OT'ers on MD

The OT bit?

I'm confused?

What do you mean?

Yep I'm over there. Nope it doesn't do my head in. I only don't post if I'm busy or having a down day because of the crappy hand we have been dealt fertility wise.

I try and post in MD OT now again too, even though I don't know many (any) people there and the conversations are often family related which I don't have as such. I still try and muck in.

I'm on MD I think they are a lovely bunch and always make me feel welcome.

Lots of varied people and opinions and not judgemental just helpful.

Are you talking about the BT bit? I suppose it can be a bit 'much' if you're not in the same zone. I love OT there though, they are a lovely bunch. I like it here too very much.

[Totally lighthearted] with your user name I'd have thought you'd have fitted it nicely ??

Are you talking about the BT bit? I suppose it can be a bit 'much' if you're not in the same zone. I love OT there though, they are a lovely bunch. I like it here too very much.

[Totally lighthearted] with your user name I'd have thought you'd have fitted it nicely ??

I'm on MD. I post a little on OT but its quite often quiet so I don't check every day. I post on BT as well. I was on the TTC threads but since my BFP I've been a bit lost.

I've only been on BT there, not the other bits?

Think I've just been around the block a bit too long maybe, lol.

I've been on the tri thread since getting mine but don't really go on the others except for reassurance etc. I try not to look too much because more often than not i just get freaked out and focus on negatives instead of positives. Maybe after my first scan ill be ok.

What do you mean by 'does your head in'? I think they're a bloody amazing bunch of women.

What have you had to bite your tongue about?

I think it's completely different to WP. Wanky posts about Orders of Services or guests matching your colour scheme are not important, posts about your baby (however insignificant or obvious it may seem to you) are. IMO.

Interested to hear why you need to bite your tongue. The point of a forum is to share lots of different views. I know if I ask a question, here or there, I'm grateful for a range of responses, even 'unpopular' ones.

This. I think this thread is pretty damn rude TBH. If you feel so strongly about something, post it over there.

How odd that on the one night I think I might have a check back on hitched and on the OT ladies I occasionally had a wee eye on when we were as one, there is a weird post like this. I am guessing you don't actually mean OTers but BTers as actually we are not baby/child focused in our chat at all on OT. Granted it can be slow as we are posting on a separate forum from what once was all on BT however I came back to hitched for a nosey with a weird solidarity type feeling. And then I saw this post.

Would LOVE to know what you are biting your tongue at.

I find it a bit off that you are posting here moaning about MD. Surely you know many people cross post regularly? And that many of our regulars have new babies or are pregnant?

As we are having a shitty time I don't post there very much at the moment, but I'm confused as to how you could possibly compare it to WP. If the post content over there is annoying and a bit 'much', then god knows how to label your username.

MD is nothing like netmums or mumsnet etc .....thankfully . No bitchyness about breastfeeding or solids age etc etc . Just a lovely bunch of ladies supporting each other in great times and also in bad and tragic times . I am past the baby stage in my life ( my kids are 17,15 and almost 5) but I still enjoy trying to help anyone and can see what a supportive bunch of people post.

I don't post there yet as I'm not 'quite' at the TTC stage but I will once I am.

And, obviously, I don't procrastinate at work enough. I clearly need another forum.

I started a post the other day with a list of questions that were pretty insignificant to most but were things I had been thinking about and didn't know the answers too and had loads of really helpful responses. You often see the same things crop up but I agree that it's nothing like WP as each persons situation differs slightly but there's only one way you can ask what money poem to put in your invites. I've found it more and more helpful the further along I get and know how useful it will be once he's arrived.

Hmm. I haven't posted over here for a while (holds wrist out for slapping) but thought I'd pop over this morning and was drawn to this post!

If you've been round the block so long, why not use your experience to help and advise those of us who haven't? Instead of moaning on here.

Hi all, it was a quick rant last night and probably fuelled by my looking at other stuff online as well.

I am lucky to have a healthy, happy little boy who is doing well. I forget we all have our own way of beng parents and some are natural worriers/overprotective/insecure etc, which, to be fair are people who tend to annoy me IRL too. I'm very against some things and very pro others. And as I say, we are all different. I guess some of my strong against things are not the same as some people, hence me tending not to bite my tongue/not post (don't get me stated on dummies.... Lol)

I can see MD can be very supportive and I guess almost educational in what can happen that wasn't according to plan, or ttc can be a long, complicated journey. If we always thought falling pregnant, raising kids etc was easy and straightforward like it is on tv, it wouldn't be an accurate portrayal of life.

