OM's - your wedding disasters...

One of my BM's spilt bright red chorizo all down her "nude" coloured dress. It was fine in the end, the caterer had some magic spray that they put on it, rinsed it with water, dried it with a hairdrier and it came up like new.

One of H's uncles fainted in the heat. He wasn't feeling particularly well and had to go back to his hotel. He saw the ceremony, which is the most important part, and was fine later that day.

We had a power cut at about 11pm, as the party was really going strong, the electricity in rural Ibiza is fairly unreliable! It was actually really cool, nobody batted an eyelid, we all just carried on dancing in the dark with glow sticks!

My car turned up before my mum's did. H's parents were faffing about taking photos at the house, and since the car was doing a double run they kept the car late in getting to my mum.

When me n dad arrived at the church all the guests were still standing outside and I had to drive round the block til the ushers got them inside!

The photographer kept us late for dinner.

The waiting staff were bloody rude!

I was supposed to have a "private bathroom/chill out area" with a key so i could lock away all our gifts and cards - no such room existed. We ended up using a member of staffs locker to keep our cards in and the "private loo" was stinking!

Our cake completely fell apart - alhtough we got money back for this!

Apart from the cake mostly little things. None of it bothered me that much on the day and it certainly didn't ruin our wedding

Nothing major really

* Build up to the wedding I found out the vicar that had been at my church for 19 years and who I’d built up a relationship with (I do attend church at least once a month) was retiring and he wasn’t being replaced, the rumour was the church was closing down!!! Never found out until 3 months before who was actually doing the wedding and if it was actually at my church… all worked out fine.

*BM hair band broke on the morning, but she managed to talk a nice cobbler around you using some extra strong super glue to keep together, he was possibly a little frightened as my BM refused to leave his shop until he did, ha.

*Grandparents never made it due to illness, but we visited them straight after church, my Grandma died exactly 2 months after my wedding, I’d like to think she hung on to see me in my dress, all the photos and hear about my amazing honeymoon [:'(]

*After hunting for garden games and OH making a giant jenga we forgot to put them out for the guests, we had a marquee on the hottest sunniest weekend of the year, whoopsie!

*The disco never turned up and I only realised an hour into the evening reception, (we also had a band) contacted them in floods of tears, the company didn’t have a clue where the DJ was as they had set off hours before, turned out they had been in car accident!!! The owner didn’t no until I had contacted him to say there was no show, so left his family meal packed the car and came to my rescue…. What a star ️⭐️

This is a good thread!

* My mum and BM's struggled to get me into my dress properly (they couldn't find the internal bra part, and so I felt loose). I kept saying it must be there and my mum told me i was imagining it! which annoyed me. It was definately there!

* I asked my mum to spray more hairspray in my haor before we left to go to the ceremony...she picked up a can of MOUSSE instead....luckily i managed to jump back before it landed on my dress.

* my 3 year flower girl was given a drink of lemonade by her mum just before we left for the ceremony and she spilled it all down her dress then fell off her seat and into the puddle....

* My hold up stockings kept falling down lol

* I didn't know this at the time so didn't affect me...apparantly our photographers FIL (my H's uncle) was wondering around touting my photographers business and telling guests they could purchase prints (I don;t think my photographer was even aware this was happening) My H wasn't very happy when he found out.

*My brother was videoing our day and his camcorder died just before the first dance...but another relative caught it on camcorder so he is going to edit it into the video so should be ok...haven't seen any video yet so looking forward to that!!!

*My BM's dress burst...she got really upset and then really drunk....

*I wanted each couple to get a order of service...and gave our uahers instructions to ensure that this happened..However I neer mentioned this to the WP and she took over and just handed them out randomly so some couples never got any and some couples got one each...

* One of our Ushers pulled out last minute as he was summond to court as a witness, so we had to ask my BM's boyfriend to step in however he was in a suit and all other wedding party men were in kilts...

Think thats about it....but really in the end I would still say the day was perfect and wouldn't change any of it...

