O/T Feel so depressed today and it's making me exhausted!

Oh Moonpiiiiiiiiiiiiiiie don't feel blue! Have you been to the doctor to get a blood test to see if anything needs tweaking to give you some more energy? Unexplained weight gain plus fatigue and feeling depressed and low can all be signs of hypothyroidism (underactive thyroid...where your body doesn't produce enough thyroxin). This can be easily regulated and balance restored, though. You should maybe go to the GP and get a medical perspective - at least to rule out any hormonal imbalances

Ah hun dont worry about your hair, you have plenty of time for your wedding.. Its not nice to be feeling how your feeling, do you think you should maybe go and have a check up at the doctors if you have put weight on for no reason? You may have something underlying that is making you feel tired too?

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment. Sounds like a lot of things coming at once is a bit overwhelming. This might sound facile but it really works for me when am feeling down. Write down the negative things that are upsetting you (like you have done on this post already) and rate how much you believe them on a percentage. You might find that you are thinking more negative than when you look at the objectively is really realistic. If not, write another list of more positive thoughts about these things as well as what is positive thoughts you have at the moment that make you feel good. Maybe then if you revist the first list you might realise that you have overestimated some of your negative thouhts.

As I said it sounds a bit silly but getting things down on paper and looking at them more objectively can work for me - not everyone though.

Also - what can you do to make yourself feel better. Maybe treat yourself to a long bath with candles and a glass of wine. I hope you feel better soon x x x

the answer is simple: STRESS and depression. A few years ago I was having a lot of stress at work and a horrible boss, and was in an unhappy marriage, and although I am diabetic and eat healthily, I put on 3 stone!!!! At that time I was stressed, depressed to the point of suicidal and I got told that whilst somepeople lose weight like mad when stressed, others actually put weight on. All to do with how stress affects certain hormones etc...

You have plenty of time until your wedding, I have to lose tons of weight and only have 6 months left but I know i'll do it. Be positive and trust in yourself! Nothing is impossible, it just takes longer! Try to force yourself to see people, force yourself to smile - it's true what they say, the forced smile turns into a real one. It was hard for me to do that at the time, but I did and i got over that horroble time in my life...

Hugs and chin up! xxx

Another vote for thyroid problem - my Mum had this with the same symptoms...Get thee to the doctors!

Definitely get to the docs. If you are eating healthy and exercising then it's not your fault you're putting on weight and there is going to be something behind it. Stress/depresion definitely makes me put on weight. Only trouble is that makes me more stressed and unhappy and thats a very vicious circle. As a side note I am assuming there is no chance you are pregnant as your symptoms match that as well. But VikingPrincess is right. To feel like doing things first you have to pretend to feel like doing them and gradually you will.

Aw I'm sorry you're feeling so down. Some good advice from everyone else, and agree that a trip to the docs is definitely in order.

But I also think its very important for you to really have a heart to heart with your OH and really explain how you are feeling about everything. You might find it easier to cope once he can offer you real emotional support, and if he understands how you're really feeling then he will be in a better position to be able to do this.

Really hope you start to feel better soon.

Hope you feel better soon... I am similar at the moment and the docs said it was stress and have been signed off work for a week... but that was more as i kept getting ill which was stress related. Stress does funny things to you!

Hope its all sorted soon, and a year is a long time for your hair and you can always get extensions if need be

xxx