Inviting work colleagues

I've only been at my current job a year and am only inviting one person and a guest to the evening do only.

People have mentioned a few times that it's the done thing here to invite the whole office to the evening but I've ignored them.

I only invited a selected few (tp the evening) and didnt feel bad about it either!

I'm just inviting the ones I really like and class as friends. Some though I really want to come to the whole day but our budget is limited, I'm still toying with inviting a few to the whole day though as I really feel close to some of my collegues - wouldn't give others the time of day though let alone a wedding invite :-)

I'm inviting one friend we are really close though and have been on holiday together. I am desperately trying to find a new job and hope not to be working with them soon tho! My oh wants to invite his whole team and it's huge.

I would have liked to invte the two people I work closely with to the day and everyone else to the evening (I must be going fluffy in my old age, I quite like everyone I work with). However due to the nature of my job and the two closest to me at work, we all cover for each other with holidays etc, so there'd be no-one to answer the phones if they were to come. Therefore I've invited everyone to the evening.

I'm really close to 5 girls at work, we dont work in the same office anymore but still socalise and have weekends away togther so they are down for my day time. And then I have invited just my team to the evening, I work in a office with 70 people, theres no way I could invite them all so 6 of them to the evening will have to do.

There are 6 bosses, plus about 10 staff. They're all coming to the home party. It's hard with a small number of people as there's no way we could choose some and not others. With a bigger group though, there's no problem with just inviting those you're closer to.

I'm only inviting the odd few as well. I don't feel bad about it, I get on better with some than I do others so not going to invite them for the sake of it. They probably wouldn't want to come anyway.

I'm not inviting anyone from work. None of us ever socialise outside of work, ever. Plus, our Xmas party was cancelled because no one wanted to sit down for a meal with one particular individual here. So no, I'm not bothering and I don't feel bad about it at all.

Ignoring the fact that I don't yet know what job I'll be in at time of wedding...

An ex colleague is actually a bridesmaid! I'll be inviting 2 people from my current job to the evening do, I feel close enough to them to want to invite them but won't be majorly upset if they don't come, they will have new jobs by then too.

The thing to ask yourself is will you keep in touch if one of you leaves current workplace, if the answer is yes then invite them to whatever part you want. If the answer is no then invite them if you feel you want to but don't feel bad about not inviting them or whole office.

My wedding is still 15 months away, so there's a chance I might get on amazingly well with some colleagues at the museum and invite them as evening guests. I considered inviting my tutor for my masters thesis, but decided against it.

OH is inviting one close friend from his department to the whole day, as he's served a a kind of mentor to OH. Otherwise I believe there are 4-5 guests currently listed as evening guests, though 1 is maybe going to be bumped up to day as we're day guests to his wedding this August in Ireland (yay! I've never been!).

OH doesn't particularly like his department, either, but there are a select few who are great people that I've gotten to know as well, but they're mostly evening guests.

I am doing exactly the same as you. It's weird in our dept because people get really touchy, but 2 of them who got together didn't invite me and my friend to theirs 2 years ago and invited all of the other 10 in the dept, and were really OTT horrible about it. I am inviting my good friend to the day, 2 others to evening, and just not mentioning it to anyone else. Hopefully the others will be on hol anyway. I do worry sometimes it might be awkward and think I should invite them all out of politeness, but then I just remember how awful the colleagues can be and feel resolved on my decision!

My issue with work is that even though a few of us are pretty close (therefore invited to do the whole day) I like everyone and as we work in a really sociable industry, we all go to the same parties and events and things so I would love to invite them all to the evening but my numbers just won't allow them and their plus 1s (it's out of town so I don't think I could invite them without their partners)

This for me, in my office theres 12 of us soooo...theyr all coming to the evening, i dont mine, that way no ones left out!!

Im having old work friends from my previous job to the day tho ?

Our wedding is a way off ( Sept 2013) but I'm already in a quandary about this.

At the moment for the evening I have invited my ex boss and his wife, my new boss and his wife and the team leader and his wife ( it's a very relaxed, small team).

However what I'm really stuck on is I get on really well with the entire team ( I'm the only girl to 7 guys) and get on really well with 2 new guys but if I added them to the evening list I would then be leaving 2 out, so should I just invite all 7 of them and partners which is 14 people which is a lot!

I'm not sure what to do!

Any ideas?

I'm in a team of 12 currently. I don't feel I can just invite one or two along without offending everyone else, so I'm not inviting anyone at work to any part of the day. We have a budget to stick to, so I hope they will understand. My h2b will invite a couple of close colleagues from his immediate team, but they socialise outside of work on a regular basis and have worked together for a long time, so I totally support his decision to invite them. My h2b and I don't have big families to invite, but we do have a lot of close friends, so the invite list is long enough already!

I'm planning to invite my colleagues out for lunch during the week before I start my 'wedding break' from work. Sort of a 'last lunch before I become a Mrs'/pre-wedding celebration. I hope that will help them feel included in some way. I might save them some cake, too or order some extra favours for them (I'm doing sweets).