We ate always learning, but at the end of the day, a bit of common sense and a good bond with your baby will mean you will do what's right for you're family 99% of the time.

hope that all makes sense?

I still don't understand why you feel the need to bite your tongue or what over?

I guess you'll be using another baby forum throughout your pregnancy then?

Well I started a post a few weeks ago about dummies so would love to hear why you felt you had to hold back? People have different opinions, that's precisely what makes me post there as I know I won't get the 'your baby, your way' drivel that most other baby forums are full of.

Kochanski it's just your normal email address that you registered hitched with ie *********@*****.**.** etc.

I don't post on MD as I'm not a parent and I'm not TTC yet. However when the time comes, I won't have a scooby about anything regarding parenting. MD is the first place I would go for advice from people that have done it all before, even if it's just for a bit of reassurance. What might seem like common sense to you won't always be obvious to another. Why not use your parenting experience to help others that are new to it all?

I go over and lurk on MD and post occasionally. I think they are a lovely bunch and a fantastic supportive community. I really dont see how you can compare wedding planning tediousness to asking questions about raising a human baby to be honest?! Weird post IMO. They dont strike me as fluffy or overprotective at all and are straight down the line with advice, much as we are here. I doubt your little uses of "DD, DH" etc would be well tolerated over there Mummy ? maybe you are the more fluffy one after all! ?

I use MD a lot, and find it very informative and supportive. On the whole I trust the advice given (nobody has ever suggested sticking baby rice in a bottle at 6 weeks, unlike other forums!) and I'm not made to feel like a total tit if I ask a stupid question, which I'm sure I do from time to time. Parenting is still fairly new to me, and whilst there are others who have had a far tougher ride, we did have some problems so for us the first few months were very hard and I was really grateful for the support. If you were lucky enough to come home from hospital and escaped the "halp, it's a teeny baby, what do I do with it and how do I keep it alive?" panic that I felt on day one then good for you, but you may be in the minority, and having a forum for support out there who can reassure you that you're not doing anything wrong when your baby feeds constantly/doesn't feed at all/ cries non stop is invaluable.

I read this post last night, and bit my tongue, as I'm generally not confrontational. But it really annoyed me, MD is a spinoff from Hitched, so there are lots of cross posters, and bitching about a forum somewhere so likely to be read by those you're bitching about is likely to get backs up. I just don't get why you would.

I have to agree this has come across a bit bitchy. I post on OT and MD, and I don't know what I would do without somewhere to ask those 'stupid' questions about whether the cramps I was getting at 6 weeks were normal or not, when to tell my work etc. I have noone else to ask!

Funny enough, I haven't been pregnant before, therefore I don't have a clue what to expect, so some of my questions might seem like they could be answered with common sense, I know this, but if I thought people were 'biting their tongue' over some of the things I ask I would be mortified.

Due to the fact that so many people on OT also post on MD you may well have offended the majority with this post.

I think recent events have shown that the OT and MD communities are effing amazing people and I am proud to be a part of both.

I haven't been over here for ages and popped back after someone posted about this thread on MD. Just wanted to say to you OT ladies- thank you for sticking up for us MD BTers! You really are a lovely lot.

To the OP- what an unnecessary thread. A large number of BTers are currently going through some really really rough times and I'd like to think that as a community, MD offer lots of support and advice during these dark times. I think MD users are absolutely fantastic people no matter how they have chosen to raise their children and find comments like yours really unfair and thoughtless.

What an odd post, considering lots of oters use md Bt and md ot, you haven't even been clear about what's annoyed you or what you have had to bite your tongue over. Maybe if md Bt doesn't suit your parenting style then try out some other forums, I was registered with a few before I settled with hitched. Like you say we are all different, I reckon you have opened a can of worms though re saying that as long as you have common sense and a bond with your baby you will be fine, well a) some people struggle to bond (perfectly normal!) and b)everyone does have common sense but when you have family telling you to do one thing, mws/hvs and guidelines saying something else and friends saying something else, it makes total sense to ask a group of women likely in the same situation as you their opinions.

after all that's gone on on md the past few weeks where our members have needed support I find your post quite rude tbh!

Certainly the wrong time to be posting your "annoyance" at the Mumdrum forum pet. Maybe you shouldnt use it if we do your head in so much. I find the users extremely helpful and supportive.

I'm sorry but wtf?! You don't like MD? Then why waste your time reading or posting on MD?!

What an ignoramus you are...

And no - you have not made yourself any clearer in your second post as to what exactly your problem is.

I think your post is unnecessary and rather catty. You are implying that you are better than others which is incredibly big headed.

Ive been going through quite a tough time at the moment and I find MD a great support to get me through this. Your post actually p1sses me off!