Lots of good luck threads!

I don't recognise half those names.... ?

Me neither

I know, but we were worried about missing anyone out ☹️ ...they will drop back a few pages in a few days.

With regards to the seperate forum, I think it was discussed before, but people felt that they would forget to look at it - and so people wouldn't have very many posts on their threads.

Yes it has been discussed before but I think it's a good idea. Sometimes they are started almost a month before the wedding date. Surely it would be easier to comment/find if it was in your face every time you logged in, , , , , ❤️, , , , , PLEEEEASE, , , ,

Re missing people out, this happens a lot I'm sure - I got missed out, but tbh I didn't really expect one as I don't think I was/am 'well known' here despite being on quite a bit (I don't post a lot really).

I too would prefer a separate board as I don't know a lot of the names that keep cropping up and at least if there was someone I wanted to wish good luck to I would know where to go to do so.

A x

I agree that a sub forum would be best, I just know that it was previously decided it would be a bad idea.

I like the good luck thread, and I try to post on (and start if necessary) all of them, even if I don't know the person. It's nicer if I know them and can personalise the message, but either way I would hate for someone not to have one. I look forward to the day that I have mine, I'm going to read it in the morning over breakfast to get me all excited!

The sub forum would be good as then they're not in peoples way, but until the mods decide otherwise I reckon it's just a case of ignoring them once you've posted to it ?

I don't understand that at all Annie. Its not a popularity contest at all, just a thread where people can say their good luck wishes to the bride. It is a Hitched tradition that has been going on since I joined. Would you be upset if you didn't get one?

I personally like the good luck threads and think that it is nice for a Bride/Groom to get one irrespective of how long they have been a member.I know that I would like to see one for me in 6 months time. I always contribute to them, whether I 'know' them well enough or not. Obviously if I know them, then the message that I write is more personal to the hitcher. I do think that it would be better having the threads in a separate sub heading, where everyone would know where to go to see/write on them. That way they wouldnt get lost amongst all of the other posts and threads on the board.

I agree a seperate area for Good luck threads and reports would be a good idea and I would make a point of looking to post and read the reports.

I try and post on as many Good luck threads as I can and the majority I don't know, but the nature of this forum is people get married and move on so we have to keep this lovely tradition going, most people I have gotten to know probably won't be around anymore when my time comes. I know I look forward to reading mine if I get one) ?. I don't see how wishing somebody luck can be a popularity contest.

WSS. I agree that it's nice to wish people luck, but I find it quite offputting to come into the WP forum and just see a page of good luck threads - do I make up something to post in all of them, or trawl through them to find other threads I want to contribute to?

I did have one, but at the time I was less active on the forum than I am now, so although dion very kindly started it about a month before the wedding, it had totally disappeared by the time I was actually "allowed" to look at it, and apart from one or two messages was fairly impersonal.

It is a lovely thing to do, but it does take over the forum.

Ooops I must have missed the rule where you have to post on everyones good luck thread! Silly me,there was me wishing well people I knew. Anniepie ad it troubles you so much I would suggest ignoring any further gl threads you may see. Don't want you getting stressed do we?!

I know that some folk on here form strong friendships that move on from behind the security of our PC screens but surely it's just good manners to wish a fellow hitcher good luck on their big day, , ,

This.

I just posted on a good luck thread (or 3!) for the first time. None of these hitchers I "know" but I do recognise the names, just felt quite nice to be passing on best wishes. Doesn't hurt to say a quick "good luck and enjoy your day!", does it? I hope I am remembered enough to have one ?

I don't get what the issue is?! It's been ages since we have had a load of good luck threads because people forget to do them, if there was a sub forum then they would be forgotten about even more. So what if the 1st page is full of GL threads? Just sign them and go onto the 2nd page. Simples.

WSS - Out of all the December GL threads, there's only 3/4 names that I don't recognise but I wouldn't presume that just because I don't know some particular people that no-one else does. I like the GL threads and would like to see them stay on the main forum. I think they would get missed in a sub forum as people said before when the subject came up last time. I try and post on every one that pops up. To me, it's a sort of 'send off' from us all to mark the time that they've been with us. There are a lot of hitchers who don't post a lot but they do lurk a lot. Other than a few customers of mine on here, I've never met any hitchers in real life so don't 'know' anyone as such at all but that doesn't stop me wanting to wish a Bride good luck on her wedding day! It's the same as someone who serves you in a shop and says 'Have a lovely Christmas' that I don't know or saying 'Morning' to people you pass on a Sunday morning walk you don't know - it's just one of life's pleasantries (sp?) No-one should feel obliged to do it if they feel they don't really want to but there are lots of people who do like to send on their good luck messages and this is evident from the number of people who post on them.