I'd advise taking heed from what other colleagues do, if you're able to; someone in my team is getting married this year. She's on a tight budget, so not inviting work colleagues. Nobody seems to be offended (I'm certainly not!), and so I don't feel so guilty about leaving them out of my day.

I don't work but my boyfriend does and he has invited one friend and aplus one for him and he has had to invite someone else who although he likes, they don't work in the same department but I am friends with his girlfriend so they are both coming to the day. I don't think he's inviting anyone to the evening as it won't be worth it for them to fly over just for a 'party'.

There is not at all a issue with inviting only selected people .....i have also lots of friend but i will also invite only selected one ..

Most of the people I am inviting are because I want to, but I am inviting a few that I don't particularly socialise with because I don't think it would be fair to leave them out. It's all evening invites only, and it would mean the whole team was invited except two. Also, it's not as if I don't like them, I just don't know them very well...if we actually didn't get on then it would be different.

Sounds like a lot of you have/are doing the same, good to know.

Perhaps not the done thing, but I am inviting bulk of them to evening, as only those that want to be there will come.

I don't have the money to pay for all our 40 people team and even if only 10-20 turn up it will still cos me another £200-£300 i just don't have and seen as although we all cross paths and talk at lunch i am only really close and friends outside work with 2 of them so i have been brave and bit the bullet and just kept it low key and been honest and said it is only a small wedding and we can't afford to invite everyone which is all true. I haven't had a bad response as people generally seem to understand. To my face anyway but what i don't hear won't hurt me lol x

I've been at my work for 12 years, and met most of my friends at work. I moved over 500 miles when I started work. I have very little family, so most of my guests are either current work colleagues or people I used to work with at some point. But they are all people I call friends, and see on a regular basis outside of work. The OH isn't inviting anyone from work.

Inviting 1 close colleague for the whole day, and the rest of my team (6 people) to the eve I expect only 2 of the 6 will come but at least the others cant say they were not invited.

I'm not inviting anyone else from work as don't want my wedding turning into a works away day.

I'm inviting a select few to the evening only. Well, I say a few but its actually probably about 12-14 people, I'm currently agonising over whether to invite their partners with them or not. Part of me thinks yes because its "the done thing" but the other part of me thinks no because we don't really know them and its not like they won't know anybody, theres a big group of them so it will just be like a work night out- just the girls.

A girl where I work got married last year - wedding abroad then reception in the UK, same as I'm having. I wasn't invited to the reception even though I know a lot of the people who went (about 120 people where I work). I didn't really mind - I don't socialise with her and although we sometimes have to work together, I wouldn' say she's someone I get along with that well. A bloke is getting married in the summer and is being far more obvious about those he is and isn't inviting. Again, I'm not invited and not annoyed for the same reasons.

I'm inviting maybe 5 or 6 people from work, although as I said, there are about 120 of us (ambulance station) so it's not many of the total, but I don't mind and I can't see the non-invitees really caring.

We're not inviting anyone from our workplaces, mainly because by the time we're married we'll both be working in different places anyway. We do have a few old colleagues from when me and OH used to work together, but these are people who we class more as just friends now, not colleagues. I think if you've known them for a long time and talk a lot, then invite them, but I don't think you should feel obliged to invite all of them - as it does increase the cost a lot and you can't help who you get along with.

I have a big department at work (X Ray) and am only inviting the ones I socialise with to the evening do. (THats already quite a few!) Some of my colleagues are getting married before us and we ve been invited to the day, but ive said its only family and 2 best friends to the day so we can keep it reasonable, they inderstand totally, but im sure there will be a few that will be annoyed they dont get an invite, but its tough! i dont know if ill be working there for long after the wedding anyway,when we may be moving away. So the invitations might be decided on the basis, which ones will I keep in contact with?

I'm inviting one close work colleague (who I see out of work often and we've been on holiday together). Two more are invited to evening (they are a couple anyway). However, the girl in this couple keeps going on about how she hopes she's invited to the wedding, she's got a dress etc. Talk about pressure!!! Not inviting any other work colleagues as wedding is a good hour's drive from where I live. A colleague recently invited the whole of our workforce to her evening do - including plus 1s! But like someone said, you wouldn't want it to turn into a work's do.

Good advice someone said is ask yourself if you'd stay in touch with them if you moved jobs. Yes? Invite them to evening. No? Don't invite and don't fret!

There's one or two i might invite to the whole day, depending on numbers, and other than that i'm going to put an open invite up for the eveniung and just ask for names of who's coming..... I work in a hospital so we're quite a small team and some people will obviously have to work it so couldn't come, plus we're getting married 300 miles away from work so it might turn out that nobody wants to travel! OH isn't inviting anyone from his work, they're also a small team but although he gets on ok with them he doesn't really socialise with them outside of work.

I am very close friends with my boss and a couple of colleagues i have known for years. go away with for weekends and nights out. they are invited to the day. some colleagues invited to evening. In fact im so close to one of the ladys i work with she is now one of my 6 BM's!

I invited my work friend to the day, and a handful to the evening. I didn't feel bad - to have invited everyone would have added 50+ to the guest list, and quite frankly there are some colleagues I would have probably run amok with the cake knife if I had seen them at our wedding.