Invites: OM's

I didn't send save the dates and sent my invites around six months before with an RSVP of three months before. So same as you!

I suspected as much! I think its a man thing...

I didn't send save the dates and sent out my invites 3 months before.

Save the dates were sent about a year before I think, we did the whole magnet thing.

invutes were sent February time for a September wedding. I'm OCD about planning.

We just sent an e-mail STD about 8-9 months before, to day guests only. Invitations went out 2 months before, with an RSVP date 5 weeks before the wedding. We cut it pretty fine but it worked!

We're doing Save The Dates at 6 months (day guests only). Day invites at 3.5 months, evening invites at 2.5 months. We're over-inviting so hoping a few can't make it.... (Could be interesting)

We did STDs a year before (as soon as we set the date) and the invites are going out in June for a Sept wedding

Not yet an OM but our invites went out 3 months prior to the wedding with the RSVP of 2 months before (then it was Christmas so though this would lead to people getting distracted)

STDs went to some guests, mainly family or those living further away in the summer so 8 months or so prior.

I think traditionally invites went out 6 weeks before, but I guess people lead busier lives / live further afield nowadays

We did STDs a year before, for day guests only. Invitations are going out early February, RSVP date is mid-April, caterer needs menu chouices early May, wedding is late May.

Are you one of the first of your friends to get married? Maybe they're just very excited!

We didn't do save the dates and we sent out invites in May for a December 1st wedding. We sent them early mainly due to pressure from my Mum (she didn't force guests on us but in return we agreed she could have a reserve list, so she wanted to know numbers early).

It looks like your wedding is August? You may want to make sure the people you really, really want there know the date so they don't book holidays, but that's easily done with an email rather than a formal invite.

No the interesting thing is that a couple are OH's friends who are married who think we are leaving it until late!

My friends know they are invited and know roughly when the wedding is and when to expect an invite, I think men just dont communicate very well hence why nobody is sure what is going on. His fault for not inviting his friends to the FB "Save the Date"

Its early Sep but a weekday so people may need to book it off work but most of my friends have just asked me. Everybody I want there knows when, where and what time, its upto OH to sort out his friends if they want to know before the invites go out.

On the upside, we finally have a best man and a decision on the usher so progress is being made.

We know roughly what kind of suits we want so its just a matter of going to choose when we have a day off together, most probably Easter time ?

Thanks for the replies, good to know I am not being terribly disorganised, even though I kind of am because I am "allowing" my mum finish my invites for me...?

We didnt do STDs and we sent our invites at the beginning of January for a beginning of march wedding!

we just told everyone the date!

Hmm we got this very wrong. We sent STDs about a year before. Then had to change the date due to my work, so sent new STDs with Christmas cards. Then the venue got all unreasonable so we changed venue AND date yet again, and just sent invitations about 6 months in advance, by which time people had booked summer hold, kept our original date(s) free, and couldn't make the date after all.

Moral of the story: if you are going to send STDs, make sure there is no chance you are going to change date or venue!

I sent save the dates but only to day guests as soon as we had set the date, mainly because there were people overseas who we were inviting. Invites went out about 4-5 months before the wedding, again, due to people overseas, otherwise I would have done it about 3 months before.