I do agree to a certain extent that a month ahead is probably a bit too soon under normal circumstances but Christmas is a bit different in that the forum quietens down a lot in the weeks up to Christmas so it gives people chance to pass on their good luck wishes in good time for the Christmas weddings.

I'm sure there are lots of threads from time to time that stick on the first page that people find annoying but it's easy enough to skip them or just flick onto page 2 as Pinky6 says!

I'm not aware of that rule.

So, you wouldnt be bothered about not having one then?

I don't see a problem with them being on the main board either. I do think it's a bit strange that some members look at the 'next to be married' (or whatever you call it!) thread and then post loads of GL threads for those people. Some of which have signed up for one day and then not bothered to come back again! That clogs up the board unnecessarily.

Are we really debating something as nice as good luck threads?

There are no hard and fast rules, they *tend* to be started by someone who *knows* them, or a date twin... I don't see the problem.

I don't understand starting threads for everyone who appears on the next 700 weddings list, half of those registered have never posted.

You get out what you put in.

That's the one.

Exactly.

I think people tend to start threads by looking at the 2011 Bride List and whoever has their names on there.

I have to admit that i was excited to see my good luck thread! and I'm off to sign everyone elses!

I think it's a really nice send off to brides who we've got to chat to and help with their planning.

This too has people who came and left...

Absolutely. But I can't see how else it would be done. Not everyone has tickers so we can't see on there.

I'd like to think I'm on here enough for someone to start a GL thread for me but does that mean that someone who isn't on here as often, for whatever reason, should be forgotten about?

Annie I would hate to see how you cope in life if you get stressed out about the thought of posting or not posting on GL thread on hitched!

I think it is a lovely touch, why do you have to "know" the person to wish them well, define "know" arent we all one big happy hitched family! Supporting each other.

I use this to kick them off. Sometimes I don't recognise names, but that doesn't mean that they don't ever post - and I would hate to miss someone out. I know that it can be a bit of a nuisance when the whole first page is full of them, but they soon drop off to later pages over a few days. If it were a choice between accidentally starting one for someone who no longer posts, or missing out someone who does, then I would always choose the first option.

This is a nice thought.

I've only been on here since 2004, not long enough to get a GL thread it seems...

Bitter, moi??

Tell a lie, the ladies on BT did me one!

When I first started on Hitched I always posted on them and wished luck to teh happy couple. However, I'd been MIA for a while and only really been Hitching again over the past 6 months. So I've not posted on any yet as I'd only post on someone I really knew. But that is my personal preference.

I think it's a nice thing. We are part of a virtual community and if my friend from home was getting married I'd send a card.....so this is the same thing I think.

Good Luck threads have been here since I started in 2004, it has never been a problem before.

They always used to be started by different people who had usually had some kind of friendship with the member getting married. I have been MIA for a while so haven't posted on any lately but always try to and will be posting on all the ones posted over the last few days.

I think it is a nice send off as Brenda says as 85% of the 700 list have contributed some way over their time here.

If we put them in a separate sub section the front page will just be littered with other things so the first page posts will be even further down the page, it's a no win situation.

WSS

When i saw mine, it brought a smile to my face and OH asked what i was smiling about so had to explain what it was all about. his response was "awe, thats lovely"!!

i too think it is a lovely gesture and near enough sign them when they pop up.

I did this too! and my OH was like "Oh! What does it say" and i was like "I'm not allowed to read it until i'm signing off" to which he responded "Signing off? What?"

So i had to explain all the Hitched lingo to him so that he knew what i was on about.

I did some searching earlier for some people who have their names down on the 2011 list and had GL started about them recently and some haven't commented in months. Now that's not to say they aren't lurking around but surely if they haven't bothered to make a comment in 6 or so months they they wouldn't be bothered if they got a GL thread or not. FYI I'm not saying they shouldn't have one, but I can sort of understand what other people have been saying that sometimes it's a bit of a waste.