Joint Hen/Stag dos? Hen night ideas?

No real ideas there but you do realise you don't actually have to have one?

I'm not having a stag night because I can't be bothered with all the fuss, and to be honest I'm a bit old for all that partying malarkey anyway now.

Don't feel presured if you aren't actually worried about having one, it's not an essential part of wedding planning and you are perfectly able to be legally married without having one, but so often people just end up being pushed into something expensive and/or embarrassing that really wasn't their kind of thing but their friends thought it was a good idea at the time despite your best attempts to tell them otherwise.

What are people's excuses for dropping out? Already got something on that day, can't afford it, can't get childcare, too far, etc?

Hey

I know I don;t have to have one... I wasn't THAT fussed but it would be nice I suppose. Am trying to think of ideas where me and my pal can treat ourselves rather than a hen night/do as such now.

People said they were coming then dropped out stating too much uni work (then proceeded to organise a birthday night out 2 wks before the hen night for herself so clearly not that snowed in with work despite saying she couldn't live with herself if she missed it), other has a christening to day after which she has known about since day 1 yet only yesterday said she can't go (to Blackpool) as it wasnt fair on whoever was driving her (they were goin to travel together ) to drive back early the day after- she can drive herself so if it was that much of an issue she could have drove herself although I am sure none of us wish to hang around with hangovers much past the time when we are out of the b&b. other people said yes yes yes and now are umming and ahhing and I was going to book the b&b this weekend and wait for them to follow but am not prepared to lose £25 if no one else bothers!

Grr!! rant over x

No reason the two of you can't go and have a spa weekend somewhere and get pampered though is there? If nobody else is bothered then that's their loss, not yours.

It's often said that a wedding brings out the worst in many people, and you truly do find out who your real friends are, and who you can trust.

The first thing I was going to say when I read your post was spa weekend. Lastminute.com quite often has some awsome £10pp for a weekend deals on. The you will have loads of extra money to spend on treatments/going out after a hard day relaxing.

I was in exactly the same boat a few weeks ago when most of my 'friends' bailed on me so now there is just my 2 adult bridesmaids and another brilliant friend so I have decided to go to Alton Towers - got a deal for a few hrs in the spa, a meal and cocktail when we arrive, access to the bars and bed and breakfast then a VIP ticket to the theme park the next day....maybe not a traditional hen do where I dress up and get hammered whilst completing dares but TBH this is more me....I LOVE Alton Towers!! So do something you want to do, I did consider a spa weekend, I know someone else has suggested this, might be nice and relaxing. Hope that helps!! ?

The initial plan so far is for us to each have our separate hen/ stag do's, and then a local hag do as well, where we all go out together.

The idea is that my hen will be a soberish thing (methinks thats wishful thinking haha), a weekend with spa and nice girly activities (thinking a ladies day at the races at the moment, although loving the Alton Towers idea - Might have to nab that ?). And then save the drinking for the hag. Should work quite well, as OH has some girl friends that I don't know well enough to invite them on the hen so they'll get to celebrate too. Plus the hag will just be a night out in Brighton so is local to everyone, not committed to paying any money other than what they want to drink, and that way people who can't make the weekend do's won't be missing out!

You could always do something with the 2 of you, and then have a larger joint as well?

Pinch away ma dear!!! I wasn't sure about the Alton Towers idea at first as it isn't a typical hen do but now I can't wait!!! Go in 2 weeks, yeay!! ?

I would have gone to AT had my mate been able to get a weekday off, deffo go for it! x

We are going at a weekend which will make it a lot more popular and busy but I am a teacher so can't book holidays so I am stuck with a weekend - ah well I will have fun anyway!!! ?

I did consider Disneyland Paris for a hen weekend at first so Alton Towers would be awesome! Just maybe do something the 2 of you have always wanted to do. Eg, see a certain show, touristy attraction, etc! Or somewhere that means alot to the two of you!

If Ohs stag do isn't really getting anywhere, then have a had do! It'd be great!!