How much input has your H2B had?!?

Loads! It's lovely that he's so interested and wants to be involved, but frustrating when he doesn't agree with my opinion as we're both very stubborn...

Santorini - how lovely x

None lol, he says he trusts me and know i will do a fab job... He just know to turn up and say I DO x

Hmm, minimal. He obviously helped chose the venue and has given his opions on most things but hasnt actually "done" much.

My husband was working away lots on the run up to our wedding. He always said narrow it downtown five & we'll choose together. We booked our church wedding & venue together. Photographer we picked then we bottled it and chose a more traditional tog big mistake lacked any form of creativity whatsoever yet their work impressed us at the time we booked . Vog we booked together we liked him. Invites, flowers orders of service etc were left to me but he did keep hold onto the wedding budget as I could've spent thousands more lol!

Tracey x

Lots when it's something he's interested ? he charmingly calls it "meddling" and doesn't get why I'm freaking out at him. He said he doesn't want to be the stereotypical groom who just turns up on the day, he wants to be fully involved - which is fine. But some of the crazy ideas he's coming up with...gah it's driving me a little mad. Oddly, it's over things like invites and centrepieces, rather than, I don't know, suits for example ? plus we're both stubborn so we've probably had more spats in the last 6 months than we have over the rest of the 5 years we've been together ?

My OH is hilarious because he says he wants to be really involved but basically what that means is he wants me to come up with a shortlist and then he tells me which one he likes. Usually what I do is make the decision and then make up some other options that blatantly aren't as good and then show him! He's happy, I'm happy.....everyone wins!

My OH has been involved in picking out the venue so far. He and his BM will be choosing their suits, under the strict supervision of FSIL, choosing the cake topper, and planning the entire honeymoon. So if I end up on a week long golf holiday, I only have myself to blame!

He's quite happy for me to plan everything else, so long as he gets a look in every once in a while!

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None at all!!! And although this did upset me to start with I have to say has worked out very well, I get to have everything I want....... may sound selfish, however he is happy to let me arrange it all and trusts me with the budget so that's fine with me!

Some

He picked the suits/cravats/shirts/cufflinks. He proofreads all the stationery as I'm doing it and suggests additions/amends, he is helping sort gifts for the wedding party, he booked the hotels, he made his own shortlist for the ceremony music which we picked together. He did all the paperwork for the registrar and arranged for us to give notice.

He hasn't had much to do with the decorations as according to him 'i have a better mental image of how it's going to look and what goes with that'. I'm ok with that!

Mine is interested and has been very into sourcing the venue. I keep finding him on eBay looking up things for the wedding, and he's had a few good ideas about bigger stuff, but the majority of it, especially the necessary minutiae, is all down to me. Asking him to choose if he wants his cravat to be the same or a contrasting colour to those of his groomsmen is an exercise in futility ?

Some, he is very good at finding bargins! the down side is the second he has found something good I then have to endure a day off I found that when it turns up!! Last time he did it I quickly reminded him of ALL the things I have done, he soon shut up ?

We did everything together except for my dress/hair/makeup and his suit.

We both got married so we both equally shared in the planning of our day. I dont understand why some grooms dont want to get involved.

We are doing it together all of it except the dress and suits which we will do seperately. its been really nice planning together and has brought us closer together.

We picked the venue together - apart from that I gave him beer to look into, it is his profession - he still hasn't done it!! If he wants to be involved I give him something to research next minute he is looking at bike websites again.

If he does share a opinion I normally don't like it!

My friend planning her wedding says they have made every decision together - basically means she showed him options and he picked, or agreed with her because she talked about it during the rugby. Haha what works for her to make it feel a joint effort

He wants to be involved in the decision making as he didn't want to feel like he had turned up to a strangers wedding but I have done more of the research and legwork. We have discussed everything together which has meant some of my ideas have been vetoed. I by no means think my ideas are better and he is a lot more stubborn than I am! He chose the venue, cake, colour and favours. He's got a lot better the closer it gets but I have had to shout at him a few times about helping out more with making the invites, favours etc as a lot of it is diy and he just sits there watching me do it. I have really appreciated his help, it wouldn't have felt right to me planning it by myself but that's probably because I'm an awful decision maker and have little to no organisational skills! If he could help out with the more practical side he would be almost perfect haha!

I've done all of the researching etc but we have made the final decisions together. He doesn't want input into decorations because he just doesn't think (or care) about things like that. He wants to choose his own suit and wont let me see it which I am fine with, if a little afraid! We will go to all the appointments together, whether he wants to or not!

Less than I thought so far.

He always has a say in descions but basically always goes with what I say. He did say when he proposed that I could have ' whatever I want' and so far hes trusted me and is happy with all the decision we/I have made so far.

He did help with the venue and also booking the photographer so that we could have two opinions on those really important things.

Most other things are gonig to be down to me...spent the weekend making our Save the dates...I asked him to help and he declined saying that he would probably mess them up!

I am really happy with how it's going so far, as I know he will be there when I need him.

Hmmm he's had quite a bit of input so far which is nice but at the same time I'm trying to control his slightly crazy ideas and reign him in.

