I have a confession - Wedding related

I think going into a wedding day with the expectation that it's going to be the best day of your life, surely can only leave you open to a disappointment!

I had so many people tell me beforehand that no one would buy me a drink that I went and got myself a handbag and made sure I had money to buy myself a drink - as it turned out it rained all day - so much so that I felt bad asking anyone to go out to the car to get my handbag, so in the end I just asked people to buy me a drink - I didn't have many though as I was having far too much fun up dancing! I did have pretty much a whole bottle of champagne with strawberries once I got to our suite - H poured himself glass but didn't really drink it, so I had most of that too!

I didn't do the whole hostess thing where I went around everyone, I was in a big dress and easy to spot in the crowd, anyone that wanted to chat came to me!!

As it turned out it probably was one of the best days of my life! And I sometimes do feel a little guilty that there were some people I maybe didn't get to chat to as much as I maybe would have liked, but not guilty enough that I'd change it if I could go back!

I didn't enjoy my wedding day either, but it was my own fault for not putting my foot down before the day really. There were just too many people there (about 80 of them were just my H's extended family) and I kept getting pulled around from one place to another for photos. I think the worst part I remember was standing on my own at the drinks reception, looking around and not knowing anyone that was in the room and feeling like I didn't want to go up and just intrude and when I finally thought, sod this, it's my wedding, hardly was spoken to. Then of course there were the issues with H's parents, which led to him being upset and spending our last dance ranting about them. ? I am very happy with my husband, but the wedding day became completely about everyone else and I wound up with a day that was totally opposite to what I wanted. I also found that no one bought me drinks, or even offered, so I wound up just asking my mum and she went and shouted at my family for being so rude. ?

I think the best day of my life will possibly be when we are finally accepted to adopt and bring our children home.

I am not sure whether my wedding day was the best day of my life, but it was one of the best days. We got married abroad, so didn't have to worry about entertaining loads of guests etc. The honeymoon that followed, defintely had a lot of "best" days in it also.

My first wedding - I hated it. From start to finish. I even ran off at one point and had a cry because I knew I'd made such a terrible mistake. Cue divorce two and half years later.

My second wedding was the best weekend of my life. We had civil ceremony on Sat which was really small which meant we could chat to everyone properly. The blessing/main wedding on the Sun was fab (even though it rained and we were hungover from the night before) and every bit what I thought a wedding should feel like. I did have a little wobble about people thinking differently about it because it was my second time but that some disappeared when I saw how happy everyone was for us. Plus it was a day where everything was *us* - from the curry reception to the landtrain wedding transport. My only regret is not having a professional tog and the fact that I don't think I'll ever get back into my dress - I can't believe I was that skinny! Hey ho.

Our wedding was the best day of my life as I was so happy to be getting married to the love of my life, we had an amazing venue, were surrounded by all our friends & family and got som many positive comments, esp about the food, venue & relaxed atmosphere that all the months of planning were worth it.

A few niggles after the event though as my Mum spent so long saying how amazing the metal armour table centrepieces were that my H had made that she forgot to mention the hours I'd put into making all the stationery; my BIL never got a buttonhole but 2 other friends wore a buttonhole & corsage as that was the usual Scottish custom and neither H nor I ate any of our apparently gorgeous evening buffet!

On and we got round the evening drinks issue by setting up a tab for close family (us, Mums, sisters & partners) and gave them laminated cards to show at the bar. Worked really well!

I seem to be lucky - I had 2 weddings exactly as I wanted it as no one else felt they should stick their nose in unless I asked them too. And not a bridezilla moment that I'm aware of. (Official wedding was abroad, no family and friends but lots of local Zanzibarians and their mad dancing and hollering! Humanist ceremony in UK with friends/family and the full shamonty of wedding bunting...)

The official wedding was better than I could have ever imagined and I had to do nothing but turn up. For the UK blessing I spent about 9mths organising it, loved every minute of the planning and it was worth every effort I put in cos people still talk about it now, 7mths later.

I spent the entire evening dancing my tiny feet off on the dance floor, sometimes with a pint of Best in my hand, sometimes without. If folk weren't on the dance floor, then chances are they didn't get to spend much time with me - I certainly wasn't going to pay a number of hundreds of pounds for evening entertainment and then not wring every single moment of fun out of it as I saw fit! And my husband was of the same opinion. Ours guests were adult enough to manage to have a suitably excellent time without me playing 'host' and fussing round them.

I went and got a drink when I wanted one. (If you are thirsty, go get a drink!) - we did have a free bar all night tho' but that wouldn't have made any difference - get ya'sel a bar tab or whack a card behind the bar if you can't carry money about!!

So yeah, i'd say 18th and 26th Jan at the moment rate as pretty much best days so far...

Hold on a minute Ruby, who said feelings were not valid?

I may be wrong, but i think we just have different approachs and speaking for myself, i thought Zooropa's approach was odd, not invalid, and after she explained, i think you may see i have apologised for my abruptness...

blimey

Our wedding day wasnt the best day im my life either, my H was píssed from about 12 noon and by 11pm was so wasted he couldnt walk. I felt like I spent the day trying to look after him, he spent the day catching up with old friends, After our first dance we didnt speak till we went to bed. I had to carry him to bed, strip him off, unlace my own dress, by this time I was in tears. Take all the grips out of my hair and I opened a bottle of champers and opened all our wedding presents on my own. I look back and feel bitter about the day because the moeny that was spent on the wedding could of gone to somthing so much better. The next morning we had a table laid up for us for brekfast so he went and ate brekfast at that table with his best man and left me clearing out our room. NIGHTMARE!

