New and need help!

Well firstly hello and welcome to Hitched ?

I do think it is a bit insensitive of your step mum to be wearing an almost identical outfit, you're not twins!! I would speak to her and tell her that you feel she should wear something else, giving her time to take back her outfit and getting something else.

Good luck, and let us know how you get on

Hello and sorry you are in a sticky situation. If it was me i would have to say something. I dont think she is being very fair by wearing similar colours, etc to your wedding.

Hi, congratulations and welcome! Hmmmmmm, tricky! Could someone you are both close to have a discreet word with her? You don't say how well you get on with your Step mum yourself? Perhaps if it was pointed out to her quietly that she will end up looking a bit silly and as if she's deliberately trying to upstage you she will change her outfit - she has plenty of time to do that if you're not getting married till July. If she still insists on wearing that outfit despite other people knowing that she knows your colour scheme you are probably best off keeping a dignified silence and letting others come to their own conclusions.

Good luck x

For a start I wouldn't say we are close, her and my dad are married but have only actually been together for about 2 years so I don't know her too well. She has a family of her own and that seems to now be my dad's family, so I don't see either of them very much and if I do she always has her family round as well or brings the grandchildren along when they do occasionally visit us.

Anyway thats a bit off topic. I rang her today and very calmy (very not like me) asked why she had chosen the red/ivory theme and red shoes after I told and showed her what I was wearing. Her very simple responce was that she always wears red and I know that. End of conversation. I guess thats just the way it is then.

I spoke to a few other family members and they agree that she will just make a show of herself and not to worry so thats what I'm going to try and focus on. My friend (a seamstress) has very kindly offered to make me a one off amazing bag to match my dress, as I'm not having flowers and she has assured me it's between me and her so nobody else will see it until the day.

Thank you for all your replies, at least I know I'm not just being a bridezilla! I hope you all have or have had fantastic days and look forward to chatting with you in the future.

Donna