my MIL2b's flower Update! now with final Update!

Let her get on with it hun, and try not to get stressed over it ? Seems a bit petty on her part tbh! I think weddings tend to bring our the pettiness/negativity in some people sadly x

I know what you mean. I had thought of that the other day as well. The thing is that I am having a wee gold wire fancy thing done on my bouquet which is also being done on the mothers flowers as well. I just dont want people to look at the flowers and think that I didnt give his mother as nice a flower as I gave my own.

She seems to have no idea about weddings and the Do's and Don'ts. Shes driving me a wee bit mad!

I'm sorry she's being a pain in the bum hun but if i were you i would have put my foot down and said if she didn't want the same flower has my mum then she wouldn't be having a flower at all.

I'm only saying this because i have a similar situation with H2B's daughter's grandmother, it's a long story but the jist is daughter wants a tiara, i've said no because nobody else is having one so the grandmother has said she'll buy her one, even if she does she's not wearing it, lol!!

I don't think people realise how much time and effort we brides put into making sure everything is matching and co-ordinated and how much simpiler our lives would be if they just done as their told, ?

xx

exactly! I told the OH that i put hours of time into picking the flowers.

I've told him to tell his mum to take her bag into MY florist and not "her friend the florist in the town" and that donna will decide if her either of the 2 colours of rose I have chosen, will suit her bag and outfit.

If it's just her bag she's worried about then i don't see what the problem is, she's not going to be holding it all day and i shouldn't imagine she'd have it in the photgraphs anyway. And if you're going for cream roses surely they'd go with anything anyway?

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Exactly what I thought and what my florist said to me!! She went to "her friend the florist in the town" and he said that a cream flower would not match her outfit and bag. I said we have two colours of flower but she aint listenen to me! I am digging my heels in at this point and my mums on side with me. Although I have to saw my mum is slightly calmer than me with it. Iv said now that if Donna, my florist, says that neither of the colours of rose I have picked match the outfit, then I am giving her a small swatch of the BM material and she MUST get something that will match it.

I nearly did the "ITS MY WEDDING!!!"" but i held it in!

Well I just got my Mum on the case as she's going to have a look at clothes for her MOB outfit, this week when she's in Glasgow for my sisters presentation at uni. Well Mum gave OH's mum a wee phone call and asked her what her outfit was like so mum would be sure they didnt turn up in the same colour. Also Mum brought up the flower subject and she told mum that she is to bring her outfit into her own florist with her bag and they were going to do it. Mum had said that I was having the flowers designed and so on but she was sooo nice to mum about it all and how that she's organised it all now that mum just gave up. Mum said that I'm going to have to drop it and just let her do her own thing. Looks like im saving a few quid then by having 1 less buttonhole to buy. I'm going to ask her to make my mum's extra special tho.

Suppose you win some, you lose some. I have decided that I'm telling her no more tho.

Suppose you win some, you lose some.

Thats very true!! I think its true for all wedding arrangements - few pass without something like this.....

Awww. How frustrating.

I especially know what you mean when you say your worried other people will think you've put preference on your mum rather than his. But I'm sure other people won't notice much. Shame she didn't realise the effort you was going through for her!

Guess it is best to just keep the peace xx

With my evil hat on I'm inclined to say make sure your mum's flower is completely splendiferously gorgeous and makes hers look a bit naff by comparison. If anyone says anything just shrug and say you'd organised one for MIL2B but she didn't want it.

With my sensible hat on I'd say please don't stress yourself about it. If it's just a flower that will sit on her bag I doubt very many people will notice and while I know it's frustrating in the run up to the wedding not to have things go as you planned, you're not going to look back at your wedding photos and say "lord isn't that flower horrible, it totally ruined my day"

I hate it when things like that happen!

Yes, you're definately wise to just let her get on with it. She sounds really selfish and petty, so just rise above it and on the day, she'll notice that her flower doesn't match at all and she'll regret having made such a fuss about it.

Lou x x x

WSS.

Also is it because she's OH's mum and not getting enough attention as the wedding involves mostly the bride and her side of the family that she's trying to get some of the limelight?

But let her get on with it. She clearly wants to do it herself regardless of what anyone is saying to her.

thanx girls!!! you are all fab!!! shes really oldfashioned and she prob thinks im going for some modern thing she wont like. aw well. Im over it...almost!