I cant even say its when my son was born because I was so high i barely remember it

I feel sad to say although ive had many happy times i cannot think of a single day that stands out from the rest!

I had the best day of my life so far. It was great to have everyon I love in the same room to see me and H tie the knot.

As for the drink thing, I figured that was what my dad was for ?. One of the fluffiest moments of the day came when my Granda went up to my bridesmaid who he'd never met before and gave her a hug and bought her a drink because she'd taken over for me in my speech when I couldn't make a toast to my Grandma because I got so upset I couldn't say her name - him buying her a drink really brought a tear to my eye!

I did have a bridezilla strop with H at one point, he'd had so much to drink that he wasn't taking my nice hints about going to te room and I had to tell him quite sternly that if he didn't get me out of my dress then I was going to pass out (a corset had seemed like such a good idea at the start of te day ?)

When I try to think of the best day of my life, in my head it's made up of lots of moment from different parts of my life.

Wedding day, the hours I got alone with Wee Braw after he was born, the drive from Cardiff to Scotland to move in with H, breaking the county high jump record (some cah broke it again about 10 minutes later.), my mums face when we gave her her 50th birthday present, getting a positive pregnancy test, telling my dad on his birthday that he was going to be a grandad.

God there are loads. I hate the idea of just one best day ever, it dismisses so many fantastic individual moments.

x

I'd say our wedding day was the best of my life. We had a few blips on the day which annoyed me a little and sometimes looking back I wish I could change them but then something else could have went wrong as we had lots of things go unexpectedly right.

H spent a lot of time at the bar but didn't get too drunk and we both really enjoyed the day. I had been warned about not getting drinks bought for me but ended up with plenty - if not I would have asked someone but can understand how some people would find it awkward. I just wish I could it all over again ?

I enjoyed our wedding but Mr P and I often wish we had eloped (not least as it would have been a culling offence by his parents ?) and saved ourselves all the stress of it. Maybe in a few years (10 year anniversary say) we will renew our vows somewhere fab just us and our children (well it would be rude to leave them out ?).

I still think my best, and worst, days are to come though.

I'm not sure if it was the best day of my life, but it was a brilliant day. great food, great wine, our closest friends and shedloads of children running about! If I wanted a drink I marched up to my H and said "You're neglecting your wife" while waving an empty glass in his face!

My H recently asked me if our wedding day was the best day of my life, and while I had a great time I'm not sure it was the best of my entire life. There are other days that I've enjoyed as much as our wedding day (days on holiday, for example). I was mostly stressed for the first part of my wedding day, it didn't stop raining, all my in-laws were late and delayed the ceremony and I was worried about everything going the way I wanted it to. Once we were actually married, I did relax and enjoy myself.

Best day of my life so far: wedding day without a doubt. I had a an absolute blast. Not only did I get to marry a great guy (I still can't believe he's so nice, and I've known him for 12 years now. He surprises me every day), I got to spend it with people I love and whose friendships I value above all others, in beautiful surroundings, with good music, great food, and lots of alcohol.

Probably the best day I've had since then was our anniversary - just us, a massive hotel suite, a couple of spa treatments, and some great food to round it all off.

I am currently 32 weeks upduffed, so within 10 weeks I might have to get back to you on any other forthcoming highs. ?

HaloHoney - i'm sure you'll be updating your high point in life soon!?

Some interesting views here, thanks.

I hope i'm fortunate enough to have many high points in life still to come.

Wedding day was a totally fantabulous day from start to finish. Definitely one of the best.

Childbirth day was one of the worst though.

The wedding was actually the best half day of my life (so far). the few/six months leading up to it were an absolute nightmare as my control freak mother was determined that the wedding be the wedding of her dreams.

from the moment i put on the dress it was the best day of my life. from the moment i was woken up (at 6am) until dressing at around 1pm the day was really, really boring. most people thought i'd spent the morning quaffing bucks fizz and being pampered. i'd had my hair and makeup done by 10am and spent the rest of the time eating lorne sausage rolls, drinking tea and watching Flushed Away ?.

i was bought plenty drinks, but hardly had a chance to drink anything as most of the reception was spent talking to the guests (which i loved - a hundred people telling me i looked beautiful. sigh. that'll never happen again unless i subject myself to Nicky Hambleton-Jones and her surgeons) or dancing. it was fantastic.

couldn't do it again though. mum nearly culled me for not wanting canapes ?

I definately think that my wedding day was the best day of my life. I was never nervous, always just happy and excited. I was dressed up to look stunning (I felt that way even if others don't agree), I had people fussing over me, I was the centre of attention without having to really do anything. I saw nearly all of my friends and family and was able to chat to them all. I had fantastic food all day. I danced the night away whilst also chatting with friends and family. I did manage to spend time with my husband and it was lovely (we made a point of doing this after hearing that mant brides and grooms said they felt they didn't spend time together after the ceremony except to take photos).

Oh and as for the photos, I just loved having my photo taken and doing all that posing! Great fun! It was also the best day of my life as I ? married the man I love and declared my love and commitment to him in front of lots of my family and friends.

I loved every second of my wedding day but I'm not sure it could be described as the best day of my life. I don't think I could ever pick one day. My wedding day went so fast, most of it is a blur now as I was so flippin excited and spaced out for most of it ?

WFNS, really. I had two weddings days in a way - I have a very strange family so we had a quiet family only first day, then a big humanist ceremony the next day.

My first day was absolutely fantastic - I loved every second of it. It was a bit of surprise to feel like that as we'd been concentrating on the second day as 'the' day but in the event the first day was just fab.

The second day was also great but I was pretty tired by then.

I'm not sure I could pick out a 'best' day from my life, but the experience of walking into the registry office and seeing the look on H's face was just fantastic.