He was at one stage talking about having a flotilla of swan pedalos to get the bridal party from the church to the reception.

He also said that as he had a best man, he also wanted a wurst boy ( yes the sausages) at the wedding.

This might sound completely bizarre to you but this is everyday life for me!

He did choose the car and will be picking the suits and will also have a huge involvement in the food as he's a big foodie.

We both did loads of research into venue and tog and he's very chuffed he found our venue!! we both designed the invites but I did most of the work ?

and I have done most of the leg work for everything else but always get his opinion on everything and we decide together.

? This really made me laugh - men are so easily fooled!

My OH has been involved in some stuff - I have mainly asked him to sort things he can relate to, like the food, band, honeymoon, transport etc. There is absolutely no point in trying to get him involved with invitations, flowers etc. With these, I basically picked what I wanted and then got him to give it a thumbs up. Fortunately we have quite similar taste and he was happy with it all.

I do get frustrated though in that he thinks all the little extras I want to do are pointless (ie. little touches like flip flops baskets) and a waste of time. He also questioned why I spent hours designing and making the invitations given that most people will just chuck them in the bin (apparently). Grr!

This is why men cannot be trusted on their own with wedding planning! ?

I'm still at the early stages, but he's been quite involved. From the time we were engaged we've sat down together and said "if we could have anything we want, what would you want?" ... "now we know that's not possible, what would you like?" etc. I've had several people tell me I should just overrule what he wants because "it's my day" and I shouldn't let his silly boy ideas get in the way. But it's his day, too. And if he wants something, if we can afford it and I don't hate it then he can have it. (E.g. he's very big on tartan. So he's going to wear a kilt. I don't like tartan- although I don't hate it- so the idea of me wearing a tartan sash has been permanently nixed)

He had input on the venue and the guest list and will have input on the suits and choose his own ring.

Everything else is all mine ?

He usually buts in with his 2p worth after the decision has been made! He says he doesn't care, just do what I want but actually has fairly strong opinions about certain things ?

He does like to tell everyone how he chose the venue though!! We were both sat side by side on laptops searching and showing each other ones we liked, he happened to be the one that came across ours - buts obv we wouldnt' have booked it if I didn't like it!!

Swan pedalos hahahaha!!! thats made me laugh!!....

Pretty much most have some input them, mine is happy with picking his suit and his ring and the venue over here, everything else he isnt to fussed about!!.. i choose the colour scheme and the theme, although he did mention he really wanted bright pink in the colour scheme lol!!!..... I know what he is like though so im pretty glad he lets me get on with it, i have an idea in my head what i want it to be like and i just get the money from him and go and guy it lol!! he always says his input is the money mine is everything else!! lol

i read an article not long ago in a bridal magazine about a groomzilla who after going with his missus to view a few venue's decided to book one without telling her in new york, booked the flights and hotel and all the other stuff over there, he then flew over to milan i think it was to have his suit and shoes made by prada, and the bride ended up buying her dress from ebay!!! he picked virtually everything for the wedding!...... he told her about new york and she was upset that only a few family members could go but she did love the wedding!!! i was like oh my god!!!! wouldnt be impressed if mine did that xx xx

My OH has been pretty good at helping, he just did whatever I told him to do, and is very grateful to me for all the planning I have done. I gave him all the ringing around to do if it was something I couldn't do online and he has had some groomzilla moments too! He definitely wanted a certain colour scheme, a sweetheart table (after he realised it was an option), table names, certain food and drink choices and most recently put his foot down very determindly about us spending any more of our non existent budget on getting a photobooth ☹️

The other day when I showed him the mock up table plan, he said in all innocence, 'Oh look at that, your mum has ended up near you, and my gran and dad have ended up sat near me. And those 2 who don't speak to each other are on seperate tables. That's cool.'

Yes dear, they 'ended up' there completely by accident! And the ones with babies are near the exits by coincidence, along with all our friends being seated next to partners and someone they have something in common with!

We had a talk at the start and decided that he would keep his hand off all the DIY things, that way I cant shout at him about messing them up! Saying that I cant stop the slight feeling of annoyance that I feel when I have been sat there for 3 hours making things while he watches!! Poor guy can never win!

Mine has been involved in everything, and can be a little groomzilla-ish in a good way!

Ours is very much a joint venture! He reads all my wedding magazines to get ideas too.

When we started planning, we each sat and wrote down any specific things we thought MUST be included and have incorporated them all.

He does have occasional mad ideas, and we joke that his new catchphrase is "I could make that cheaper" but we always work together to compromise and agree.

The only thing he isnt at all bothered about is colours and obviously my outfit.

He has helped to choose everything, well apart from my outfit. We've decided it all together, which I quite like (although sometimes it would be nice to just get exactly what I want hehe)

Mine doesn't want me to make a decision without him, but he also doesn't particularly want to help. Typical man, right? A the moment I'm getting away with making a short list and then presenting him with a few options. Although I have told him that planning our honeymoon is totally down to him, and I'm going to make sure I stick with that.