is it cheekie??

We have a coach to our venue and are charging everyone £10. Much cheaper than train and taxi would cost, roughly £20 each way!

People don't mind helping out with their transport.

Have you spoken to your guests about transport? Are any of them suggesting that they may be able to come due to them not having any transport?

I would be more than happy to pay to use a bus that is for the use of the getting to and from the wedding and would have no problems paying out £10 each for it.

I would ring each of the guests individually, just say that you are considering whether to hire a bus, but that they (ie, each invited guest) would be required to put in £10 each to cover the cost as you do not have the budget/funds for this extra cost. Then you will find out who is willing to do it or not. Some may want a day or 2 to think about it, but as long as they are told you need an answer by x date, then you know whether it's worth booking a bus or not ?

Its my sisters, their partners, my parents, gran parents then all my nieces and nephews. they are all moaning about how to get there and are now moaning about paying for it lol!! cant win?!

I think they should be lucky you're trying to help.. Remind them that you could just let them find their own way.

Im getting grief for even suggesting they pay so im not gonna bother now. im in a strop! they can find their own way up.

We are putting on a minibus to take people from the hotel we designated to the church and then to reception and then back to the hotel - we will be asking the people who use it to put some money towards it. I don't think just because you are having a wedding you have to pick up the tab on EVERYTHING it is just not feasible!

I don't think it's cheeky at all, your guests will have to make they're own way anyway-you're just making it easier for them. Maybe in a couple of days they'll realise and come back to you about it. I certainly wouldn't be complaining if I was asked to pay towards a bus to get me to reception venue, I'd be pleased it was something I didn't have to think about on the day.

Not cheeky at all. I would be grateful that someone had sorted the transport for me.

I dont think its cheeky at all- im planning on doing the same.

I dont think you are being cheeky at all! I made the mistake of asking the question if people would consder paying towards their meal for the wedding (and before I get jumped on... it was only put speaking without thinking but i very much one of those 'don't ask don't get' people) Anyway. I quickly got shot down by my family (sisters-in-laws), and although I do understand their points there is big part of me that begrudges paying £3000 to feed people!!!! At the end of the day though stuff like that is normally included in a wedding, but transport is definately not something that should fall to you. I think you've made a very generous offer and it is a shame that your family can't see that despite having all the wedding planning to think about you have also considered their needs and looked into organising a bus for them.

My suggestion would be that you give them two options.... you let them know who they can hire a bus with/ cost etc, give them the phone number and say - 'here you go, if you are interested this will make life easier and save you money.' or you just accept that they will all make their own way by whatever means... their choice!

I hope the situation resolves with as little stress for you as possible!X

Thanks for the replies. im hoping that in a day or two peoples come to their senses. either that its tough tatties and they can find their own way and back home!!

I don't think it's cheeky - you are technically saving them money and time?

I might do something simular on our wedding website, say it will work out cheaper to have a big bus and ask them to register interest.

@ Josie - Can I ask does their £10 each cover the cost of the bus in total?

It sounds fair enough to me.

Maybe just decorate the bus a little? Ribbon etc. Just to sweeten things a little and for them to feel that you have hired a bus and not just put them on the local green line!

I think they will warm to the idea of using a coach - the party can start earlier to the venue and continue on the way back - and you have a captive party crowd (which might put some people off!)

I don't think your being cheeky... you've done your best now you have to leave it up to them... believe me I've learnt this myself with something very similar for my wedding ?