Oh my God...I am not married yet, but these stories in fact do leave a feeling of doubt for me...I hope you don't regret getting married?! ?

May I also suggest instant stain remover wipes? M & S do them and they were a godsend when someone dribbled red wine on my dress. Just dip in water and wipe. Awesome.

Don't be ridiculous, things like this happening on the wedding day shouldn't make you regret getting married. If they do, you aren't getting married for the right reason!

I think the moral of this thread as JoJo said in the OP is that whatever minor things that have happened on the day haven't ruined the wedding at all. If you end up married to the man/woman you love that's all that matters. I sincerely hope no one is going to regret getting married because their dress broke or their cake wasn't quite right.

Seriously...don't be so silly! It wasnt the end of the world, there is no such thing as perfect in any walk of life!!!

What?! of course i don't regret getting married. It was the best day ever, despite all of the things that happened.

This happened to me too! by 9pm I was desperate for something to eat and then just to send everyone home so I could go to bed! I'd been awake since 5.45 and was knackered. After my dad and my aunt managed to get me sat down and get some food in me I recovered then and made it through till 1 am surprisingly.

I actually find this thread quite reassuring. It shows that all the little things people obsess about before the big day and all the things you think would be THE WORST THING EVER if they happened on the day actually don't really matter at all, and definitely won't ruin the day if they do happen.

I think you've missed the point of this thread somewhat.

These stories are making you doubt your wedding?! Why?

I think everyone is trying to show that despite these things happening they still had a lovely day and enjoyed themselves. There is so much pressure to have a perfect wedding day when really there is no such thing!!

? just a smidge ?

These stories have made me smile loads and actually stopped me worrying thanks ladies x

WSS - i would never regret marrying my H no matter what silly things happened. I would have married him in a bin bag, in mud, in the rain.......

Yep me to, I had a wedding dream last night (I blame this thread!) and the ceromony went well in it but everything else went wrong, I actually woke up thinking oh well, if that happens least we got married. For this I thank all you ladies and this thread.

I arrived at the church as quite a few guests were still arriving, I was stood at the top door while they all filed in the middle one - they all waved, it was funny!

The photographer (close friend) lost the list of formal shots I gave him. It didnt matter, we got some and I actually prefer all the other relaxed shots he got more.

The music for the meal was all on our ipod to play through the venues sound system, it wouldnt work, we had a rod stewart album on repeat for 3 hours!

People (family) complained the band was too loud - they probably were but we loved it!

My friends fiance was so drunk he took a pop at my now husband, and had to be carried outside.

Another of my friends got so smashed they phoned the paramedic.

We still had a fab day, and we got married!

My mam made and iced my wedding cake and sent it with my uncle to the venue. He got stuck on the M5 for 6 hours on one of the hottest days of the year. Luckily my mam had made spare buttercream and the venue was able to salvage it.

On the day one uncle wasn't able to come and another uncle brought his partner to the full day (she previously wasn't able to come) so the table plan and place settings weren't right. I didn't even notice until I was looking at the photos as my mam had deliberately not told me! Good mother.

I got the heel of my Jimmy Choos caught between paving slabs and my dress ripped on a rose bush. Didn't care about either!

This actually just made me laugh very loudly at my desk, I am now getting strange looks from everyone around me!

My Dad being too ill to come to our wedding which was heartbreaking, he passed away a few months afterwards.

All the rest was just 'stuff' and didn't matter.

1) Our make up artsit was meant to come with an assitant - she didnt and left after 2 hours, luckily she managed to get all 4 of us made up in that time!

2) My dad forgot his car keys and the car was already parked the night before at the hotel we were staying at, meant him and mum ended up going off at end of night in a cab to pick them up and missed last dance

3) Dad also forgot to wear his cufflinks that were personalised for the day, oh and his glasses..silly boy

These werent disasters, the day was still amazing, i still married the man I love to pieces and all my friends and family were around me...everything else was just details!

