My Wedding SIte

All the 'I's look like 'J's. I kept having to re-read to make sense (although admittedly, being married to a Jay, I might be over-aware of seeing 'J' as a valid abbreviation).

Also, um, the gift page. 'Pay online'? 'Pay'??? This could be worded far more politely.

'Accommodation' has two 'm's.

But it's cute. Aren't you an illustrator? Perhaps some more personal touches from you would be nice, differentiate it from other wedding sites?

I really like this as a way of pulling lots of useful info together, I really like the style and it's a really nice photo you've got on the front page :-)

Agree with what ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown says about the Is looking like Js, though otherwise I do like the font. Also agree with maybe rewording the option for people to gift money online. I've seen people use little poems in wedding invites when they're asking for cash which softens the request a bit. There are a few other things I'd personally reword slightly differently too to make it flow a bit better/make it easier to read but then again I work in PR and get very picky about words so I won't go overboard on that (though happy to make some suggestions if you're interested).

Aye, well it was mostly posted for layout and info. I'm obviously going to be jazzing it up and editing any mistakes and whatnot. I made it in about 10 minutes.

And don't worry, 'pay online' will be reworded to say 'Send Your Gift Now!'

I personally think the whole 'gift list' section needs rewording as it sounds rather rude and ungrateful. For what it's worth, I didn't receive a single toaster or tea towel as a gift for our wedding. It just seems really impersonal to send you £50 via paypal as a wedding present.

As I say, it'll all be reworded after I tweak a few design elements. And Like I mentioned before, I posted this mostly to see if I had forgotten any elements or important info.

(Oh and the tea towels and sandwich toaster part is an in joke for our family, that that is staying.)

I think it's lovely - very personal and sweet. Or maybe that's wistfulness cos my H2B created ours and it's very functional and factual! ? It literally just has the wedding details and the rsvp!

Agree.

And just to tread a little further into the thorny issue of money....

When you put together various parts of the information given about you guys being out of work for some time and the blatant "We don't want gifts, please give us money" (which I really hope you will "tweak"), it all seems a little like you're asking guests to pay for your wedding.

I'm not making any judgement on whether that's a good/bad/neutral thing to do so don't feel the need to defend that point, just be aware that that's how it looks.

I think it's cute. I like the photos of you both, especially the one of you washing up. Your conditions sound painful ☹️ and I'm sure you will give him a perfect wedding.

Very curious to see how it looks because I did a Steampunk shoot once so would be interested what touches you will be adding.

I will only be inviting close family and friends and some of the issues and wording in other parts are part of some in jokes that most people won't get. Also, the issue about money and being out of work is common knowledge with us all and they aren't that sensitive to think ill of such wording. My family and extended family are, thankfully, down to earth and not touchy. So, they won't take that in any way other than what it is, so I wouldn't worry. I can see how it would look to outsiders. The other point about the money is I have Chinese heritage, so it's a tradition to have money and not gifts. I guess it does look odd for people viewing it from a traditional English point of view. Haha.

Just saw the website.

butterly grange s beautiful but out of our price range

I'm not sure I would want to publish my "dream guest list" 3 years before the wedding, when in all likelihood it will change at least a little, plus some of the +1s may well also change.

I'd agree with this however if you do want to keep it I would maybe reword the way it is written? I assume some of those are married or in long term relationships? Some may get a bit offended by being so blatantly labelled as plus ones?

Wow ?you are super organised, I first thought the wedding is not for another 3 years so I wouldn't be too organised as you will have nothing to do for the last 2 years although my wedding is in 8 months and I still can't decide on certain things so I guess it doesn't matter how long you have, decisions still have to be made. The website is obviously for family and friends so I can see why it has personal jokes.

Even though you have had a little trouble with the cake if someone recommends another person then it is nice they are still trying to help you.

All in all a very nice website, you's look like a lovely couple and Good Luck!

Ah, no no. It's not what you think... Some of the guests have passed on and it was more or less remembering them. Also, some are overseas who will not be able to make it. It was just my thoughts. Hence why it's in my blog and not part of the main site.

Hiya

Firstly, I just wanted to say that you look like a lovely couple and it seems as though you have been trough a lot together already. I love the photos on your site, it makes it seem so much more personal. There are a few spelling, punctuation and grammatical errors in your typing (who doesn't) but as you've mentioned you are re-doing this all anyway so that doesn't matter.

The one thing that I must comment on, and I know everyone else has too, is how you've worded about your gifts:

"You can give a gift either online now, or on the day in envelopes. (We will provide a mail box for that purpose.) You can give as much, or as little as you want. It's the thought that counts!"

I agree that most people if noe everyone attending your wedding will want to give you a list, but this does sound as though you presume that they are giving you something. I would read it as you can give it me now or later I don't mind... comes acros quite rude. Have you thought of asking for vouchers instead for John Lewis, Debenhams, B&Q, Thomas Cook? At least then your guests will know what the money is going towards. Or if it's to pay for the wedding, perhaps you could word that somehow too?

The only other thing which slightly confused me is the pool party? Are all your guests aware of what exactly this is? If not, you could perhaps expand this point.

Is the picture of the dress that you have posted, actually a picture of your dress? I'm not sure I would want my guests seeing my dress and cake for that matter before the wedding. It gives away the element of suprise.

So if everyone is fully conversant with the traditional giving of money within your culture....

....why do you need to ask for it?

Otherwise I'd have a blank page.

Plus, I'm covering my back just in case any +1s appear and aren't aware of it or the folks forget to tell them.

About the layout... is there a reason you've got "blog" and "rsvp online" as the main links and then everything else under "more"? If you can only have two main links on the header section then I'd suggest the wedding details and RSVP page are most important, but it would be much better if you could just have a full list of pages either at the top or down the side.

The site template, unfortunately, squishes all the darn options like that. I'm actually considering using a different theme so that the menu is less mashed up. May try that now...

It's still very visible to anyone who browses the site, especially with the top bar links set as they currently are (so the blog is one of the first things you come to). I also agree with the people who've pointed out that if Auntie X has been married to Uncle Y for 30 years, she might be a little unimpressed as being referred to as a +1.

Ehh, maybe I will. Thanks for the comment. I just went with it since it's usually something that people tend to mention. (I've actually been to wedding before though as a +1 and been expected to bring a separate gift, so... Meh. Is that normal?)

Oh, also, I changed the layout and design for a more fitting look/feel. And things in my blog would not be in there if I wasn't OK with people seeing them. My family are not sensitive and fussy like that, so seeing '+1' is not going to mean squat to them. Also, I'm not the type to care about people seeing the dress design I sketched up. It's just a dress to me. Haha.