How often is enough?

Once or twice a week for us, we are busy at work and have a very tiring 2 year old, dont usually go to bed together lol!!

At least once a day, before i had my youngest son anyway.

Now it's more like 3 or 4 times a week, which OH isn't happy about. But then it's not him sorting the house out after a big move, and looking after 2 kids 24/7...

6 months! ?

we have a horizontal dance a couple of times a week, obviously there are some weeks when one of us or both are knackerd so its not as often. I think the longest we have gone is a maybe 2 weeks. but then we make an effort to have a nice evening in or keep a sat/sun morning free so we can have a long lie in!

We used to be at least once a week, but Oh has recently been told by his docs that we are not allowed to because he has muscular problems with his bladder and doesn't want anything to aggrivate things ? That was 5 months ago [:'(]

The 6 month thing shocked me!! One of them was even longer (I think she said 16 months).

I was in an unhealthy relationship before I met H, where it was maybe once every 3 or 4 months, now it's more like 3 or 4 times a week.

I wonder how common it is to go for months at a time without a b0nk.

Quite common for some of my friends. About 4 of my friends have said it's been a few months since they have DTD, mainly down to stress in their relationship. Although there is one who doesn't want her H coming near her as he is mentally abusing her.

It was a couple of months for me and OH during my pregnancy, but we soon got back to it.

6 months! Once a week is probably the norm for us. OH is so busy during the week that we rarely go to bed at the same time.

Once a week minimum for us. I think both of us would be grumpy if it was any less!!?

We currently average about twice a week, which is enough...but I would want more if we weren't so busy and exhausted all the time. When we go on holiday it's every day, so I think back home general life just gets in the way.

yes i would find it worrying!! at the moment Mr F is studying for exams so managing twice a week as hes alwasy stressy....normally tho id say 4-5times a week is the norm

Eeeeesh! Dont be so nosey ?!!!! for the record 6 months ouch! Although I think its more common than you think - But then define enough? enough to some poeple may be every 6 months, and enough for others could be twice a day.... can you imagine!

WSS. Everyone is different.

I think I've forgotten what I'm supposed to do it's been that long

Enough was the question as in, how much is enough for whoever reads the thread.

I understand everyone is different, I just wondered how many people would be happy with once every six months, or less even?

I think as long as you are in tune with each other then there is no problem!!

Good point!

Wow 6 months? Wouldn't things start to 'dry up'? Ha- Joke!

My OH has a low sex drive whereas mine is very high...ive never met a man who can keep up with it.....since we moved in together our jiggy jiggy time has been affected as we have 4 nosy kids, who hear everything! we try and make time for each other at weekends but its difficult when he is working them!

I remember reading that there's a group that will issue you with a 'born again virgin' certificate if you abstain for 7 years.

I guess we average once or twice a week, but I've had relationships where it was twice a day or 3 times a year. The longest I ever went was 15 years, but since then never more than 6 months!

15 years! Were you not going off your head?!

Clearly not getting enough !

Twice a week at the moment because OH is always asleep when I leave for work and I'm often asleep/barely awake by the time he gets home at night. Usually it can be anything between twice a day to once a week. I've noticed being on the pill has really affected how often I want it. The longest we ever went without was 3 weeks and we were both going a bit crazy by the end of it -can't imagine going 6 months+!

Twice a week suits me fine, we do up the game at a particular time of the month though. If we went 6 months with no nookie I would be asking serious questions about our relationship! Even when I suffering with severe depression and medicated to the hilt we were still doing it at least once a month.

We're pretty much 5 or 6 times a week, sometimes more depending what stage in my cycle i'm at.

When we're having a drought its probably only 2 or 3 times a week.

Sorry, what is this "sex" thing to which you refer?

I would like to say every day but in the real world the norm would be 2 to 3 times a week and if we are having a good week then 4 to 5!!! I like my sleep so try and stay awake one he he!!!!!!!

Normal for us is 2/3 times a week. It would be great if it was more, but tiredness gets the better of me and I'm usually asleep when H gets back from work.

Before I gave birth I wanted it everyday, preferably 2 or 3 times a day. When I gave birth I had the most horrific labour getting abandoned by my midwife & I had absolutely no pain relief until I was 10cm & I also tore in about 6 different directions. OH would like it a bit more than the once or twice a week he now gets it. I would just like to feel like my baby bits don't hurt - 18 months after having my little man!

OH was having this conversation on his stag weekend. Apparently two of his mates have barely had it over the last two years. One of his other mates has had it 3 times in 7 years & on one of those occasions his wife got pregnant. These are all men in their mid 30's!

I agree, twice a week is our average - OH works funny shifts and we both play sport/gym after work so don't often go to bed together. We make the most of the weekends though... ?