. I must admit it was the best proposal i could of ever asked for!

But now the excitment of that has died down he doesnt seem as excited about wedding. He's been involved and im trying my best to include him. However, i dont think men get the whole dress, colour schemes and the fact that everything must be perfect and matching! Lol.

I have to say i felt pretty upset after we got engaged cause my family and friends didnt seem to bothered about it all (altho pleased). None of them have had any involvement in planning so far and still dont seem overly interested (apparently too many things going on in their lives at moment and they will after xmas!) So my poor fiance has to listen to my rants/ideas and general ramblings about weddings. So i probably cant blame him for losing a little interest lol.

Hi

welcome to hitched my oh is excited but men dont show it the same as us, he likes to add his personal touch in to things along the way but has said he does not want to do flowers and stuff dont blame him ha ha x

A wedding?........are we getting married is the response from my OH. He has no interest in the wedding at the moment!

H2B isn't all that excited about the planning, but I am more of a socialiser than him. He is however very excited about his shoes (bless) and suit. He's said he can't wait to say his vows and that "he just knows he's going to cry".

He has however said that he's so excited about getting married because he thinks I'm "the only candidate for being the mother to my children. But not yet of course, we want lots of fun first". He's organising the honeymoon and the wedding night hotel and is very serious about the romance of it all!

My OH is interested in the manly issues (cars, suits, stag night!) and the main issues (church, venue) but ask him about colour schemes and seating plans and he gets a vacant look on his face.

I know he's excited though cos he mentions it to his mates a fair bit. At least I can get it out of my system on hitched without boring OH (and everyone else I know) to tears.

From proposal to wedding is about 9 months for us. Plenty time ?

Welcome to Hitched and congratulations on your engagement!

My H2B is excited but he doesn't really show it, if you catch my drift! He's been somewhat involved as I have found and booked various bits and bobs, and if I'm stuck on a decision, I would run it by him and would give me a level-headed answer. He's going to go and get his own suit and I've suggested one with a waistcoat which he's up for getting.

Come Christmas, he will definitely be excited as we'll be getting married in just over 3 months by then! ?

Hi Flutterbye and welcome to hitched. When my OH proposed to me I told my family that evening and he told his immediate family but took awhile to tell the rest of the his family and I had to wait a few weeks before I could put it on facebook which was very frustrating!! I was like you in wanting to start looking at dresses, venues, dates, colours... straight away but he seemed very disinterested in it all. We had a long chat about it & all is well now I just think many guys don't get as excited initially. He's excited about the wedding but doesn't spend as much time on th einternet searching for wedding ideas as me! Its more that I find the different things (like venues, bands & photographer) & give him choices.

Enjoy your planning

Men are so similar! My H2B is excited about things like the cars n stag night. And initially he kind of left me to deal with everything else - till 3 weeks ago when he suddenly said he was going to 'get involved'. Today he came with me to a wedding stationery consultant and a photographer, and he's coming to a cake tasting and another tog tomoro! I often do research, for example on favours, n then email him my fave few options for comments. Its nice to have him involved now, but he is suddenly trying to change things I'd planned - like add in peach to my colour scheme of ivory and silver!!! He is v v v nervous about saying vows and is certain he will cry! Oh and as for dress and shoes - not interested at all! Luckily got 4 great BMs to chat to. Also I want it to be a surprise so don't want him to know anything about my look on the day! Sorry for the essay in reply lol

I'm so glad i've found this! i've been having a bit of a wobbler with OH over last few days. Every time i mention how much we still have to do, his reply is simply 'don't worry, it'll sort!' Yeah by who, the wedding fairy!!

he's not particularly interested in much, brought home a few invitation samples the other day (his granny is making them for us) n he helped make a decision on that after being asked about 6 times. wanted to wear a brown suit that he bought a few years ago instead of hiring one (he was told that a) brown wouldn't look right with purple, BM colours, n b) its a special day, want him to look nicer than just his old suit)

then brought home a few hols brochures yesterday, bribed him into looking n said he didn't want to waste £1000 on a holiday, would rather pay about half that even though i'd like somewhere abroad n warm! money isn't that tight as my dad has given us £10000 to spend on the wedding & our house if there's any left (wedding is coming in around £8000) and we have a bit of savings ourselves.

sorry for the essay n rant but really could have rung his neck as honeymoon was kind of straw that broke the camels back!

This sounds sooooo familiar!!!!! Up until the last week my OH has constantly said to me "why do we have to this just now" when I try to get a move on with things like booking bands, ordering stationery etc, " can we think about it later" when I ask him to make a final decision on the guest list or anything for that matter and its only been this week that hes actually realised that we are less than 5 months to go, its nearly Xmas and hes glad I've been working away in the background making headway on everything. He did actually say on Tuesday if it wasn't for me he didn't think this wedding would actually be able to go ahead.

He did tell the people at his work that I was a brilliant wedding planner which was quite nice ?

I think as long as you at least run things past them (whether they are interested or not) at least they are involved and can't say they didn't get any say. Its up to them to take an interest.

I think I'm one of the lucky ones, my h2b is actually really excited and we're not getting married til Oct 2011. He talks about it all the time, he's booked next sunday off work to come to a wedding fair, he was the one who instigated the trips to the venues and he's the one flicking through the magazines before I get chance to!!!

I'm pretty lucky too. My o/h has been brilliant with making phone calls and researching different bits and pieces. He also is pretty good at chivvying me along if he thinks I'm not getting on with things fast enough for his liking! Lol. He spent hours drafting out our invitation print outs and an information sheet, bless him. I can't stand that kind of thing, so it's a good job he likes to do it. As for being "excited", I can't really say that he gets excited about much, but he's definitely looking forward to it!

Hi everyone

I am quite newly engaged - four weeks ago. My OH is as excited as me, actually some times more so and I have to reign him in!! He even had a bit of a moan about not being involved enough, so although I am doing all the research we are then making decisions together. My Mum said she thinks it's lovely how excited he is, so I hope it stays this way!

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