Inspired by showers, games at parties, why?

I wonder this too Lois, its cringeworthy!

I haven't played a party game since I was 17 and we played spin the bottle - I got to snog Shakin Stevens son ?

We have drunkenly played spoof, which is good fun. And the cork game when you burn the end and get black marks over your face, but that tends to be when there are just a few of us and we are already pretty drunk.

Games cut into valuable drinking time.

apart from drinking games, which are, of course, fine ?

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Games are for people with boring friends, who are boring themselves.

At the last party I went to, the adults were playing a game but I didn't really get it. They put car keys into the fruit bowl to choose players, which was a much more grown up way of choosing instead of eeny meeny miny mow. Then they all disappeared so maybe it was Hide and Seek.

I hate those 'come round to my house and feel obliged to buy something' parties anyway. I'm perfectly capable of buying make up and vibrators by going into a shop or looking on the internet. My friends that host these parties say 'ooh but its a good excuse for a good old girlie get together' - in which case, just invite me round to eat and drink and chat [arrgh]

aaaaaah yes <rubs hands>. a friend of mines wife took up virgin vie last year, and promptly sent dozens of invitations to her "parties". madam went to one, and felt obliged to buy something even though she thought it was all a bit shit . Several weeks later, another invitation, so she made an excuse. then another, and another, and another and another. in the end she sent the womans emails to spam, it was ridiculous, and it became all she could talk about.

Likewise with sex toys, i m not sure why women (and lets face it, its always women) have to get together and giggle before the purchase of a vibrator. just buy one, and have a party with your mates anytime, without anyone feeling pressurised to buy your tat.

Quite. It is enough that people have met mr lois

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I had a similar experience with an acquaintance selling 'Oriflame' [its better than Clarins you know. A scientist said so] - it just puts you off people. I spend all day at work turning down sales pitches, its not my idea of a fun evening.

I've never been to a tupperware/anne summers/body shop/virgin vie party, but one colleague decided to join the most god-awful party franchise thing. She was selling perfumes, but not proper ones, dodgy, odd copy ones. She had a whole folder of mini vials, with a booklet that let you know if you liked Chanel No 5 then try perfume 15, if you liked Eau D'Issey try perfume number 4 etc. But they were all so grimmity grim, she stank the entire office out with them. In what way is it appropriate to try selling dodgy, copycat perfumes in an office?

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I find things like that really cringy. I banned "toys" from my hen party and some dick (actually, what am I saying. Not some dick, MIL) turned up with a sash, a stupid garter (well I thought it was a joke as it had tons of feathers on it and a plastic devil winking. turned out she expected me to wear it on the wedding day) and other assorted crap, I seem to recall paper crowns for everyone to wear.... gah, I must stop, I can feel my blood pressure rising. stupid old bint.

Why can't you just enjoy yourself without enforced "fun" it makes me feel like I'm at the computer geeks Christmas party "oh lets all wear hats, that would be really whacky"

MIL keeps hinting at having one of theose pampered chef parties. The very thought makes me lose the will to live.

Those "line my pockets" "parties" have always struck me as a surefire way to lose friends and alienate people.

I like games (proper games, I mean, not pass the ***). I don't think playing games with your friends means you're boring.

I have never been to partys where you buy things but I've been to plenty with games. I see nothing wrong with it - it's just a bit of fun. Why judge people for wanting to have fun especially when it doesn't affect you?

i was referring to the types of balloon type games that lois previously mentioned, not proper games.

I also love games like articulate and so on with friends, but loathe these kind of enforced games at these kind of occasions. I was once dragged to an Anne Summers party where we had to do a quiz and we got points. I mean, some of my friends don't know the sort of things they were asking us to answer out loud. I think I was regarded as a bit of a party pooper when I refused to talk about my sexual partners and so on to a room of strangers.

Eh? Judging people on things that don't affect us is the very bedrock of society ?
Anyway, it DOES affect me, because say I turn at a party, and these games are occurring. Right there. Doesn't bear thinking about.

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Don't worry Lois, no one invites you to parties so you are really quite safe.

Woooo? How I do love you Lois

I know, I am entirely making up any scenario whereby I might actually be attending a party ?

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I believe the games that are played at baby showers and such are meant to be icebreakers. Maybe it's different in the UK, but here, at a baby shower especially, there may be a lot of women who know the pregnant woman from a lot of different areas of her life: friends, relatives, co-workers,etc. The theory is that everyone will relax and get to know each other as they stuff balloons up their shirts in an effort to look pregnant.Or something.

Baby showers (and wedding showers, for that matter) make me very uncomfortable. The games are the worst part of them.

I must have lived a pretty sheltered life as I don't think I've ever been forced to play games? We are rather partial to a game of articulate/SingStar/Buzz with mates after dinner - but apparently that's not what the complaint is about?

I've never been to a "pay" party so maybe this explains things.

I am actually a party games queen but I tend to restrict my enthusiasm to Younger Brother's parties, which I have to say, in my unbiased opinion, totally rock.

Ah well I think the worst we've played is pin the wart on the witch at haloween but we were rather drunk. Usually it'll be playing on the wii or killer bunnies or something like that.

I hate games, although I do like home sales parties. I went to an Ann Summers one (I didn't buy anything to shove up my chuff, just some jimjams) and literally as soon as I got there the saleswoman made me play a 'game' where she put a creme egg on my bits (fully clothed) and got some other girl to at it. It was awful - the chocolate went all over my nice clean jeans and I'd never even met the girl!

I don't like icebreakers; even when I was training I didn't really use them as they're cringeworthy and most people don't like them.

I don't like party games or drinking games - if I'm out I just want to drink and talk to people.

At my hen night I had friends from various different parts of my life who had never met before, and we managed just fine with some champagne and the soundtrack to dirty dancing ?

Exactly! There's no need to force people into proximity.

? I'd have told her to take a hike or left. There is no way I'd allow anyone to smear cream egg on my clothes so someone could simulate cunnilingus on me. How utterly vile!

It was awful! The creme egg wasn't opened, but the chocolate still melted ? I didn't know the girl that well, we worked together and I was new, and we were in her new flat so I just went along with it.

Personally I would rather gouge my eyes out with a rusty spoon than buy vile sex garments and cheap and nasty toys whilst discussing my intimate relationships with assorted friends / strangers. I find people who find this a 'giggle' weird. But thats just me ?