Don't be silly. That's the whole point of the thread - to say "it doesn't matter" to all the people wittering on about matching colours and perfect decor etc.

I've thought of some more, this time related to our UK do:

SIL who was portioning up the cake told me that the middle layer wasn't properly cooked. I didn't care, just told her not to cut that one and people could eat the rest. Got full refund from the bakery.

We had the hall from 2pm the day before to set up. We needed to test things like the equipment to video link to the best man's speech (he couldn't make it to the reception) and the looped wedding video we wanted to run in one of the rooms. However, there was a power cut to the hall and it didn't come back on until 9pm by which time we were knackered. Parents were ironing bunting at my house, and we did the rest the next morning.

I had wanted log circles to stand my flower jugs on. Couldnt' find a supplier. Didn't care.

I wanted teal napkins to match other stuff. Ebay only had a "Caribbean turquoise". Fine, that had to do! Also the bows we decorated my campervan with were a different shade of teal from the ribbons. So what?!

By 9pm on the reception day I was hot, tired, overeaten and wanted to go home. H solved the problem by commandeering a lift back to our house to pick up a sundress for me to change into. I had wanted to stay in my dress, but practicality and comfort had to take over before I fainted. Some late arrivers never saw my dress.

I spent money on some irregular choice shoes for the reception (as per my username, I wore nothing for the actual wedding). I wore them for about 3hrs before deciding that my blingy sparkly hen do sandals were better for both walking and dancing despite the higher heels, so changed. Sold the IC shoes though

Oh and... (this is actually funny not disastrous)...

We had made sure that all people attending the reception either had a taxi booked to get home, had a lift in a car with a sober driver, or were staying nearby. Perfect, until most people had left, we were chatting to the hall owners, and suddenly realised we had made no provision for US to get home! Ooops! Ran outside and my Dad was just getting in his car, so begged for a lift (he lives about 30 miles in one direction from the hall, we live about 5 miles in the opposite direction). Thanks Dad!!

Brilliant thread folks!

I didn't really have any disaster, just a few things that didn't go exactly to plan

* The day before the wedding one of my bridesmaids told me she wasn't going to get ready with me and the other bridesmaids because she didn't want her boyfriend left alone (he a grown man for goodness sake!). This annoyed me when she told me as we had discussed getting ready together at our hair trial. On the day, I didn't actually notice she wasn't there and just meant we had more space to change etc.

*We brought way too much food. We were catering the evening buffet ourselves and might have got carried away - people didn't eat much at all and the table got a little messy. If anyone is doing something similar I would suggest they hire one or two people to go around, clearing away plates and empty bottles and keep the buffet table tidy. I have to admit throughout the evening I was going back and forth to the buffet table to make things look nicer and binning empty plates.

* A few people didn't book taxi's and there were none available when the party finished! This meant my husband (as a non drinker) offered to take a few of our friends back to their hotel and then he also drove my mum and brother home. At the time I was tired and grumpy and just wanted to get back to the apartment we had rented, but as I sat in the car as we drove some of my family home I realised this was one of the reasons I married my husband, because he is kind, think of others and helps without complaining (unlike me when I make sure you know I've done you a favour).

All in all I had a great day, the only thing I would change is we didn't get a group photo of all the wedding guests. Even though our photographer had a list of photos so much was happening we were never organised into one big group for a quick phot, but we have photos of everyone in different groups so it's not that bad really!

I didn't really have any big disasters, but the few problems I had were as follows (mostly in the run up)

• 3 day before the wedding the cake lady phoned to say 2 tiers were lumpy so she would add lots of icing butterflies to cover the lumps (I didn't order a butterfly cake) so I cried and an hour later she said she would remake the tiers (minus lumps!)

• 4 days before the wedding (the day before we were due to collect flowers and make all our church flowers) the store I ordered them from called to ask me to go and choose from the yellow, pink and orange flowers they had (I ordered ivory/white). Of course I cried, they insisted they never allow people to order only one colour, a point which annoyed me as when I paid they were more than happy to put my colour choice on the order. I ended up getting ivory ones from them (but tiny heads so more bunches) and they gave me a good discount.

