Inviting work colleagues...

Hey,

2 be honest i would just invite my friends in the workplace, I manage a hairdressing salon and get on with all the girls coz we are all so similar but if i was in an office for example where people werent as close as we are i definetely would only invite people im friends with.

Sxx

Depends how big your team is, and if you are inviting everyone else. If there are only a small number of you, and you are invitng everyone else, I'd say you should bite the bullit and just dont talk to her on the day. If it is an office of 20 or so, and you are invinting 6 or 7, you can probably get away with it.

I had a bit of a dilemma as well as there's someone in my team who my H really doesn't like. I just invited a couple of my team and asked them to be discrete about the fact they were coming along - could that work?

And just to add that there is no way something personal like an invite to a wedding should upset team working, and if it does you've got a right to complain.

Thanks ladies, this is something I really need to sit and think about.

Enelya, I couldn't do that, OH really doesn't like the said colleague and would be quite upset if I did invite her.

Arrgggh it's so confusing. I feel like such a ***/bridezilla/cowbag for not wanting to invite her but then part of me thinks well 'stuff her, she's not important' & 'who cares if it upsets anyone else, it's our day!' x

At the end of the day, just invite the people who you want to invite.

Its your day.

I had a similar dilemma and had wanted to invite most of the people from my team but there is one person who I simply couldn't risk having there as he is despicably rude and if he'd done/said something OH's family would have murdered him. I simply didn't invite any of them I'm afraid but let the ones who I otherwise would have know the reason why. The person in question is well known for his terrible behaviour so everyone understood and since all but 2 in the team are blokes everyone else got an invite to the hen instead. Hope you come up with something, it's very hard in these situations!

I had the same dilemma too.

I Invited my person in question and she still hasn't RSVP'd with 2weeks to go so I've taken it she's not coming and invited someone else in her place who has rsvp'd. Lets hope she doesn't turn up. Could be a disaster if she did turn up! She has heard me say that it's past the deadline and tough if anybody rsvp's now as I've set the final numbers x

Hey, I know exactly how you feel, there are a couple of people I work with who I dislike and I just plain didnt invite them! No one has said anything. Not sure if something has been said behind my back or whether something will get said nearer the time but I don't care. I dont want them there so Ive not invited them. That said, I did hand out the invites v discreetly! Now my family is something completely different.....Ive got 20 odd coming that I dont like lol............

To be honest I would not invite her, I am only inviting people from work who I consider my friends outside of work. If others dont like it Im not really that bothered, I cant afford to invite everyone

Dont invite. Would you go to hers if you were invited? Im only inviting 3 from work, even though loads are asking, my work rule is

'only invite if I CHOOSE to socialise with them outside of work', other than that they are work colleegues

Luckily I don't work with anybody as I'm a self employed Nanny - But it does mean I have 4 bosses plus their husbands (8 people) plus 10 children to go with them that I am inviting. If I didn't like any, I wouldn't invite them. Well tbh I don't like one of the children but can't invite her Mum, Dad and baby brother without her! (How horrible do I sound not liking a child FGS lol!).

I really couldn't invite someone I didn't like to our wedding, knowing I'm spending money for them to sit their and have some free wine and food, but that's just me!

I just invited people from work that I socialised with outside work

what about a 1 on the noticeboard invite!? Thats what I'm doing. That way the ppl that you are really close to you can go and speak to and emphasise how much you want them to come...and the rest you can just leave.