Last minute cancellations..

My 'friend' did something similar to this to me! She told me the morning of the wedding that she couldn't get a lift, so we organised for her to go with the BMs, then she said that her child and OH were ill.

Turns out her OH was actuallu hungover and they spent the day at the beach! Tw@ts.

It's such a sh**ty thing to do. They could have at least been clever enough not to plaster their pictures of the barbecue all over facebook!

Twunts

My one did this too and wondered why I went ballistic at her.

You're absolutely right - a small card would go a long way! OH's god-father (and uncle) cancelled on us 2 days before the wedding - literally quick 20 sec call to OH saying he couldn't make it cos he was working. Fine, work can get in the way but he got a year's notice to book it off and had previously complained that he never received the invitation.... Out of 140 invites, his is the only one that goes missing?! ya ya... bullpoo is right! No card or nothing from him since!

We had STACKS of evening guests not come, and no one rsvp'd properly, early on, bar a couple. I got FB messages the day before/on the day - lazy, ignorant folk. I didn't care a toss. My focus was totally on the ceremony/day guests.

I can't be arsed with the flaky/rude ones now though and didn't acknowledge any of the hasty apologies received late in the day!!

The best no show bullpoo story was my cousin's wedding: Her best male friend just didn't turn up (no previous message) and when later challenged about it said it was because he was annoyed she'd not invited him with a +1 - even though he was single and was going to be seated at a table with a bunch of their other girl mates - one of which would have had to have been his +1 anyway!

Just checked our guest list (evening guests - we had 100% on the day guests)

2 invites declined due to distance

8 invites declined due to work/family holiday/other wedding

5 invites declined late (prior 24/48 hours)

4 didn't respond at all and I haven't heard from them

Some of those were single folk so we're looking at approx 30 people, and we over-invited to that sort of scale. And all the important ones were there (I didn't mingle in the evening as much as I intended, it was the part I was least looking forward to, so I *owned* the dance floor half the night instead!)

I'd be so, so annoyed if anyone didn't show after RSVPing yes. We were last minute no shows to an evening do last year, which was entirely my OHs fault and I was so cross with him. The couple were friends of his and I didn't know them but I still felt guilty and embarrassed.

My brother got married in May and about a week before the wedding my aunty texts my mum "slipping" into the conversation that her son (17) would no longer be attending as he "wouldn't enjoy it" this is after RSVPing they would come months before hand. My mum let her feelings be known and he came in the end.. left before the evening do though.

I would of left a sickly sweet comment saying along the lines of 'hope you had a wonderful day, i did too at my wedding'

My auntie text my dad this morning, 4 days before the wedding, to say they will attend the church, have some food then theyre leaving because my uncles son (but not my aunties and my auntie is the direct relative) has bought him some tickets to go somewhere on Sunday. Could they have not stayed until 9pm and put a little effort in? They live 10 minutes away from the venue so it's not like they're leaving at 6pm and getting home at 9pm! She also said his son and grandson wanted to stay over at theirs on the Saturday night too. And? If he has a child i'm sure his son can sit at the house until 9:10pm to see his dad nevermind the fact he will see him all day Sunday! xxx

That's terrible WW!

That's two people who you know aren't worth your time! Sad to see how common this is!

Yes, clearly not "friends" and not people worth bothering about....

I will be soooo annoyed if anyone does this to me! I would definitely voice my opinion! Fair enough sometimes you cant make it to things but dont say yes and then change your mind really last minute. Dont think people understand you have to pay per head at most weddings.

I went to a wedding last year and for the wedding breakfast we were on a table of 10 but there were 3 empty seats. Dont no who they were meant to be but felt really awkward.

It's funny, you sometimes know that the excuses are lies, but to then post photos online for you to see!

We have had some RSVP yes to the evening do and I know full well they will not come, most of them are OH's single friends. I think a night out in the town with half dressed women will probably be more enjoyable for them haha, I don't mind all that much as it's only night time.

A bit off topic with the original post but I got an RSVP from my COUSIN the other day saying she won't be coming as she won't anyone...at a family wedding!!!!

So rude, some people just cant be bothered making the effort. Not a nice thing to do, could easily say from the start if you've no intentions to attend and if there's a genuine mistake they can at least send a card or gift. Just ignorance and they aren't worth your time x

Words fail me sometimes. Why would you RSVP yes and then leave a rubbish excuse?!? I get genuine last minute excuses but can't believe how many people don't know how to be polite any more.

I have a feeling two or more of my day guests (a couple are family members!) which are supposedly coming will cancel last minute or not show up. If that is the case then they are obviously not worth my time and it would be a shame for the money to go to waste on people who are undeserving when it could go to others who are!

We had 3 day guests not turn up. One couple let us know about a week before, but he is a special constable in the police and got drafted in to work at Glastonbury festival at the last minute! He still came to the church without his girlfriend and then went to work after. One guy just didn't show up. No phone call, text message or anything. It wasn't until a couple of days later when my OH messaged him just to check that everything was ok and he hadn't turned up that he told us that he had been let down by his babysitter. I totally understand that he wouldn't want to leave his child with just anyone, but a text at least would have been nice!

At the end of the day, it had no effect on our day whatsoever though. And I still had my perfect wedding!

I've had baby sitters let me down with a few hours notice and to be honest, if I had been looking forward to a night out I would probably attend an alternative function such as a bbq where I could take the children. I guess the difference is, I would already be organised with the card and present and get it to the B&G either before or as soon after as I could.