• As for on the day, the only minor hiccup was my dress. I put in on in my bedroom, walked downstairs through the kitchen to the garden to show everyone and have photos. Outside I noticed I had managed to get a rather dark brown stain on the back of my dress, on the end of the train. Everyone gasped and flapped, I couldn't have cared less. I was getting married, that was all that mattered.

Sorry, not sure why it has come out in bold, it doesn't look bold when I edit/type

Hmm if anyone has read my wedding report they will know these already, I don't think of them as disastrous right now as none of them did matter much, but some of them really could have made things go spectacularly wrong!

*me and OH slept the night before apart but in the morning the exact moment I dared to check the weather OH was walking up our path with balloons to tie outside our drive. Luckily we aren't too superstitious (and I wasn't bothered about him seeing me anyway, it was his idea to sleep apart.)

*mum for some reason even she doesn't know ignored her sat nav and went hairing off in the opposite direction to the wedding venue, and we were trapped over the other side of Manchester very briefly. Luckily it only set us back about 15 mins max but it freaked her out for the entire morning and she never did calm down.

*venue co-ordinator was actually busy with appointments the entire morning with other brides to be instead of helping me set up. Biatch.

*favours still hadn't arrived so had to last minute buy some

*half our guests went down with a virus and OHs gran was in hospital with it up until a few days before the wedding

*venue's light fitting broke in the ceremony room and delayed us because the venue were still fixing it at 2pm - when we were due to be getting married

*bridesman was late because his partner decided to drink a bottle of Bacardi during the morning before the ceremony which didn't quite settle very well on his stomach

*grounds were muddy and soggy due to bad weather for weeks before and during formals somebody left a messive muddy footprint on my train, and a nice red wine stain too.

The biggie.... *caterer had forgotten about OH's and several of our guests nut allergies and served an 'extra' sandwich on nut bread and a nut-based dessert for our afternoon tea. Both items were at first denied as having nuts in, but then finally admitted they had. They had touched everything else on the plates. Luckily we managed to warn the allergic guests in time. Groom and guests very hungry by evening buffet but no effects thankfully.

And we all lived happily ever after and nobody cared!

Great post.... Like therapy!!

The worst disaster was having 6adult and 1 child not turn up and noticing when you arrive at the church!! Don't start to count up the cost on the day!!

Forgetting veil, tiara, lippy to hair dressers - mum went back and fetched

No one meet us at venue when we arrived -more pi##ing than a disaster

Chair sashes were incorrect but no one noticed except me

Forgetting to do my something blue thought OH speech made up for that ??

Dad spilling a bottle of red wine and splashes over my dress - white wine really does work!!!

Band being told to stop in the middle of the last song as they are too loud

DJ saying 'this is something I like to do at the end of a wedding' and singing Mirah Carey badly at us.. Bloody hate Mirah!!! Lucky OH got her to play another track

Music being stopped at 11.50 when we were told the music was to 12.30 when booking

Other things whilst I'm getting it of my chest:

Venue lied at every point.. Beautiful place but liars from start!!

The printers put our inserts in upside down so needed to be reprinted.

Whooza it's the first time I've said any of the above and it feels good ? though it didnt ruin our day.. Nothing could have

Felt like every thing.... They were really poor... The problem was we booked when they were refurbishing so we got quite a good deal but we took a risk and the owner basically felt like she was loosing money on us and were treated like crap... I wasn't even allowed to leave my car there over night as I hadn't paid for it... It's a bloody public car park grrr

My OH got lost on the way to the registry office, which meant that our ceremony started 20 minutes late! Our registrar was great about it though and opened the ceremony by thanking my OH for joining us and there were little jokes about his lateness throughout the day which helped to keep the day nice and light hearted. TBH I'm not sure if the day would have been as good had he turned up on time!